grecian Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 I would like my guy to lose some pounds, not only for the sake of looks but also for his back issues. How can I tell him about it without making him feel bad or uncomfortable and without being pushy?
SmileFace Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 "I like sex and if your back stops working we can't have sex." Why don't you start exercising with him? Eating healthy together. You can't make someone want to lose weight.
chuckles11 Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 There is no nice way to tell someone to lose weight. You can frame it as a health issue if you want, but he's probably smart enough to realize that it's at least partially an appearance issue(which you sort of admit it is). It's also very hard to get someone to lose weight if they aren't self motivated.
thatdog Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 There is no nice way to tell someone to lose weight. You can frame it as a health issue if you want, but he's probably smart enough to realize that it's at least partially an appearance issue(which you sort of admit it is). It's also very hard to get someone to lose weight if they aren't self motivated. Agreed. Best way (kinda worked on me anyhow) is maybe to just start suggesting doing some fun activities together that just happen to be physically exerting. Sex is obviously great (suggest trying some more demanding positions?) and then try and get him to do stuff on the weekends like going for hikes, snorkeling, paintball, etc.. hoepfully you will both enjoy doing stuff together and he will notice himself that he is a little unfit and it might give him a push to get started. Also trying going on a diet/health kick yourself. If you live together that can be very helpful because you can start sticking calorie counters on the fridge and stuff, then after a little while just suggest it would be helpful to you if you both do it together 'because watching you eat junk food when i can't have any is a little depressing. I'd appreciate it of you helped me out by not eating so much of that around me cos it causes temptations'. It isn't guaranteed to work but they are good ideas at motivating him indirectly. At the end of the day just telling him to go on a diet won't work cos he still needs to find the motivation himself.
Author grecian Posted May 4, 2011 Author Posted May 4, 2011 We don't live together, but I do cook dinner a few times a week when he comes over, and my food is always healthy and light. He enjoys that but, of course, because of his demanding job he usually eats a huge lunch and has no time for snacks; i believe that's pretty bad for his energy levels and his weight. We play sports sometimes on the weekends; the guy is athletic used to play lots of sports but his job schedule is messing up his eating habits.
xpaperxcutx Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 I'm just going to assume he works at a desk because no matter how much a person eats at lunch they can usually burn it off by dinner if they have a job that requires them to move around. There are a couple of things you can do- workout with him, suggest a diet the both of you can go on together, or help him pack his lunches. Usually, a change in diet will help a person shed the extra pounds without exercising, but if he wants to get back into tiptop shape, you can help him devise a workout program the both of you can do on the weekends. Try a bootcamp interval where the both of you can go workout outdoors and train.
Professor X Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 Try and tell him along the lines of: Hey hon! I was thinking about registering to the local gym, I wanna start working on my figure (for whatever reasons) and I was wondering if you would like to join, I really don't wanna go all alone and I think it'll be fun for the 2 of us. Make sure you're all happy and cheery about it, try and focus it around you; how you're doing it for you and how you would want him there, etc etc. So he won't guess its for him.
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