BiscuitXOXO Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 A girl hit on you. I don't mean just looking at you flirtateously or being subtle like most girls do. I mean like, came up to you and said, "Hey, wanna hang out sometime? What's your number?" Would you like it and consider her "relationship material?" This is a hypothetical situation. p.s. Shush, Waynebrady. We all know you're just gonna say "women don't do this blah blah blah." BAM PRE-EMPTED! So unless you have something new to contribute please don't post. Kthnxbai.
bayouboi Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 the only variable that matters in that scenario is whether or not the guy finds the girl physically attractive if he does, he'd be fine with her hitting on him, if not, then he won't
93TheHitStick Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 Assuming she was a cute girl i would probably find that pretty sexy. And i actually do know girls who do that. They never come up and actually ask me out but they make it painfully obvious that they are interested. Pretty much the same thing if you ask me. Guys who say girls never hit on them need to take there head out of there behind and start seeing the signals. A girl can only do so much to show you that she is interested before she is pulling down her top or blatantly asking you out. And i think the reason most girls try to give the guy hints is because they wants to make you feel like a man and actually gather up the balls to ask them out.
fortyninethousand322 Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 I've actually had this happen. Me being me I had to pinch myself (metaphorically) just to make sure I wasn't dreaming. The way things ended up part of me wishes I had been. In the future, I'd be totally ok with it. As dense as I am I basically need girls to do this to even realize they're interested.
Jynxx Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 I guess I would be confused and try to figure out her motive at first. Not trying to undermine the assumption that it could just happen out of the blue on the street, but my brain would tell me that it is like something that happens only in a stripclub, that she wants something from me, maybe she saw my Rolex and thought if she could go have dinner with me and spend the night I would take her shopping with my creditcard. I'd probably give in though, would go have a drink with her and take it from there. But I would certainly proceed with caution.
Author BiscuitXOXO Posted May 5, 2011 Author Posted May 5, 2011 And i think the reason most girls try to give the guy hints is because they wants to make you feel like a man and actually gather up the balls to ask them out. Would some men take a girl hitting on them as a sign that the girl thinks that you don't have the balls to approach?...so as an insult?
djhall Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 I've actually had this happen. Me being me I had to pinch myself (metaphorically) just to make sure I wasn't dreaming. ... As dense as I am I basically need girls to do this to even realize they're interested. ^--- This. Guys don't get a lot of validation that they are attractive and interesting enough for women to express interest and take the initiative to try. And yeah, it pretty much takes that to get the hint they are even interested. The only time I find anything negative about it is if I'm really just NOT interested at all and I don't want them to get shot down... Is there a better way than, "Wow, thanks, and I'd love to, but I've been seeing someone else already..." to say no gently? I think you've gotta respect them for the stones to do it even if you aren't interested.
93TheHitStick Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 Would some men take a girl hitting on them as a sign that the girl thinks that you don't have the balls to approach?...so as an insult? I wouldn't take it as an insult. But i can't speak for all guys. I think overall as long as the girl was attractive the guy would like that. It would be a confidence booster for him also. Some really old fashion guys might think its weird but i mean if you have a hot girl in front of you who cares? As long as she doesn't try to pay for the date and open doors for you it shouldn't be a problem lol.
Author BiscuitXOXO Posted May 5, 2011 Author Posted May 5, 2011 If he finds you attractive, you can do no wrong. Really?... Will the guy ever think that you do this to men all the time and find this slutty?
Pfiend101 Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 This would be so awesome if more women did this. I would love it. I'm not good at picking up signs so direct as possible please.
musemaj11 Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 Only approach a shy guy. If a guy who isnt shy likes you, he will approach you.
runner Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 Really?... Will the guy ever think that you do this to men all the time and find this slutty? i would never consider a girl slutty just cos she made a move on me- i commend it if anything. if a guy calls it slutty (and she wasn't being an obviously drunken horny slut at a sleezy bar), then i'd think him to be a judgmental prick. ladies- go after what you want. and don't apologise for it.
