lovebugg21 Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 I am 19 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years, and we have a beautiful baby together (6 months old). We have been struggling for months to get along and be happy together. It has been this way pretty much since our son was born. I have stayed with him hoping that things will get back to the way there were when we first met. Our relationship basically has been rushed from the beginning, and I found out just after a couple months of being together that I was pregnant. Shortly after that he moved into my apartment, and we have lived together ever since. The past couple months for us have been really rough, and I worry they are just going to get worse. He has recently started to call me names when he gets upset with me, and it really kills my confidence, especially after just having a baby. Our sex life has just about completely gone down the drain over the past couple months too. I used to love to have sex and be such a sexual person, but I don't enjoy our sex anymore. I have recently started to feel attraction to a guy that I work with and I feel so guilty about it. I know it is wrong to turn to someone else but I never expected this to happen. I feel like my normal self whenever I talk to him, and he gives me a sense of hope that I will find happiness again. I have never cheated on my boyfriend and would never pursue ANYONE while with him. I know the best thing for our son is for us to be together and raise him together but how can we do that when we dont have sex and fight ALL the time? Part of me is terrified to leave him because I can't imagine being away from our son. I feel like a horrible mom for turning to someone else for comfort. PLEASE someone give me advice here, anything will help!!!
vsmini Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 Your first priority is your son which you seem to understand. It does no good for a child to see his or her parents fighting all the time. I'm a child of divorce and I can say that it would have been more harmful to me if my parents would have stayed together and fought constantly. I don't suggest going from one relationship to another. If it is not working out with your current guy then leave him (I know, it is scary) and stay single. Getting another guy back in your life right away will do no good. Be single and work on YOU.
Lilmisus Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 I know couples who have stayed together for only their child's sake when they were unhappy, and trust me..it doesn't turn out well. For the parents, or for the child(ren). If you really want to put your child first by staying together, I would go to couple's counseling with your boyfriend. Try to truly work out the issues that you guys have together. Try to make the house that you've made together, one that is happy and loving. If it's filled with fighting and possibly resentment towards one another, that's not a place that you want to raise your child. Everyone would be much better off if you all had a chance of happiness and not being stuck in a place where you aren't happy.
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