93TheHitStick Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 I like her not sure if she likes me. We met back in september first day of school. We are both sophomores. We met in science class because her and her friend came up to me during the little meet and greet thing. We talked for a bit. At that time i thought she was cute but wasn't really interested. Come to find out she was WAY out of my league. I'm average when it comes to popularity. Pretty well known around the school but not super popular. She on the other hand is super popular. We started talking more in math class later in the year. She always wanted to know like who i was going out with. How football was going. Stuff about me. And she seemed pleasantly surprised that i was smart guess she thought i was a meathead. We would always talk like the whole class away just laughing and flirting. In pretty much every class we had together. But i never really said hi to her when i saw her outside of class. She said it to me sometimes. I started to like her. After like a few months of us just talking things changed. She started being kind of rude to me. Not super rude but we kinda slowly stopped talking at all. And then it was like we were complete strangers. Until the christmas ball rolled around. My friend who is sure i like her said it out loud in math class that i should ask her out. She didn't react at all just acted like she didn't hear him. Her cousin told him to stfu and he did. That was the end of that. But later that day in another class she sat behind me. She was purposely kicking my chair. First time was an accident maybe idk but she kept doing it on purpose. We had a little laugh. Then she kept sitting by me everyday and we would talk a little laugh a little. After christmas break she told me that she had "missed talking to me" her friend made a joke and said she was lying. She said "no i love (my name here) thats my teddy bear" After that i am pretty sure she figured out that i liked her. Because she would catch me staring at her and say something funny and we would laugh. And in class her friend would get my attention and she would do a mini strip tease in her seat and we would laugh. In drawing class she also came up to me and whispered something in my ear. I honestly cannot remember what it was. It was just one of our stupid inside jokes or whatever. But she made like a big deal of doing it and making it seem kind of sexual and the whole class saw. When her friend was asking what she said she was like thats between me and him and stuff. She is also nicer to me then she is to other guys. Like she isn't mean but she does sometimes make fun of guys. Especially the ones who try to act all hard or cool. She will like embarass them in front of the whole class. She never did that to me. And her cousin who is my friend but also a bully whenever he tried to make fun of me in math class she just kind of rolled her eyes and did her work. But whenever he makes fun of someone else she will laugh and they will sit over there and whisper about the person for hours. Also in other classes when i am being funny and i have like a group around me and i'm cracking jokes she never joins in. She will act like she isn't listening but i always see her smirking when i make a joke. Do you think she likes me? Sorry that its long.
Lilmisus Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 I say just ask her out. The idea was planted in her head by your friend when they said it in class that you should, and by her not responding at all, then flirting with you later on, that was her way of being like "okay..do it already." Besides, since it sounds like y'all are in high school, the year is going to be ending soon anyway, so what do you have to lose?
Author 93TheHitStick Posted May 5, 2011 Author Posted May 5, 2011 I say just ask her out. The idea was planted in her head by your friend when they said it in class that you should, and by her not responding at all, then flirting with you later on, that was her way of being like "okay..do it already." Besides, since it sounds like y'all are in high school, the year is going to be ending soon anyway, so what do you have to lose? Well i currently have a girlfriend. I am gonna break up with her soon but she knows this girl. They aren't best friends or anything but everyone knows that we go out. So if i broke up with her then asked this girl out she would say no. If she said yes there would be a lot of drama between them no doubt. I was thinking i would hit her up on facebook during the summer time. Or since i have a short summer this year asking her to homecoming next year. And i know im not in the friend zone with her because we have been flirting for the whole school year we are good friends but i never really became like her gay guy friend if you know what i mean.
Professor X Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 "I am gonna break up with her soon" - How about you break up with her NOW ?!?!!?!?!?!?!? What's even the point in getting emotionally involved while you still have a GF? You planning on cheating? No? than break up with your GF than go look if you got a chance with the other chick. Grow some balls and be a man. Geez, some people here make me wanna bang my head on the desk.
Lilmisus Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 "I am gonna break up with her soon" - How about you break up with her NOW ?!?!!?!?!?!?!? What's even the point in getting emotionally involved while you still have a GF? You planning on cheating? No? than break up with your GF than go look if you got a chance with the other chick. Grow some balls and be a man. Geez, some people here make me wanna bang my head on the desk. I agree with this. Plus..why would your friend loudly say to ask her out while you were with your girlfriend? Or is this a fairly new, unpromising relationship that wasn't going on then? Regardless, it's not cool to flirt, become emotionally involved, and consider another girl while you have a girlfriend. Though..I do feel for ya considering you're only in high school.
