quietGuy13 Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 I have a feeling that most people settle any average or below average when they think that their time is running out and they think they won't find the girl of their dreams. my cousin, like many guys, used to salivate over hot sexy girls...He ended up with a super below average girl cause she came to him(in school)and he just gave in (even though there were hot girls all the time in his class). I also have a dream of a hot sexy beauty but it's not happening and i'mgetting older, and i have a friend who is average but veeery nice and nice hearted. So it makes me want her as a GF even though i've always dreamed of a sexy babe. Link to post Share on other sites
Rinnix Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 (edited) Never settle. I always go for someone i'm attracted to, I don't want to be always thinking about who I could be dating. If someone's with me I sure hope that in there eyes I'm above average, otherwise I don't want to be with them. I won't be someones settle mark. Edited May 4, 2011 by Rinnix Link to post Share on other sites
Author quietGuy13 Posted May 4, 2011 Author Share Posted May 4, 2011 Never settle. I always go for someone i'm attracted to, I don't want to be always thinking about who I could be dating. If someone's with me I sure hope that in there eyes I'm above average, otherwise I don't want to be with them. I won't be someones settle matk. well but you have some kind of attractive personality or something. so you can get guys you like. Some of us can't. most girls i like don't even look at me Link to post Share on other sites
Rinnix Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 well but you have some kind of attractive personality or something. so you can get guys you like. Some of us can't. most girls i like don't even look at me I'm not everyone's cup of tea either. When dating I just hope that the person I'm with is very attracted to me, so that I don't feel like they are just settling as they "can't do better." It's rather insulting to be someone's settle mark, and I really hope many people don't have to endure that. Character can add 100x more beauty to a person. I'm sure that you must have many good traits to offer too, don't sell yourself short. You'll find someone who makes your eyes sparkle, and who looks back at you the same. Don't settle. Link to post Share on other sites
Rinnix Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Can we make a drinking game out of every time Rinnix is overly optimistic? Being positive is nothing to be ashamed of. But if you'd like to buy me a drink, please feel free. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 I made a thread about this a few days ago. Frankly settling isn't that easy because it's rare for girls to come on to guys. Plus it's just hard to chase a girl that you aren't attracted to. Link to post Share on other sites
Rinnix Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 and that's how you ensnare them by not chasing them. Id like to add that many women do approach men. While they may be more subtle with it, it does indeed happen. I was the one who approached my boyfriend with interest. If I'm interested in someone, I won't be invisible to them. Link to post Share on other sites
musemaj11 Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 (edited) A man cant truly love a woman who is less attractive than himself and a woman cant truly love a man who is less successful than herself. This is the reality of life. If you are an unattractive woman, know that any man who is with you is with you because he is not wealthy enough to afford the more attractive woman that he actually wants and if you are not a wealthy man, know that any woman who is with you is with you because she is not attractive enough to attract the more successful man that she actually wants. Edited May 4, 2011 by musemaj11 Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 and that's how you ensnare them by not chasing them. LOL, what do you do then, set up lobster traps? Id like to add that many women do approach men. While they may be more subtle with it, it does indeed happen. I was the one who approached my boyfriend with interest. If I'm interested in someone, I won't be invisible to them. I'm 29 years old, I have been approached by two women in my entire life. Both were significantly heavier than I am. Link to post Share on other sites
BiscuitXOXO Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 A man cant truly love a woman who is less attractive than himself and a woman cant truly love a man who is less successful than herself. This is the reality of life. If you are an unattractive woman, know that any man who is with you is with you because he is not wealthy enough to afford the more attractive woman that he actually wants and if you are not a wealthy man, know that any woman who is with you is with you because she is not attractive enough to attract the more successful man that she actually wants. This is true. But I'd rather think of it as finding a social partner who fits. Compatability, blah blah blah. Sounds less harsh that way Link to post Share on other sites
musemaj11 Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 As long as you get good use out of your headboard it shouldn't really matter. Thats right. But there are wishful men (and women) out there who really think their partners truly love them the way they are when they are just settling for them and secretly wishing for someone better. Link to post Share on other sites
Rinnix Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 I'm 29 years old, I have been approached by two women in my entire life. Both were significantly heavier than I am. I have approached men before, Id often give a compliment when I see fit too. At least you can say that you have been approached, regardless of not being attracted to them. I get various types of men approaching me, all different kinds of looks. Take it as flattery. You must have something going on for a woman to approach you Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 I would never settle in the sense that I would have an inner dialogue “I’m settling for this girl.” I would date a girl I think is beautiful regardless of what other people might think. I used to have the mistaken belief that going after less attractive girls was easier but I know that isn’t true for me. Going after girls that drive me crazy cause I can’t stop thinking about them is the only way for me. Link to post Share on other sites
