shouldaknownbetta Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 Four months ago I reconnected with my first love, out of the blue. We ran into each other, were both single and before you know it we're on our first date and delving into bliss. Over time, that bliss starting breaking up into pieces bit by bit...and here's why. I knew he had some physical problems and was taking an "occasional" pain pill. Besides this, he "sipped" a six pack every day. But, he got up and when to work every day. I overlooked the pills and the beer. Plus, the sex was fantastic . We were talking about getting married in the future. Everything seemed too good to be true. I was head over heels for this guy back in high school and those feelings were reawakening. I was on cloud nine. He got a new job working for a company that required him to be away for a month. We talked on the phone every day, texted, he seemed very happy and did not have access to beer or anything else (to my knowledge). I could not wait for him to come home! When he did, our first night was magical. We made plans to go out for dinner the following night. Dinner never happened. When he was supposed to be home for our date, he was home alright, parked in my driveway sleeping in his truck. Over the next few days he was very nonemotional, almost like a wall was put up between us. I was freaked out because he was obviously on something and I was worried out of my mind that he would get in a wreck or get hurt, etc. I called him alot just making sure he was ok. Immediately he became hostile, accusing me of being a nag, up his ass, etc. This is the treatment I got all weekend. I told him to get his stuff and leave. He took his time packing, and broke down and cried. Of course, I felt bad and begged him to stay. After all, he deserved a second chance right? Yesterday, he was supposed to go back to his new job for two weeks. He almost didn't make it. He said he was quitting and to hell with it. I told him again to leave. This time I meant it. He asked if this was what I really wanted and did this mean we could see other people...I told him to get his stuff immediately and get out. He came in while I was sleeping and took most of his things. I got a text this morning asking me not to throw his stuff away. I feel relieved, and free. But I also feel sad, used, and lonely.
Irishlove Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 You didn't cause it, you can't control it and you can't cure it. I married an addict so let me save you years of pain and heartache.....walk away. It's not your job to be his savior. It will ONLY tear you down and screw up your life. Addiction grabs anyone thats around it. You can not make someone get help either. I'd suggest getting on an al-anon board. Find a man that doesn't have an addiction of any sort.
GreenPolicy Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 You didn't cause it, you can't control it and you can't cure it. I married an addict so let me save you years of pain and heartache.....walk away. It's not your job to be his savior. It will ONLY tear you down and screw up your life. Addiction grabs anyone thats around it. You can not make someone get help either. I'd suggest getting on an al-anon board. Find a man that doesn't have an addiction of any sort. These are wise words OP. My dad is an alcoholic and I wouldn't wish what he's put my mom through on anybody. You have been spared infinitely more pain down the road. It sucks now but be grateful you got out of this before you became further intertwined in each other's lives.
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