fgc123 Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 Well I was out with my girlfriend and stated talking and I asked her if there was something she needed to tell me about. She told me that a couple of days ago when we had a fight she was lonely and her friend since she's known since middle school invited her to go out for a drink with some other girl he is trying to get with. A little history. This guy was always the bad boy type and she always liked him. Well one day (before she met me) they got drunk and had sex. After that happened she wanted something more and he didn't he just wanted to have sex and it was ****ing her up so they didn't do anything after that. Well couple of days ago they were out at a bar and they got drunk and as that guy is with that girl he's trying to get with he says that "I care about you and don't want you to get hurt, what not" and he went in and gave her a kiss on the lips. She told me she participated with 1 kiss "in the heat of the moment" and then she realized what a mistake she just made and pushed him away. Should I be worried? Why'd she wait a couple of days? When I asked her the first time she did tell me everything up front. At least I think so. Thoughts and opinion please.
chuckles11 Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 (edited) How long have you known about this guy? You have multiple things you need to worry about here. You should be worried that your girlfriend hangs out with a guy that she had sex with before. Also, you should be even more worried that the reason that they never had a relationship was because he wasn't willing to commit to her. What would happen if he changed his tune? Now, you should be strongly considering ending this relationship. I've always felt that some people put themselves in positions where "mistakes" are likely to happen so that they have an excuse for their actions. If she really believes she made a mistake, she should avoid this guy in the future so that she won't be tempted to make any more mistakes. If you ever get an inkling that she is still hanging out with this guy, you should break up with her. Edit: BTW OP, How great is it that your girlfriend's reaction to getting in a fight with you is to go and get drunk with a guy she used to have sex with and had strong feelings for? Edited May 5, 2011 by chuckles11
Author fgc123 Posted May 5, 2011 Author Posted May 5, 2011 How long have you known about this guy? You have multiple things you need to worry about here. You should be worried that your girlfriend hangs out with a guy that she had sex with before. Since I met her. They have been next door neighbors since middle school. , you should be even more worried that the reason that they never had a relationship was because he wasn't willing to commit to her. What would happen if he changed his tune? I know. She's told me that now that guy is an ass hole and he always tells her about the women he cheats and how stupid they are so I buy it when she would never get with him. , you should be strongly considering ending this relationship. I've always felt that some people put themselves in positions where "mistakes" are likely to happen so that they have an excuse for their actions. If she really believes she made a mistake, she should avoid this guy in the future so that she won't be tempted to make any more mistakes. If you ever get an inkling that she is still hanging out with this guy, you should break up with her. I had concerns about another of her guy friends and she completely gave him up, to the point where she could show me her phone and call history to prove it. I told her I'm not going to ask her to give him up. But I told her I don't ever wan't her getting drunk with the guy again. She completely agreed and called the guy and told her everything.
BiscuitXOXO Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 (edited) Since I met her. They have been next door neighbors since middle school. I know. She's told me that now that guy is an ass hole and he always tells her about the women he cheats and how stupid they are so I buy it when she would never get with him. Maybe your gf is being honest with herself. But, in most girl's subconscious, they wish to be Taylor Swift in her music video to You Belong With Me. ....:love::love: No matter how much of a jerk she says he is, 1) she's had sex w/him b4, and 2) she RAN TO HIM and got DRUNK w/him when her relationship w/you had a problem. Whether she wants to or not, she subconsciously wishes that he would one day turn to her, say, "YOU are who I've been looking for all along, no wonder the other women never worked out," and they'd live happily ever after. Unreasonable...but hot childhood friends are hard to get over. Edit: I realized I was being really negative...maybe this isn't the case. Idk. Talk to her... Edited May 5, 2011 by BiscuitXOXO the Edit...
Author fgc123 Posted May 5, 2011 Author Posted May 5, 2011 Biscuit thank you for being completely honest. The thing is we both really love each other. She's done a ton for me.
Andy_K Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 If she did this, she doesn't love you as much as you think she does. There's a lot more I could say, but it would mostly be repeating what's already been said.
rickey45 Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 i think last & final time u should talk about your relationship if she worried about your relationship then u can continue the relationship if not then **** her with your friends . bird cages
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