pineapples Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 I just can't get myself to do it. I have never done anything like this before. I am not a teenager anymore, LOL I am a grown woman, but it just seems so hard... Anyone wants to share a happy story or a few tips?? How do I get myself to do it??
collegeguy_24 Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 You just do it. It can be hard, I would know as do many others. The only person I ever said "I love you" to was my last ex before she dumped me. I remember I was nervous about saying it, thinking about what she would say. WOuld she reject it? Would she grow indifferent? In the end, all I did was take her home after a dinner with my family, walked her to her door, kissed her, and said I love you. Its as simple as that, and you can do it to.
Author pineapples Posted May 4, 2011 Author Posted May 4, 2011 You just do it. In the end, all I did was take her home after a dinner with my family, walked her to her door, kissed her, and said I love you. Its as simple as that, and you can do it to. It does sound simple when you put it that way. I am sorry she dumped you though. I guess she did not react the way you hoped she would that night? In my case, however, things are a bit more complicated. I want to tell him I have feelings for him and that I want to be his girlfriend.
collegeguy_24 Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 It does sound simple when you put it that way. I am sorry she dumped you though. I guess she did not react the way you hoped she would that night? In my case, however, things are a bit more complicated. I want to tell him I have feelings for him and that I want to be his girlfriend. She didn't dump me because I said I love you. She actually said it to, and for the last 2-3 weeks of our relationship, she said it to me, everyday. Even the day before she dumped me. SHe dumped me of more complicated reasons. Does this guy you have a crush on, does he have a GF already? Or is he single? I think you should just tell him. Send him a text or email to get together and hangout, like go to the mall. As your window shopping, just say you were wondering if you would like to go out on a date, or become boyfriend/girlfriend?
Jynxx Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 Stop making such a big deal out of it. It's only words. I said it to at least a couple cabdrivers and 24h takeaway employees while I'm not even gay. I was extremely wasted though.
Author pineapples Posted May 5, 2011 Author Posted May 5, 2011 She didn't dump me because I said I love you. She actually said it to, and for the last 2-3 weeks of our relationship, she said it to me, everyday. Even the day before she dumped me. SHe dumped me of more complicated reasons. Does this guy you have a crush on, does he have a GF already? Or is he single? I think you should just tell him. Send him a text or email to get together and hangout, like go to the mall. As your window shopping, just say you were wondering if you would like to go out on a date, or become boyfriend/girlfriend? Okay, here is the problem. I started dating him over a year ago. After 6 months of dating he told me he was in love with me, but I rejected him and asked him to keep the relationship casual. Recently he started dating others, and he is pretty much focused on moving on completely. I doubt he will change his mind if I tell him I love him. But I really do. Now I know, and I am 100% sure. So basically, he will definitely reject me. He doesn't treat me the way he used to. I am a bit surprised, but I think he has no feeling for me anymore. I mean surprised because I think if his feeling were true before, he would still have them. Maybe he thought he loved me. But none of it matters anymore. The point is, I want to tell him. I was hoping for some tips on how to do it, and how to deal with rejection. Not in the long term, but standing right there. Maybe I am just emotionally too weak for things like these.
collegeguy_24 Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 Okay, here is the problem. I started dating him over a year ago. After 6 months of dating he told me he was in love with me, but I rejected him and asked him to keep the relationship casual. Recently he started dating others, and he is pretty much focused on moving on completely. I doubt he will change his mind if I tell him I love him. But I really do. Now I know, and I am 100% sure. So basically, he will definitely reject me. He doesn't treat me the way he used to. I am a bit surprised, but I think he has no feeling for me anymore. I mean surprised because I think if his feeling were true before, he would still have them. Maybe he thought he loved me. But none of it matters anymore. The point is, I want to tell him. I was hoping for some tips on how to do it, and how to deal with rejection. Not in the long term, but standing right there. Maybe I am just emotionally too weak for things like these. If he is dating others that means he is under the impression you don't care for him. However, it is very possible he may still have feelings for you, he is just trying to deny them because of the hurt he suffered before. You need to tell him that you had time to reflect and think, and you came to realize that you do love him. It just needed time to come about. You need to tell him NOW! If you don't tell him you will regret for the rest of your life. Tell him, right now. Trust me on this, I am there. I still have feelings for my ex, but unless she comes back to me, I will continue to either date others, or ignore her. She has to contact me. Just like you have to contact him.
smudge21 Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 I think you need to build up to those three little words. In your situation I would go with saying something along the lines of it took him leaving for you to realise how much you want him. It's true we often only realise what we've got when it's no longer available. You were wrong to turn him away last time but you weren't sure how you felt. Now you do. Now you know you love him. Good luck.
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