runner Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 LOL, what do you do then, set up lobster traps? no you get them to chase you, silly Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 no you get them to chase you, silly How? /me wonders what kind of bait is used for lobsters And lol at the red lobster pads Link to post Share on other sites
Enchanted Girl Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 I have a feeling that most people settle any average or below average when they think that their time is running out and they think they won't find the girl of their dreams. my cousin, like many guys, used to salivate over hot sexy girls...He ended up with a super below average girl cause she came to him(in school)and he just gave in (even though there were hot girls all the time in his class). I also have a dream of a hot sexy beauty but it's not happening and i'mgetting older, and i have a friend who is average but veeery nice and nice hearted. So it makes me want her as a GF even though i've always dreamed of a sexy babe. Wow. These kind of posts makes me want to puke all over society. I love how we rate people based on appearance. You go after the nice girl, you are settling and if the girl is hot then you've hit the jackpot. To me, settling, is when people marry some ******* who beats them or the girl that just wants to be with them for their money, who they have no compatibility with, just so they don't have to be alone. It's not because they are dating someone who is average looking. OH THE HUMANITY. HOW CAN ANYONE STAND BEING WITH SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T FIT INTO THE TOP 1% OF SOCIETY LOOKSWISE, EVEN THOUGH IN A FEW YEARS, THEY'LL START GROWING OLD AND LOSING ALL OF THAT. I've won the jackpot when it comes to my relationship. My boyfriend is hot as hell to me, but that's not even why I won the jackpot. Hot men are all over the place. I won the jackpot because my boyfriend is kindhearted, attentive, and loyal to me and that is something I do not run into every day. The world is full of selfish and shallow people. Link to post Share on other sites
runner Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 How? no offence, but i've seen so many on here (including myself) provide you with all the answers you need to hear- so i'm not going down there anymore. now just do it Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Fair enough, though really none of it was about getting women to chase me. Besides the getting a six-pack thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Enchanted Girl Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 A man cant truly love a woman who is less attractive than himself and a woman cant truly love a man who is less successful than herself. This is the reality of life. If you are an unattractive woman, know that any man who is with you is with you because he is not wealthy enough to afford the more attractive woman that he actually wants and if you are not a wealthy man, know that any woman who is with you is with you because she is not attractive enough to attract the more successful man that she actually wants. And then there's the rest of us who date people because we have things in common with them and fall in love with them and we sit around, laughing and eating popcorn and watching as stupid people marry each other for their money and body and get divorced over and over again and in the process of doing so, losing all their money and all their looks, which was all they had to offer to the world. Link to post Share on other sites
runner Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 This actually worked back when I was in school before college. I got quite a few girls chasing after me which at the time I interpreted as bullying but I realize now it was actually flirtation. Something about being a poker faced loner turned them on. Many of them weren't all that pretty and they tended to travel in packs, but one of the ringleaders was a Ford model though I wasn't attracted to her. I actually hate her the most and still do. now this guy know what i'm talking about once upon a time i thought this one girl in class was hot. never said a word to her- ever. i caughter her looking in my direction one day and held her stare for a moment too long with a smirk on my face like i just robbed a bank and the cops couldn't get me. like this -> every once in a while after that moment she'd come sit near me and try to make some lame small talk. i can't recall what i said cos i simply didn't care what i said; i just said whatever was on my mind at the moment. every once in a while i'd catch her looking at me from the corner of my eye. so there ya go Link to post Share on other sites
thatdog Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 OP - I think posters like you are looking at dating the wrong way around. Dating is not supposed to be about ****ing hot girls (that's what bar/clubs are with the beer provided to help convince you that the girl you chat up is 'hot'). Dating is about hopefully looking for a life partner. Sure most of the girls you date aren't going to end up being you future wife but in the end hopefully one of them will be so that's what you look for. 40 years from now no woman you hook up with today is going to be that hot. You look for someone whose company you enjoy, because once you find 'the one' you are going to be stuck with her for a LONG time. The people you see dating/marrying average looking girls AREN'T settling. They just happened to meet the girl they want to spend time with, and those girls just happened to not be super hot. When I'm single I always HOPE the girl i end up dating will be hot cos that would obviously be quite awesome and a nice boost to the self esteem but that's much less important than them being FUN. Ok of course there has to be some level of decency in their looks (not morbidly obese, takes some pride in appearance etc), but seriously I love girls cos they're all soft and squishy and have those cool inny and outy bits . all girls have those qualities and if you like them and they want to take their clothes of and jump around on top of you then I'm pretty sure you'll find them sexy enough ;p Link to post Share on other sites
