How are guys supposed to find love if Many girls lie and don't contact ever?

[quietGuy13]

I'm finding this as i go through my adventures in making female friends .

Most girls say "yes let's meet again" or whatever but they never answer and never contact again.

 

what's up with that.

 

why are women like that? well i'm sure some men are too.

 

but..what if i was a hot hunk, would they also ignore me OR would they contact me right away?

[gaius]

I'm finding this as i go through my adventures in making female friends .

Most girls say "yes let's meet again" or whatever but they never answer and never contact again.

 

what's up with that.

 

why are women like that? well i'm sure some men are too.

 

but..what if i was a hot hunk, would they also ignore me OR would they contact me right away?

What do you want them to say? You're ugly and I wouldn't touch you with a 10 foot pole? The truth often hurts so people lie. She tells you what you need to know by cutting contact.

 

You will find love when a girl thinks your fine and continues dating you.

[mr.dream merchant]

if you were good looking it'd be the same experience. some women are just dickheads about treating men with decency just like guys are dickheads about treating women with decency. to sum it up, people suck bro.

 

success in dating is all up to chance and numbers. i work out 5 days a week and have looks that would put a number of celebrity "studs" to shame. but just like you i get no replies, and false hopes. some women get off on wasting a guy's time, money, and/or energy. those women are idiots. care not for why they don't contact you, but be blessed they aren't in your life.

[BiscuitXOXO]

I say, "sure," as a general response to any guy who says, "Let's meet again!" Because it would be rude to say, "Uh, no, I'd rather not."

 

But I feel that my body language is usually pretty obvious. Guys I'm into, I smile and look into their eyes and nod. Then, if we don't make plans right then and there, and if he doesn't contact me within 2-3 days, I initiate contact.

 

But if I decide that I don't want a 2nd date, I usually turn away, I don't smile, I just kinda nod uncommittedly, or say "Yea, sure" in a bland tone of voice, and if he brings up potential plans, I change the subject. They usually get the hint. Sounds cruel, but what else do you do...

[Rinnix]

If im not interested in someone ill let them know. ( nice as possible )

Men appreciate honesty.

 

I think its horrible to lead someone on, this includes saying sure to meet up again, and then later ignoring.

 

Some people need to have it done back to themselves in order to understand this.

[Rinnix]

 

But if I decide that I don't want a 2nd date, I usually turn away, I don't smile, I just kinda nod uncommittedly, or say "Yea, sure" in a bland tone of voice, and if he brings up potential plans, I change the subject. They usually get the hint. Sounds cruel, but what else do you do...

 

You be honest. It's not right the attitude your using. What if guys did this to you?

 

Just be honest, they'll appreciate it.

[Rinnix]

But you aren't American that's why. For some reason American women are the worst about this.

 

Many canadian women are like this too, it depends on the person in general. I believe in treating others how id like to be treated. Easy as that.

 

Some people shouldn't be dating, peroid.

[BiscuitXOXO]

You be honest. It's not right the attitude your using. What if guys did this to you?

 

Just be honest, they'll appreciate it.

I feel kinda bad now.

 

It's really difficult though, when face to face. Especially at the end of a date, when the guy thinks it has gone great and wants to meet up again. I'm really easygoing and can maintain fairly good conversation, so I sometimes fake having a good time. I guess that is already a bit dishonest...but if he takes me out, I might as well try to be pleasant right? And if he has just paid for a meal...it feels so heartless to turn around and be like, "Thanks, but no thanks."

 

Maybe I'm just making excuses for myself. But frankly, I don't want to be there, at the doorstep, then tell him no, and see the disappointment and awkwardness.

 

If they ask through e-mail or facebook or text, I'm very upfront and honest. It's just, at that moment, it's difficult.

 

Should I change this?

 

If someone did it to me, I would understand. If a guy doesn't seem enthusiastic about meeting with me again, even if they say "Let's meet again," I leave them alone and move on. No big deal.

[Rinnix]

I feel kinda bad now.