DreamerGirl27 Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 I once had a different answer for this not long ago but now I would ask her "How fast do you put out? Because if it isn't as soon as I park at the Walmart then I don't have the time for you." If she walks away after that and is still interested then she'll be back. If she doesn't come back then she was never interested enough. If she tries to tell me off then I'll most likely say "It is fine that you aren't ready. Not all girls grow up and not all women mature at the same rate. Besides I don't play with children." Some might see it as cruel or wrong but too many women are playing a game. All I would be doing is setting them straight, indicating that I won't be participating, and I am looking for sex first. Women respond to indifference, being ignored, and attitude so don't worry. You'll catch most of them. Even if you don't it is better not to put up with their escapades. You sound like a great catch.
thatdog Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 Are you a traditional girl? I think most guys wouldn't have a problem with this except for guys with old fashioned views. But if you aren't that way inclined then you should be fine since any guy who is put off by your approach obviously has a completely different set of values to you and therefore wouldn't be a good partner anyhow.
thehead Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 Would some men take a girl hitting on them as a sign that the girl thinks that you don't have the balls to approach?...so as an insult? Maybe a paranoid defensive would but average guy would not. To answer your original question I would be surprised to be approached that way by a woman. I would not mind, just be taken aback.
oaks Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 If I found her attractive I'd love it. If I didn't then I wouldn't like it so much. Will the guy ever think that you do this to men all the time and find this slutty? It wouldn't be my first thought (unless we were in a bar and I had been watching her do exactly that for the last half hour before getting around to me) and if I found her attractive it wouldn't matter anyway. Slutty can be good, and a girl who knows what she wants and has the confidence to ask for it can be sexy.
fishtaco Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 I'm fine with that. I'll still have to see if I like her enough to date her. But the fact that she came after me is not a deterrent in anyway. In fact, my ex girl friend hit up on me. And that turned out to be the best relationship I've had. But I screwed it up. That was my fault, nothing to do with the fact that she hit on me.
Professor X Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 I would like it if money was to grow on tree; But alas, it does not
mo mo Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 I once had a different answer for this not long ago but now I would ask her "How fast do you put out? Because if it isn't as soon as I park at the Walmart then I don't have the time for you." If she walks away after that and is still interested then she'll be back. If she doesn't come back then she was never interested enough. If she tries to tell me off then I'll most likely say "It is fine that you aren't ready. Not all girls grow up and not all women mature at the same rate. Besides I don't play with children." Some might see it as cruel or wrong but too many women are playing a game. All I would be doing is setting them straight, indicating that I won't be participating, and I am looking for sex first. Women respond to indifference, being ignored, and attitude so don't worry. You'll catch most of them. Even if you don't it is better not to put up with their escapades. Wow, your pimp hand is almost as strong as mine. almost. TO OP I've had it happen to me, and like someone said before, it really just depends on if I find her attractive or not. That said, even if I do, I won't jump on her right away-- I take my time to see if she is mature enough, cuz I don't mess with children either.
Someguy1978 Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 A girl hit on you. I don't mean just looking at you flirtateously or being subtle like most girls do. I mean like, came up to you and said, "Hey, wanna hang out sometime? What's your number?" Would you like it and consider her "relationship material?" This is a hypothetical situation. p.s. Shush, Waynebrady. We all know you're just gonna say "women don't do this blah blah blah." BAM PRE-EMPTED! So unless you have something new to contribute please don't post. Kthnxbai. To be honest it would be epic if girls started doing this.
Ross MwcFan Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 Firstly I'd be wondering if it was some sort of a joke being played on me. If not, then I'd be over the moon. Even if it was someone who I didn't find attractive. I just want to be wanted.
Disillusioned Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 A girl hit on you. I don't mean just looking at you flirtateously or being subtle like most girls do. I mean like, came up to you and said, "Hey, wanna hang out sometime? What's your number?" It depends on the girl. If she's hitting on me, chances are better than 90% she's not my type.
Disillusioned Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 To be honest it would be epic if girls started doing this. It would be fantastic if they started doing this in Los Angeles.
rbtnylander Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 If she's hitting on me, chances are better than 90% she's not my type. Same here. Happened to me quite a few times when I was in clubs or at concerts and all attempts ended just there. If I take my friends' opinion, it's because I look so dettached and not on the prowl (cuz I'm not when I'm just on a night out with my buddies) that it's too big of a temptation for girls who love challenges or socially-awkward girls which hope I'm just a nice guy but too shy. My friends even get a good laugh of this and started going like 'oh, here she coomes...' (I know, mean) because they've seen nothing usually comes out of it no matter how the girl looks.
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