L0stOne Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 I found this site from googling something for my friend & I'm probably gonna regret doing this but what the hell..here it goes... Beginning of 2010, I met this online. He never hid that he had a girlfriend and that he wanted to have sex with me, but I wasn't interested in him cause he was in high school when I was born and I didn't wanna just mess with anyone. I guess you could say we became friends cause he would tell me his secrets and said he trusts me to keep em, etc. Around the end of 2010, I finally agreed to have sex with him, but it didn't happen until last week and now I can't freaking stop thinking of what we did and him. I find myself feeling jealous of his girlfriend. I feel bad that I all I keep thinking about is I wanna see this guy again. I've spoken to him online since and he hasn't mentioned what we did, no more ''ur my baby'' stuff and there's a part of me who feels he has no respect for me cause of the things he was doing to me on camera but the crazy part is I kind of liked it
Author L0stOne Posted May 4, 2011 Author Posted May 4, 2011 On the way to his house in the car, he said if he could ask me something. I said ok. He said he has a fantasy of having sex on camera, but that he's never done it before, and I have thought about that doing that before with a boyfriend, but since I trusted him and knew that he would never show it to anyone cause he has a girlfriend and doesn't want her or anyone to know about us, I said ok why not. So he got happy and started saying some stuff, half my mind was paying attention & the other half was thinking ''wth r u doing?!" Then I heard him say something about a website and that we dont have to show our faces. That's when I realized he was talking about a webcam and I didn't hear anything else after that cause I started thinking ''oh f***!!!!!!" and I couldn't back out cause I already said ok and I'm just like that. I really didn't think people were gonna watch, well at least I hoped, but as soon as we started he said ''they're watching'' and I looked at the laptop and saw people typing, so I turned my head around really quick, but eventually both our faces were shown to ALOT of people. Now I feel stupid, I never expected him to leave his girl for me, but he gassed my head up making me think I meant a little something to him, telling me that he wants us to be honest with each other and why I keep talking to my ex boyfriend cause of what he did to me that I'm so beautiful & sexy, and I was his baby blah blah & now I feel whatever I feel for him and nothing from him.
Rose1977 Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 On the way to his house in the car, he said if he could ask me something. I said ok. He said he has a fantasy of having sex on camera, but that he's never done it before, and I have thought about that doing that before with a boyfriend, but since I trusted him and knew that he would never show it to anyone cause he has a girlfriend and doesn't want her or anyone to know about us, I said ok why not. So he got happy and started saying some stuff, half my mind was paying attention & the other half was thinking ''wth r u doing?!" Then I heard him say something about a website and that we dont have to show our faces. That's when I realized he was talking about a webcam and I didn't hear anything else after that cause I started thinking ''oh f***!!!!!!" and I couldn't back out cause I already said ok and I'm just like that. I really didn't think people were gonna watch, well at least I hoped, but as soon as we started he said ''they're watching'' and I looked at the laptop and saw people typing, so I turned my head around really quick, but eventually both our faces were shown to ALOT of people. Now I feel stupid, I never expected him to leave his girl for me, but he gassed my head up making me think I meant a little something to him, telling me that he wants us to be honest with each other and why I keep talking to my ex boyfriend cause of what he did to me that I'm so beautiful & sexy, and I was his baby blah blah & now I feel whatever I feel for him and nothing from him. Oh my God, honey, stay away from this man. I have a girlfriend who makes a living filming for one of those websites. She makes good money. First of all, what he did to you was illegal. Second of all, he made money off of you. It is illegal because every person who appears on camera on those websites MUST have a release signed with the company that runs the operation. It protects them against underagers appearing on camera. Second of all, all those people typing were paying money to see what you did, which means he made money off of you. You met him online. You are not the first girl he has done this to. The good news is, you are not a celebrity, so no one is going to use what was done to bribe you later in life. STAY AWAY FROM THIS MAN! He is a pimp looking for girls. These men are professionals, they know what to do and say to get what they need to make their money. I am so sorry you fell for this man. I can promise you anything wonderful you saw in him was just an act to get you to make money for him. He used you and your trust in a terrible way. This is NOT a normal relationship. Just heal yourself, be grateful you got away from him and remember this is just a game he plays with girls.
