sonic3 Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 It'll be week 7 tomorrow, I'd almost forgotten how many weeks it was too. I felt stuck around the start of week 5, but I can honestly say I've felt a huge improvement since then. I still think about her every day, but not as much. The best feeling is knowing that I can think about her, think about the past and it doesn't affect my mood anymore. I'm in a consistent frame of mind everyday now. The depression is gone, and so are any thoughts of getting back together. I still get wee moments of curiosity and think about looking her up online, but it's easy to snap out of it, the urge isn't over powering anymore. I'd read a lot of articles suggesting 4 weeks of NC is sufficient but I really don't think it is, I think 8 weeks is a nice target and letting go of any hopes of reconciliation or waiting to hear from them is a key factor. I think I am firmly on the path to indifference, although I'll be maintaining NC indefinitely to avoid any potential setbacks. I'm happy again and don't want to screw it up. Hopefully this will give people a bit of hope, NC definitely works in helping you heal and move on with your life. Only a few weeks ago I was still feeling down and time seemed to be going so slowly. Now I can barely remember the first day of NC it seems that long ago.
JasonRules Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 It'll be week 7 tomorrow, I'd almost forgotten how many weeks it was too. I felt stuck around the start of week 5, but I can honestly say I've felt a huge improvement since then. I still think about her every day, but not as much. The best feeling is knowing that I can think about her, think about the past and it doesn't affect my mood anymore. I'm in a consistent frame of mind everyday now. The depression is gone, and so are any thoughts of getting back together. I still get wee moments of curiosity and think about looking her up online, but it's easy to snap out of it, the urge isn't over powering anymore. I'd read a lot of articles suggesting 4 weeks of NC is sufficient but I really don't think it is, I think 8 weeks is a nice target and letting go of any hopes of reconciliation or waiting to hear from them is a key factor. I think I am firmly on the path to indifference, although I'll be maintaining NC indefinitely to avoid any potential setbacks. I'm happy again and don't want to screw it up. Hopefully this will give people a bit of hope, NC definitely works in helping you heal and move on with your life. Only a few weeks ago I was still feeling down and time seemed to be going so slowly. Now I can barely remember the first day of NC it seems that long ago. Sonic, I'll be at 8 weeks NC on May 6th and things do get better with time. You are not depressed anymore, although I do find myself thinking about the past here and there. It's just not as dramatic anymore. Getting back into the dating scene helps as well. I think once you reconcile with the idea that she isn't coming back and the relationship is over you can move forward with your life, which is what I have done. Someone better for me exists out there and I will find her.
Author sonic3 Posted May 4, 2011 Author Posted May 4, 2011 Definately, I've completely let go of any ideas of getting back together. I can see things a thousand times clearer now. I think people will always think of the past, I still get random memories of things we did together, but it doesn't affect me anymore. It's like the thought of breakfast a few weeks ago randomly popping into my head. It doesn't really mean anything.
nana841121 Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 It turned out our mood changes are the same. Both of your experiences speak mine. I am proud of myself that i didn't screw myself up or do anything dramatically. although during some weak moments, i did text him once initially. all these tears and depression are exuding sort of cathartic effects on me now.
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