lalasweetheart Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 So I've just recently started dating again and have met a few guys offline most of which I don't plan to see again but I have met two lovely gentleman. The first one is fun, we get along really well, hang out, catch a band whatever. He's just looking for a friend, nothing too serious which is fine with me as I'm not sure that I'm ready for anything too full on. The second guy is a perfect gentleman, a little shy but we get along quite well too. He is looking for a relationship which is a bit more serious and if we take it slowly it's possible I will come around to his way of thinking. Now, I know this will sound really horrible, but between shift work, uni, looking after my nana who broke her wrist and trying to have a life as well... my muddled up brain managed to agree to dates with both of them on the same night. I don't want to blow off either off them as I've only been on one date with the first guy and two with the second. I want to get to know them a little better before I decide what I want (is that bad?) but I will have to excuse myself from one or the other. My problem is that I can't decide which one ???? Should I flip a coin, or can somebody make the decision for me because right now I can't choose!
Author lalasweetheart Posted May 4, 2011 Author Posted May 4, 2011 I don't know, as I said I've been such a scatter brain lately
carhill Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 My vote is for potential #1, with sincere regrets and a firm reschedule offered to potential #2. Since you've expressed the intention to narrow the list to one by 'getting to know them better', a second date with potential #1 can assist. Being a gentleman, potential #2 will likely understand. He will have other options to entertain. These things tend to work themselves out. Good luck
TheyCallMeBruce Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 Just change the venue so that you're meeting both at the same restaurant, make sure you get seated in different sections, and then spend the evening making excuses with each why you have to get up and go for a few minutes while hilarity ensues. Also, please have someone film it for my entertainment.
Author lalasweetheart Posted May 4, 2011 Author Posted May 4, 2011 ok, i was thinking the same thing, thankyou for helping me make a decision!
TheyCallMeBruce Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 ok, i was thinking the same thing, thankyou for helping me make a decision! You're welcome!
Sw3etdev1L Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 If you want fun... have fun 1) ---- but, and there's a but.... ¿how long is the fun going to last with Mr. Fun? Is he really that fun to be around with?.... 2) Is this sweet guy, going to open up and reallly be that good of a guy?, ..maybe he turns out to be fun too.. * ¿Who will stick to you and love you the most? You can always have fun with the man you love... and the man you love is always gonna be a helping hand in your times of struggle.. I think.. if you don't know yet.. well, you can go out with both of them at the same time, because you are not girlfriend of no one, you are deciding what you want... as you don't have committment with any of them, you can do whatever you want..
fishtaco Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 Not a big deal. This is just one date. Like Carhill said, just make sure to apologize and take the initiative to offer an alternate date to the one that you cancel on (ball is in your court once you cancel). And keep going on dates with both of them until you decide. Most cellphones now have a calendar. Usually pretty crappy unless you have a smart phone, but usable. I schedule things sometimes a month ahead of time. It's very difficult to keep everything in your brain. Although sounds like #1 is a better match.
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