Author L0stOne Posted May 4, 2011 Author Posted May 4, 2011 Well before people started watching, he did ask me if I wanted to make money from it, but when we looked it said he needed to send in some stuff first so we just continued, and after we were done, he explained that we could make alot of money. So I don't think he played me on that. Now I'm just upset thinking about it all. The way he described we would be sounded nice, but I feel like he was just showing me off to the camera while we were having sex and at one point I went to stand up and he pushed me back down and said ''where r u going? I'm not done with u yet" and calling me a ''sexy bitch'' But that might have just been part of the sex act cause after he was nice again..IDK. I never thought he would play me knowing what I know & I have easy access to contact his girlfriend and could blow his whole spot up, but I'm not gonna do that. I still care about him & I feel hurt cause I probably mean nothing to him but just sex, but I dont want to hurt him.
pureinheart Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 Oh my God, honey, stay away from this man. I have a girlfriend who makes a living filming for one of those websites. She makes good money. First of all, what he did to you was illegal. Second of all, he made money off of you. It is illegal because every person who appears on camera on those websites MUST have a release signed with the company that runs the operation. It protects them against underagers appearing on camera. Second of all, all those people typing were paying money to see what you did, which means he made money off of you. You met him online. You are not the first girl he has done this to. The good news is, you are not a celebrity, so no one is going to use what was done to bribe you later in life. STAY AWAY FROM THIS MAN! He is a pimp looking for girls. These men are professionals, they know what to do and say to get what they need to make their money. I am so sorry you fell for this man. I can promise you anything wonderful you saw in him was just an act to get you to make money for him. He used you and your trust in a terrible way. This is NOT a normal relationship. Just heal yourself, be grateful you got away from him and remember this is just a game he plays with girls. This was my first thought also. He's using you gf...just take care of yourself and get tested for STD's asap.
Author L0stOne Posted May 4, 2011 Author Posted May 4, 2011 No, we didn't. Trying not to think about that. I'm not worried about STD's, it's getting pregnant I'm worried about. He pulled out, but it's still possible, and then all hell would break loose. That would totally ruin any chance I have getting back with my ex boyfriend who I hope will get my mind off my friend once I see him this week & I don't know his girl, but we have about 200 online friends in common...my name would be dragged through the dirt and back.
whichwayisup Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 No, we didn't. Trying not to think about that. I'm not worried about STD's, it's getting pregnant I'm worried about. He pulled out, but it's still possible, and then all hell would break loose. That would totally ruin any chance I have getting back with my ex boyfriend who I hope will get my mind off my friend once I see him this week & I don't know his girl, but we have about 200 online friends in common...my name would be dragged through the dirt and back. You SHOULD be worried about STD's just as much as getting pregnant. I'd say depending where you were in your cycle, and the fact he pulled out, the chances are alot less..But, if he has herpes or some other STD... Watch out. Please get yourself to a Dr and get tested.
alexandria35 Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 First of all you really need to take the STD warning seriously. An STD left untreated can cause permanent damage to your body or even death. Just go to a clinic and get tested okay? Now this guy sounds like a real jerk. I don't know how old you are but if you are young then you need to know that you are going to meet a lot of jerks in this life. I'm not excusing the jerks, they're despicable, but it's up to you to take care of yourself. By the sounds of your post it seems as if you met this guy online, let him talk about getting sexual with you and then recently met up with him for the sole purpose of having sex, and you even agreed to broadcast the sex online. Does anything about that sound loving or caring to you? Does this sound like a relationship based on anything other than sexual thrills? Oh I'm sure you two talked about things other than sex but it also seems that from the very start his interest in you was primarily to get you into bed. Now you say you want to get back together with your ex, and you can't stop thinking about the creep you just had sex with, and you're jealous of his gf. You don't sound very grounded. Is your self esteem tied to being wanted by men? I think you could use a year or two completely on your own with no male company at all. Perhaps even get some counselling because your decision to have sex with this guy on a webcam, a guy that who is significantly older than you, a guy who has a primary relationship with someone other than you, is indicative of some disturbance in you.
AuthenticBliss Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 indicative of some disturbance in you.Indicative of a troll, IMO.
Spark1111 Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 If authentic and not a troll, you were used to make a lot of money. I am worried you and he are on porn sites as we speak for the whole world to see. It is not the first time he has done this, I would bet. Older man, hot young babe, let's tape, and off to the bank he goes. Why, oh why, did you do this??????????????????