Sanman Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 A man cant truly love a woman who is less attractive than himself and a woman cant truly love a man who is less successful than herself. This is the reality of life. If you are an unattractive woman, know that any man who is with you is with you because he is not wealthy enough to afford the more attractive woman that he actually wants and if you are not a wealthy man, know that any woman who is with you is with you because she is not attractive enough to attract the more successful man that she actually wants. Sadly this is true of many people in society today. It is even evident when people list those 5 celebrities that they would cheat with or when married people shamelessly flirt with some hot young thing (this goes both ways). To get past it, you have to be extremely self-aware. I am one of those few and to those who want to chase hotties, that is fine by me. Leave the those good women who care about men, have careers, and contribute to a relationship to the men who can appreciate them. That way I can drift along happily into retirement with companion at the beach house we have worked together to afford and bbq while looking at the ocean. Meanwhile, you will still be stuck between the rock of divorce and the hard place of aging in loneliness. Then again, maybe you have to experience a hot girl or two to wise up. God knows, the happy friends I have the ones who went through that phase and know we are onto better things. Meanwhile, those who have not are perpetually stuck on the unattainable. Here is a clue, looks are not everything. If that all you want is sex with a hot girl, that is a few hundred dollars and a trip to an escort site away. If you think this hottie is going to bake you cookies and wipe your ass, you have another thing coming. That is not the way the world works. Link to post Share on other sites
thatdog Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 I'm 29 years old, I have been approached by two women in my entire life. Both were significantly heavier than I am. I doubt it unless you have 2 heads or something. A girls idea of 'approaching' a guy is very different to how we are expected to do it. My gf still insists that she is very assertive in chasing guys she likes and made the first moves in our relationship... She added me on face book. Other examples of girls approaching you might be.. saying hi to you in class sitting next to you at a social gathering agreeing with you teasing you erm pretty much any stupid social interaction. that's why it's so difficult for us guys to even notice these things. You just need to be astute and try and figure it out for yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
alethean Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Can we make a drinking game out of every time Rinnix is overly optimistic? I'm not everyone's cup of tea either. When dating I just hope that the person I'm with is very attracted to me, so that I don't feel like they are just settling as they "can't do better." It's rather insulting to be someone's settle mark, and I really hope many people don't have to endure that. Character can add 100x more beauty to a person. I'm sure that you must have many good traits to offer too, don't sell yourself short. You'll find someone who makes your eyes sparkle, and who looks back at you the same. Don't settle. For every "Rinnix" is a Debbie/Danny Downer... A man cant truly love a woman who is less attractive than himself and a woman cant truly love a man who is less successful than herself. This is the reality of life. If you are an unattractive woman, know that any man who is with you is with you because he is not wealthy enough to afford the more attractive woman that he actually wants and if you are not a wealthy man, know that any woman who is with you is with you because she is not attractive enough to attract the more successful man that she actually wants. Case in point. I doubt it unless you have 2 heads or something. A girls idea of 'approaching' a guy is very different to how we are expected to do it. My gf still insists that she is very assertive in chasing guys she likes and made the first moves in our relationship... She added me on face book. Other examples of girls approaching you might be.. saying hi to you in class sitting next to you at a social gathering agreeing with you teasing you erm pretty much any stupid social interaction. that's why it's so difficult for us guys to even notice these things. You just need to be astute and try and figure it out for yourself. Stop giving away our secrets! Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 I have a feeling that most people settle any average or below average when they think that their time is running out and they think they won't find the girl of their dreams. my cousin, like many guys, used to salivate over hot sexy girls...He ended up with a super below average girl cause she came to him(in school)and he just gave in (even though there were hot girls all the time in his class). I also have a dream of a hot sexy beauty but it's not happening and i'mgetting older, and i have a friend who is average but veeery nice and nice hearted. So it makes me want her as a GF even though i've always dreamed of a sexy babe. I can't relate with this at all. I'm fairly flexible on looks, I think what gets me is smell and intellect (and maybe active lifestyles). Those are things that I don't think I could compromise on. Unfortunately for me, women who fit this description are never interested. I mean like absolutely never, which is where I get frustrated. Link to post Share on other sites
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