It's really difficult though, when face to face. Especially at the end of a date, when the guy thinks it has gone great and wants to meet up again. I'm really easygoing and can maintain fairly good conversation, so I sometimes fake having a good time. I guess that is already a bit dishonest...but if he takes me out, I might as well try to be pleasant right? And if he has just paid for a meal...it feels so heartless to turn around and be like, "Thanks, but no thanks." .

 

The way I see it is, its much more heartless leading the guy on. He will be thinking what did he do wrong? He will wonder why you went cold when he assumed all is well. It's a bad place to be in.

 

Just be straight up. Tell him while you had a good time, you don't feel the chemistry. By doing so, he can move on too.

[Rinnix]

I thought it was odd that it didn't happen in Canada as well since we share such a similar culture. You are just a diamond in the rough I guess.

 

People are like this everywhere. Those who are honest get 100x respect from me. I don't like playing dating games, it's a relief to meet people who feel the same.

 

Theres diamonds everywhere, just have to search. And thanks

[BiscuitXOXO]

He will be thinking what did he do wrong? He will wonder why you went cold when he assumed all is well. It's a bad place to be in.

 

Just be straight up. Tell him while you had a good time, you don't feel the chemistry. By doing so, he can move on too.

...Won't he be wondering what he did wrong anyways? And the word "chemistry" is so vague haha. But I'll try this next time

[Rinnix]

They aren't. I know when European men come to America this apart of their culture shock since European girls don't behave badly in this way.

 

Then I'm packing my bags and moving over there!

 

However, I think that everyone has there own attitudes when it comes to dating.

[Rinnix]

Oh so you are actually a guy and the pics of the girl are a decoy. Well played.

 

Look in my albulm, I'm a girl, proof there.

 

However, if the women are good there, the men must not be half so bad. Which is why id be running over

[thatdog]

I'm in Australia but I found women don't do that much here and assumed it was the same in the US and other places. I was shocked when I lived in Japan to find that it was common there for girls to not just agree to a date but be enthusiastic about it, exchange numbers, make concrete plans and then either cancel last minutes or just not turn up at all. I've been told in that culture it's just too embarrassing to ever turn someone down even via email or phone.

Hell my first gf there I dated for over 4 months. Then one day she just cancelled a date, stopped answering her phone or returning texts. Too difficult to break up, so just pretend it happened and move on...

[Rinnix]

Well it actually isn't and I could play devil's advocate on this but I don't want to get into a fight.

 

If you looked at the albulm, first pic, you'd see otherwise.

[Rinnix]

It isn't that hard to photoshop a handwritten name on to a piece of paper. A few years ago I remember a site where you type anything you want in a form and it would appear on a paper held up by a girl. It is just that easy.

 

Think as you wish but im still female. Everyone isn't some guy pretending to be a lady.

 

My PS skills are fail anyway. Where is this site? Sounds useful in any case!

[oaks]

And if he has just paid for a meal...it feels so heartless to turn around and be like, "Thanks, but no thanks."

 

So you feel guilty about being honest because someone bought you a meal? You could always pay for your half. Problem solved.

 

As a half-way house, instead of "yes, sure" or "no thanks" you could go with "I'll have to think about it" or "I'll let you know". Not as good as a straightforward "no" but better than saying "yes, sure" when you don't mean it.

[orangelady]

I guess I could start a thread "How could girls find love when guys lie and have so many issues?"

 

something like that. And yes, if you were a real hunk, you wouldn't have this problem.

[orangelady]

If you looked at the albulm, first pic, you'd see otherwise.

 

Holy Banaly...that's a LOT of pics you took there.

[orangelady]

That's not true. Particularly in big cities everyone thinks there is someone better just around the corner and no one is convenient enough. Then on top of this many young women have the attitude they're better than any guy and with how they are treated by society it isn't too far from the truth in a certain light.

 

BA, promise you will behave and your goal for this month is to not get banned so you can be an Established Member and then I can drop ya a message.