madcat Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 I was in a relationship with a girl 9 years younger than me and we lived together for 3 years. I was madly in love with her, but right from the beginning I lived in fear of loosing her. She was polish and she was very close to her friends back home. I always felt unsure about our future, I became very jealous and possessive. She was naturally flirty and with my insecurity I always felt our relationship wouldn't last. I have 2 children from a previous relationship, at first we used to spend time together but as time went she became detached from them, she'd leave the house for most of the time they were with us. My jealousy and suspiciousness continued to increase, to the point of checking her emails. I questioned her when I came across some flirting with a male colleague. I knew that what I was doing wasn't right. I was madly in love with her, but felt I didn't trust her. We fought regularly, I wanted a loving person to start a family. Whenever we were with other people I felt completely detached from her, as not required. Otherwise I would drive her around, do most of the house work, etc. I eventually left her. We went through a painful and angry separation, we shared the house for a few weeks until she found her own place. During this time a new girl from work approached me. She was going through a similar situation and we become very supportive. We started seeing each other soon after my ex moved out. The personality couldn't be different, offering me all the things I craved from my ex. I know I should have left sometime in between. Even though I have a great time with this new girl, I feel still completely lost, I can't seem to forget my ex. I feel sad, fearful that I made a mistake. My head knows that the relationship wasn't right, but my heart is holding on for some reason. I'm worried also to hurt this new person on the rebound. Whilst I have these feelings, it's hard to start afresh. Any advice?
nana841121 Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 Did you find out the source of your insecurity? It is stemmed from your own personality and your deep affection towards ex Or it's her flirty and volatility? If you realize that you are in a rebound relationship. quit it before you hurt your new girlfriend further
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