alethean Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 I'm just wondering because I'm going on my third date ever tomorrow with a guy I met online (which makes it even more awkward...).
BiscuitXOXO Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 Basic conversation-making 101, class 1: topics college kids talk about. What year are you? (freshman, soph, jr, sr, etc.) Where are you from? What's your major? What are your summer plans? Do you have any tests soon? Which? (finals coming up! ) Do/did you live in a dorm? Which? Why did you come to this school? What's your favorite thing about this school? What's your favorite activity outside of school? What organizations are you in? ...I can go on and on and on. If you need more just hit me up. And don't just fire questions; respond to his answers, and if you can't think of anything, answer your own questions and share some funny story about yourself. And most important, just relax, be yourself, and have fun.
Author alethean Posted May 5, 2011 Author Posted May 5, 2011 What if I already asked most of these questions? Do I start talking about the weather or something?
Lilmisus Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 "Did you hear that??" - when you didn't hear anything at all. See what he says.. But what I do if things get awkward, I just try to think up a recent, funny, memory and just start talking to them about it. Anything really. Say, "Yeah, I was taking my dog for a walk, and he started chasing all the geese that were walking near us. Scared them to death, but scared him more when they started chasing us! Hey..do you have any pets? And oh, it reminds me of this other story..." You catch my drift. Bounce stories off one another, keep questions going. Or look at something nearby, and start talking about it. A sign on the wall maybe, or talk about where you guys are at. Or ask him about any siblings. How does he like the school y'all go to? What was his favorite class this past semester? How did he do on his finals? What classes is he taking next semester? Is he planning on graduating early, with his class, or late? Summer plans?
Author alethean Posted May 5, 2011 Author Posted May 5, 2011 "Did you hear that??" - when you didn't hear anything at all. See what he says... Lmao. I'm going to try that one. Thanks you guys. Your advice is really helpful. Just curious, what are some things not to say?
musemaj11 Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 On a first date, its best to think as if you had known the other person for a long time.
BiscuitXOXO Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 No no no! Never weather, never boring observations like..."The paint on the wall is peeling..." Talk about him AND yourself. Be interested in him. More suggestions? So how did your test go? Wanna study together sometime? Where's your favorite place to study? Do you have a favorite place on campus? Oh take me there! Let me show you my favorite place (for me personally, there's a pond in the middle of my campus ...I also really like the comic book section of the library plenty to talk about there...) Do you have a favorite restaurant? We should eat there next week! What's on your bucket list? Skydiving? Ziplining? Going to Paris? Talking about dreams and passions and hopes and fears is always bonding This may lead to religion and deep stuff; keep an open mind, but don't be afraid to support and defend your own beliefs!...oh wait this is a first date. Nvm... Where's your family from? What's your favorite food? Favorite music? What's the craziest thing you did as a kid? Listen and laugh to his stories, then tell some funny ones yourself (funny, not weird. Not about eating your own poop as a kid or anything gross. ...unless he's into that kinda of stuff :lmao:) Do you play any video games? TV shows? Party a lot? Don't force conversation. Be genuinely interested (or appear to be...look into his eyes and lean forward and nod and smile). And smile not only with your mouth with your eyes and eyebrows! There WILL be a few awkward pauses...just look down, then back into his eyes shyly and smile, guys love that...don't worry if you blush, guys find that cute... But if you "mess up," don't worry. If there is "chemistry," all will go well no matter what you do. If there isn't, then no matter what you say/do, it won't exist. Plus, he'll be nervous too. JUST HAVE FUN!
BiscuitXOXO Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 What are some things not to say? Use common sense. If you won't say it to your parents, don't say it. If you aren't sure whether to say it or not, don't say it. "I just farted." "I need to take a number two, be right back." Then disappear for 20 minutes :lmao::lmao: "My xbf was soooo annoying, he did A, B, and C and never did X, Y, and Z..." "Let's get married!" "I have bedbugs...but they're getting exterminated next week!"
Lilmisus Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 Lmao. I'm going to try that one. Thanks you guys. Your advice is really helpful. Just curious, what are some things not to say? Don't bring up exes, unless they somehow fit in with a story or what y'all are talking about. My ex did that, horrible move, big red flag, especially if you care to call them "psycho." Don't: - Talk about something that is extremely confusing. Say, some scientific equation that you finally managed to solve. - Mention anything that can bring the mood down. Recent death in the family, how your best friend hasn't called you in a week. How this is the first (well..third) date you've had in over 10 years. - Talk about horror stories from your past. Like..how you were bullied for five years straight. Unless of course, you can smile about it now and say how you've become a better person from it. - Bring up politics. - Or fight about religious views. It's perfectly okay to mention them, as long as you keep an open mind of what they'll say. - Talk about how much you loathe someone. - Or how much you absolutely love Justin Bieber. - Insult him. - Bring up something incredibly boring "So, the clouds look cool today. Nice and fluffy..just how I like them.." - Mention anything (too) sexual. I love that's what she said jokes..but, it's only the third date..so unless you know he's into that sort of humor, save it for a few more dates. - Be too sarcastic. - Mention disgusting things. - Say how you asked for advice on here, and how you'd probably post about him once you got home Mainly. Don't be rude, boring, judgmental, disgusting, or hateful. Anything else is good, really!
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