Sabali Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 There is this behavior now that I notice. I notice that a lot of the guys must seek confirmation from someone else on whether a girl likes you or not. It's as if you must get confirmation that she likes you in order to make a move. This is cowardly behavior. It's as if you must feel it is safe to ask her out before doing so. You want as little risk of rejection as possible before you make a move. I am here to tell you that it does not matter if she likes you or not at this point. All that matters is that you have a interest in her. Forget what she is thinking. If you want her you must go and get her. If she rejects you after your attempt to draw her in then that is when you can be concerned if she likes you or not. It is too premature to be concerned with it now.
Author 93TheHitStick Posted May 5, 2011 Author Posted May 5, 2011 "I am gonna break up with her soon" - How about you break up with her NOW ?!?!!?!?!?!?!? What's even the point in getting emotionally involved while you still have a GF? You planning on cheating? No? than break up with your GF than go look if you got a chance with the other chick. Grow some balls and be a man. Geez, some people here make me wanna bang my head on the desk. Lol. Really? I need to grow some balls and be a man? 16 and i'm pretty sure i am more of man than you... Did i say i was gonna get emotionally involved while i still had a girlfriend? I have been talking to the girl from the original post since before i met my current girlfriend. I talk to a lot of girls and by talk i mean kind of date but not official. And while i have talked to those girls i have still talked to the girl from the original post. Nobody is leading anyone along here. I have the balls to break up with her i am waiting to see her. Don't want to call her and do it over the phone. And i don't want to take her out somewhere then break up with her. So i am waiting till i see her on common ground (school) to let her know. And i'm in high school bro. Everybody goes out with everybody. Its not like she doesn't flirt with other guys.
Author 93TheHitStick Posted May 5, 2011 Author Posted May 5, 2011 There is this behavior now that I notice. I notice that a lot of the guys must seek confirmation from someone else on whether a girl likes you or not. It's as if you must get confirmation that she likes you in order to make a move. This is cowardly behavior. It's as if you must feel it is safe to ask her out before doing so. You want as little risk of rejection as possible before you make a move. I am here to tell you that it does not matter if she likes you or not at this point. All that matters is that you have a interest in her. Forget what she is thinking. If you want her you must go and get her. If she rejects you after your attempt to draw her in then that is when you can be concerned if she likes you or not. It is too premature to be concerned with it now. Yea usually if i even think a girl might like me i let her know i am interested. Might not ask her out but at least flirting/kissing. But the thing about this girl is i never would have thought she could have liked me. Like looking back on it now i think "damn i shoulda asked her out right after she told me she missed me" But at the time i was like no way in hell she likes me. She could literally have her pick of guys. I don't have low self esteem or anything but im a realist. Why would she choose me a sophomore with no job and no car. When she could have one of my senior friends with jobs and a car. And she even turns them down so i didn't think i had the best shot. But yea your right gonna wait till things die down a bit and try to see her this summer.
Sabali Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 I don't have low self esteem or anything but im a realist. Why would she choose me a sophomore with no job and no car. When she could have one of my senior friends with jobs and a car. And she even turns them down so i didn't think i had the best shot. But yea your right gonna wait till things die down a bit and try to see her this summer. As a fellow realist, I hope you realize how important it is to not let the thought that someone is out of your league or above you become a part of your reality. I don't think that the above poster's intention was to get into a p!$$ing contest with you. I think it was meant to be cold water thrown in your face to really get your attention and to consider some valid points.
Professor X Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 Lol. Really? I need to grow some balls and be a man? 16 and i'm pretty sure i am more of man than you... Did i say i was gonna get emotionally involved while i still had a girlfriend? I have been talking to the girl from the original post since before i met my current girlfriend. I talk to a lot of girls and by talk i mean kind of date but not official. And while i have talked to those girls i have still talked to the girl from the original post. Nobody is leading anyone along here. I have the balls to break up with her i am waiting to see her. Don't want to call her and do it over the phone. And i don't want to take her out somewhere then break up with her. So i am waiting till i see her on common ground (school) to let her know. And i'm in high school bro. Everybody goes out with everybody. Its not like she doesn't flirt with other guys. So what if you are in high school? Yes, people go out with each other but NOT in the same time, l-o-l. The difference between a man and a boy is taking responsibility, i.e. maturity; You do not seem to have it since you're in a RS and you already look side ways, showing interest in others in a serious manner and as Sabali said "it does not matter if she likes you or not at this point"
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