Leigh 87 Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 What do u mean by attractive? I think that women who were born attractive, are different from women who were born ugly or average. As for me? I was born ugly. I went through life with no emphasis on my outward appearance, and I did not get places easier attributed to my looks. However, after: TWO sets of braces, teeth whitening, a clean diet, daily runs and regular pilates work, and basically doing everything I can to look as attractive as possible..... I am relatively attractive, but not model material. 5 ' 5, 122 ish lbs, big boobs with long blond hair and blue eyes. Because I went through life ugly until I became an adult, I am VERY NICE to guys, regardless of their appearance. I am seeing a guy, but I still value male friends and enjoy the ones I have; when I meet a guy who I like to be around and enjoy their company, I do not hesitate to cotact them. GOod people in my life can be of both sexes. I am not sure WHY a women would blow a guy off JUST because she is attractive? IS it because she assumes that she is so gorgeous, guys will not want to only be " friends", due to not being able to control their urges to bang her when around her? For me, even when I am seeing a guy, I still look out for nice people that would be good additions to my life.... If I am taken, and you are a cool person with some nice qualitities that I value, such as a greta sense of homour, I would definitly give u my number, and also ask for you number and be sure to call you. Perhaps my excitement over meeting nice male friends is because I grow up ugly and therfore am nicer to men in general when they approach ee for any reason? I just do not see why a cool women who happens to be beautiful, would not want to get to know a guy if the guy was was a great guy to be around, and would make a great friend?
Leigh 87 Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 If you're ugly, you should not try, because she wants the muscle bound jock. This is not always true. I was like this once; I had a two day fling with a very, very attractive body builder who was as attractive as you get ofr a guy. This guy set the bar very high. I never thought I would be able to be attracted to a normal guy. I was wrong. I met a guy online who I thought was average. After meeting him and getting to know him for about a month, I became super attacted to him. I liked what he was like as a person, and in turn, I am far more physically attracted to him than I was with the professional body builder I was with. Of course there are limits; very very bad teeth, a sever acne problem, being obese, or very notile physical traits can make it very hard to be sexually and physically attracted. I am talkig about seamingly average guys attracting hot women. I am not super hot, but I am hot to a fair few men, even some very attractive men, and yet I am VERY happy and VERY attracted to the guy I am seeing. And he is not a muscly jock....
fishtaco Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 I agree with Sanskrit that most women do these indirect no's for their own benefit, not for the man's benefit. But I also agree with Knittress that women owe men nothing. So here's my take on things. "Imaginary BF" is a code word. In means at this moment, the woman is not interested. It's the middle of the road approach. It makes the women feel like they're giving the man a softer no, even though the reality is, it's for the women's own benefit. But for the men, we get the point. So the message gets across anyway and mission accomplished. I believe these "code words" are useful. Because they are a standard. Imagine a woman that's so creative that she comes up with her own way of saying no. Maybe then the guy won't understand it... maybe it's too subtle, maybe it's too wrapped up in women-talk. So by using these industry standard code words, everyone immediately understand where they are. Sounds like a win to me. It makes the sending and receiving of these messages straight forward. All people have to do, is learn what these code words mean. Hardly rocket science. As for keeping pushing with women that already used the "BF" code word, my question is, why? Sure, sometimes they change their minds. Gee, women changing their minds? I've never heard that before. What a surprise. But why would a man want to go through that. Why is she so important that you're willing to stick it out and bet on your already losing chances? No woman is worth that much effort. If she gives me the BF spiel, I'm out. Why would I want to stick around when I can just go approach the next woman? Trying to make a woman like you when she's already shutting you out is a low percentage undertaking. And not enjoyable. Maybe I'm strange, but I prefer an association where there is more equivalency. She likes to hang out with me as much as I like to hang out with her. That's when things are fun. I'd rather find someone that's open to it right off the bat. I guarantee you, those women are not worth any less than women that are closed off.
Red Arremer Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 All this talk about approaching women as often as possible and playing the numbers game would be pretty cool if approaching women wasn't such a chore. From the time I begin having thoughts of approaching someone to the time my contact with that person ends, I am constantly on guard that I'm going to **** something up and the whole process is very draining. I pretty much derive no pleasure from initially contacting someone at all, unlike what I see a lot of people saying here. It's so bad for me that I even have trouble writing to women on dating sites, where I'm hiding behind the internet and there is essentially zero risk from contacting someone. I've literally never had any successes in this area in the past, so I don't even have positively reinforcing experience to draw from.
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