Author L0stOne Posted May 4, 2011 Author Posted May 4, 2011 The reason I wasn't worried about STD's is I figured they've been together for almost 2 yrs, and I thought if he would have gave her something, she'd definitely break up with him, but I will check, ya got me nervous now. I'm 23, he's 38, and he's not just some random guy that started messaging me. I had no idea who he was when I first started talking to him, but after a while since we had the same friends, I learned more about him & who he was. One of my close friends works with his ex wife. I never expected it to be more than sex, cause I don't even live here anymore. I'm going back home in 2 weeks. I just come here on my school breaks. But for some stupid reason, I think I caught feelings, and I don't want too. Before we met in person and did what we did, it was all about my ex, he was all I thought about, now I feel caught between them. Part of me just wants to message him right now cause he's online and say look I'll keep making your flyers & I'll make you videos, but I can't mess with you anymore, but I know me..I'd never say that to him. I went into that site when I got home cause he told me the name and I saw it when he was showing me about the getting paid & the other people who were live on video. There is a premium paid service, but he had a free account...it doesn't look like you can save it if you have a free account, at one point the computer was right on my face for about 15 mins and I was reading everything the people who were watching were saying and the part where it tells you how much money you made never went up. It stayed on 0. So I don't think he made money from it.
Rose1977 Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 Honey, PLEASE listen to me. DO NOT continue to make videos for this man. You are far from the first he has done this to. I promise you that all you were to him was money, and he did make money for you. Guaranteed when you talk to him he will tell you how much money you can make from doing live webcaam shows. This is not a man that wants or respects you, he wants you to make money for him. He will promise you that he will "show you the ropes" and teach you how to make money on the site. THAT IS A PIMP. Not all pimps walk around wearing pimp suits. With technology the way it is, they pick up girls like you online. PLEASE trust me, I know a lot about this. My girlfriend that does this for a living lives in my building. I give you this - she lives in a luxury high rise in NY... she has more clothes, shoes, etc. than she can keep in her apartment. She actually has to rent storage for her off season wardrobe . And guess what she DOESN'T have - real friends (she can't tell anyone what she does), a boyfriend (NO good man wants to be with someone who does that for a living), or her family. I know which site you are talking about. It's very popular, people you know WILL see you. Before someone pays to see you do things, they chat with you for awhile. There can be thousands of people seeing you before you even do anything sexual. My girlfriend's family found out rather quickly what she did and disowned her. She is not happy and now she has been doing it so long she has no resume, nothing to help her get a "real" job. I am tempted to walk down the hall and have her come on here to tell you what was done to you. YOU DO NOT WANT TO GET INVOLVED IN THIS. You are not the first girl he has done this to and you need to get tested.
Author L0stOne Posted May 4, 2011 Author Posted May 4, 2011 Now I'm nervous. I just googled the info I knew and all this stuff from different sites comes up with that date it happened & the amount of viewers, but when I click on it, it goes to his profile. If this gets out, we're both so screwed. Well, maybe not him, he'll probably get props cause he's a guy, but it won't be good for me. I'll probably be known as the skank who ruined his relationship & I'll get disowned too from my parents too. I really don't know what to think, he's sworn me to secrecy more than once that no one can know about us, so maybe he really didn't know other sites had access to it. I should have known since I know live streams can be recorded, but I wasn't thinking about that obviously. Guess this is what happens when I mess with a guy who's already involved, I'm here upset and he's probably chilling.
