MyHeartHurtsOuch Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 Day 9.5 of NC. He took me off his facebook 10 days ago. I don't look at his fb and I don't want to. No clue if he has blocked me, no clue if he set his page to private. All I know is that his friends/family (not sure who) used to read him my posts when they were about him (a month ago). Reasons why I want to deactivate my account: I don't want his friends/family and then him knowing what I am up to..sure I can do this by simply not posting anything at all...which I can do cause I am not very active on fb anyway. I want his family and friends off my facebook kind of to show him that this is what he wanted and we really are over. Reasons why I do not: I want to pretend I'm okay (i'm not okay yet) I don't want his family/friends to be upset cause they will think I just defriended all them I'm so confused. I guess I should just leave it and not post anything. fml
WiselyNaive Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 about a month of nc i had posted a pic with a male friend on my fb the next day i was told my ex deleted his fb...first response was an ego boost...i thought to my self no way...this cant be a coincidence i didnt even think he was checking my fb...time passed n i began to wonder if it was about me at all..my mind ran it from time to time...still not sure what it meant...i still think him deleting it helped tho made me feel a lil better n helps tremendously with keeping nc....i wouldnt delete my fb cause him n ppl wud assume i wasnt coping well... but for a previous ex i deleed my fb for 2 months...it was way after the break up..probably like 7 months after but i jus couldnt let go...at all...he had been long moved on and i was still stuck on him..deleting it didnt do much cause i only did it for him to miss me... if u know ur doing it for urself and only for u and u dont care what he thinks do it...if its about him for him..to try n get him to contcat u anything of the sort dont...but deleting it few days after he deleted u will boost his ego a bit..but probably not for too long if u keep silent..
neverendingdrama Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 I keep in touch with most of my family and friends through Facebook. Def get rid of his friends and family. Send his family a quick email and say nothing personal , you just need to make the break . I did it to my ex's mom and a few of our mutual friends who I wasn't that close to anyway. Honestly , I didn't want him knowing my personal business. Lucky for me right before I dumped him he stole my laptop one night , it was still logged on to FB. He went on and deleted all pictures of him ( which there weren't many ) . He saved me the trouble and I never even got to thank him for it !!
bl22 Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 Day 9.5 of NC. He took me off his facebook 10 days ago. I don't look at his fb and I don't want to. No clue if he has blocked me, no clue if he set his page to private. All I know is that his friends/family (not sure who) used to read him my posts when they were about him (a month ago). Reasons why I want to deactivate my account: I don't want his friends/family and then him knowing what I am up to..sure I can do this by simply not posting anything at all...which I can do cause I am not very active on fb anyway. I want his family and friends off my facebook kind of to show him that this is what he wanted and we really are over. Reasons why I do not: I want to pretend I'm okay (i'm not okay yet) I don't want his family/friends to be upset cause they will think I just defriended all them I'm so confused. I guess I should just leave it and not post anything. fml my advice, please delete/deactivate fb until you are 100% healed. trust me ive seen many people get so hurt over facebook (myself included) and I first put off deleting it wanting to show her what shes missing etc. I realised I couldnt compete with her because she had someone new and I couldnt fake being happy. Deleting it saved me a ton of extra pain and better yet, she cant keep tabs on me anymore, getting her fix of knowing what im up too these days...shes not entitled to know anymore.
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