fooled once Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 I found this site from googling something for my friend & I'm probably gonna regret doing this but what the hell..here it goes... Beginning of 2010, I met this online. He never hid that he had a girlfriend and that he wanted to have sex with me, but I wasn't interested in him cause he was in high school when I was born and I didn't wanna just mess with anyone. I guess you could say we became friends cause he would tell me his secrets and said he trusts me to keep em, etc. Around the end of 2010, I finally agreed to have sex with him, but it didn't happen until last week and now I can't freaking stop thinking of what we did and him. I find myself feeling jealous of his girlfriend. I feel bad that I all I keep thinking about is I wanna see this guy again. I've spoken to him online since and he hasn't mentioned what we did, no more ''ur my baby'' stuff and there's a part of me who feels he has no respect for me cause of the things he was doing to me on camera but the crazy part is I kind of liked it :eek::eek: when are you going to realize you can ALWAYS change your mind? I cannot believe you went along with this -- to someone you really do not know! I will never understand why women send nude photos of themselves to people and make sex videos. I mean, HELLO - nothing on the internet is secret and nothing seems to be sacred anymore! I am far from a prude; but even married, I would never make a sex video or have pictures around the house! Houses can be robbed; you can die and your kids find that stuff. What is the big allure to seeing yourself naked and screwing someone? And sending naked pictures? Sorry, but to me, that is pathetic and warped, especially sending them to a married person. On the way to his house in the car, he said if he could ask me something. I said ok. He said he has a fantasy of having sex on camera, but that he's never done it before, and I have thought about that doing that before with a boyfriend, but since I trusted him and knew that he would never show it to anyone cause he has a girlfriend and doesn't want her or anyone to know about us, I said ok why not. So he got happy and started saying some stuff, half my mind was paying attention & the other half was thinking ''wth r u doing?!" Then I heard him say something about a website and that we dont have to show our faces. That's when I realized he was talking about a webcam and I didn't hear anything else after that cause I started thinking ''oh f***!!!!!!" and I couldn't back out cause I already said ok and I'm just like that. I really didn't think people were gonna watch, well at least I hoped, but as soon as we started he said ''they're watching'' and I looked at the laptop and saw people typing, so I turned my head around really quick, but eventually both our faces were shown to ALOT of people. Now I feel stupid, I never expected him to leave his girl for me, but he gassed my head up making me think I meant a little something to him, telling me that he wants us to be honest with each other and why I keep talking to my ex boyfriend cause of what he did to me that I'm so beautiful & sexy, and I was his baby blah blah & now I feel whatever I feel for him and nothing from him. He used you for a sex video. Accept it. In the future, do not allow someone to do that. Respect yourself more. You do know that colleges and employers use the internet to 'investigate' applicants. Pretty soon, facial recognition software will be more publicly available and won't prospective employers be happy to see you screwing some dude in a video they got off the internet. Please use your brain!!!! You meant nothing to him but someone to have sex with. He isn't in love with you, he isn't pining away for you. He manipulated you and saw that you were easy to get to do what he wanted. You have got to smarten up! No, we didn't. Trying not to think about that. I'm not worried about STD's, it's getting pregnant I'm worried about. He pulled out, but it's still possible, and then all hell would break loose. That would totally ruin any chance I have getting back with my ex boyfriend who I hope will get my mind off my friend once I see him this week & I don't know his girl, but we have about 200 online friends in common...my name would be dragged through the dirt and back. And you didn't even use protection and you still don't understand STD's and how they can be doormant for YEARS or he could just be a carrier and infected you. Have you not heard about HPV???? Did you not study this stuff in HIGH SCHOOL??? First of all you really need to take the STD warning seriously. An STD left untreated can cause permanent damage to your body or even death. Just go to a clinic and get tested okay? Now this guy sounds like a real jerk. I don't know how old you are but if you are young then you need to know that you are going to meet a lot of jerks in this life. I'm not excusing the jerks, they're despicable, but it's up to you to take care of yourself. By the sounds of your post it seems as if you met this guy online, let him talk about getting sexual with you and then recently met up with him for the sole purpose of having sex, and you even agreed to broadcast the sex online. Does anything about that sound loving or caring to you? Does this sound like a relationship based on anything other than sexual thrills? Oh I'm sure you two talked about things other than sex but it also seems that from the very start his interest in you was primarily to get you into bed. Now you say you want to get back together with your ex, and you can't stop thinking about the creep you just had sex with, and you're jealous of his gf. You don't sound very grounded. Is your self esteem tied to being wanted by men? I think you could use a year or two completely on your own with no male company at all. Perhaps even get some counselling because your decision to have sex with this guy on a webcam, a guy that who is significantly older than you, a guy who has a primary relationship with someone other than you, is indicative of some disturbance in you. Ditto. I am not even sure this thread is real. I can't believe someone is this naive in today's world!
2sunny Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 IF this is all true... go to the police. at the very least they can target watching him to see when he targets his next female victim. he will do this to others - it's the right thing to inform the polices about what exactly has happened. it could help other women not to fall into his trap in the future. can you do that?
Rose1977 Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 OP, you do have legal options here. Unless you signed a release, or gave a verbal consent on camera stating your date of birth and that you were fully aware that you were going to have sex on film, he is in violation of - I could be wrong here - but I believe the Federal Regulation is Act 2257. Google it and see what you come up with. People that appear on those sites MUST have releases signed. My guess is that he faked one for you. Not hard to do, they fax them into the company. There is a big difference between telling someone they are going to be filmed during sex and streaming it live to the web. You also have a strong civil case there. You prob don't want to go to the police b/c you are afraid of your family, etc. fiinding out. I suggest doing your research on exactly what parts of the law this violated and contacting him to tell him that you will contact the police for the criminal acts he committed and an attorney to proceed with civil action if he does not immediately destroy any video of you or if he gives your video to anyone. These men often use that to keep you filming for them. They tell you that unless you do it again, they will send the video to your parents, your friends, etc.... The GOOD news for you is that with the amount of videos, live feeds, etc... posted online every day, someone would really have to be looking hard to find yours. I never thought I would be so happy to have a sex worker for a neighbor LOL, she explained all of this to me tonight. GET TESTED!!!! Please. There are a lot of diseases that lie dormant with minimal symptoms and you don't even realize you have them until the symptoms get really bad and then you will have your fertility affected. Have a PCR DNA test. They are highly accurate and it will set your mind at ease.
SoleMate Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 STAY AWAY FROM THIS MAN! He is a pimp looking for girls. These men are professionals, they know what to do and say to get what they need to make their money. I am so sorry you fell for this man. I can promise you anything wonderful you saw in him was just an act to get you to make money for him. He used you and your trust in a terrible way. This is NOT a normal relationship. Couldn't have said it better.
Author L0stOne Posted May 5, 2011 Author Posted May 5, 2011 :eek::eek: when are you going to realize you can ALWAYS change your mind? I cannot believe you went along with this -- to someone you really do not know! I will never understand why women send nude photos of themselves to people and make sex videos. I mean, HELLO - nothing on the internet is secret and nothing seems to be sacred anymore! I am far from a prude; but even married, I would never make a sex video or have pictures around the house! Houses can be robbed; you can die and your kids find that stuff. What is the big allure to seeing yourself naked and screwing someone? And sending naked pictures? Sorry, but to me, that is pathetic and warped, especially sending them to a married person. I felt the same way you did, I never in my life thought I'd get on webcam and do that, but since he said I didn't have to show my face, I did it. And he was keeping my face hidden, but after I saw that they thought I was hot, I figured who the hell am I, it's live, nobody I know is gonna be watching & I stopped hiding my face. I am not even sure this thread is real. I can't believe someone is this naive in today's world! It is real. Why would I make it up? See this is why I said at the beginning I might regret this, but w/e. OP, you do have legal options here. Unless you signed a release, or gave a verbal consent on camera stating your date of birth and that you were fully aware that you were going to have sex on film, he is in violation of - I could be wrong here - but I believe the Federal Regulation is Act 2257. Google it and see what you come up with. People that appear on those sites MUST have releases signed. My guess is that he faked one for you. Not hard to do, they fax them into the company. There is a big difference between telling someone they are going to be filmed during sex and streaming it live to the web. You also have a strong civil case there. You prob don't want to go to the police b/c you are afraid of your family, etc. fiinding out. I suggest doing your research on exactly what parts of the law this violated and contacting him to tell him that you will contact the police for the criminal acts he committed and an attorney to proceed with civil action if he does not immediately destroy any video of you or if he gives your video to anyone. These men often use that to keep you filming for them. They tell you that unless you do it again, they will send the video to your parents, your friends, etc.... The GOOD news for you is that with the amount of videos, live feeds, etc... posted online every day, someone would really have to be looking hard to find yours. I never thought I would be so happy to have a sex worker for a neighbor LOL, she explained all of this to me tonight. GET TESTED!!!! Please. There are a lot of diseases that lie dormant with minimal symptoms and you don't even realize you have them until the symptoms get really bad and then you will have your fertility affected. Have a PCR DNA test. They are highly accurate and it will set your mind at ease. Thing is I did agree to it. I was sitting right next to him watching while he was on the pc, and signed into the site. I always knew he was into the webcam thing, so it wasn't a surprise to me when he asked. He's told me stuff he's did and so has a friend of mine. As for going to the police, I don't know if I could do that. One - my parents would probably find out. That could NEVER happen, and everybody we know would find out. I'm nobody, but if this gets out to the people that me & him know, I would be somebody and it wont be good. My ex boyfriend would find out and he would hate me. Two - Maybe he did use me just to have sex, but I don't think he's some perv who tricks girls to being on camera. He asked me, it's not like I had no idea there was a camera on & that people were watching. I am gonna do research on that site and see how it works and if it's possible to record what's being broadcasted, and I will go get tested.
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