joshextreme Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 So I have been 2 weeks NC since Monday. Everything was going well up until Saturday. I have prom this weekend and I'm not really friends with some of the kids going in our limo. Mind you my ex and her date are going in my limo. So I knew one of the kids smoked and I thought maybe if I bought cigs for the kid him and I would more likely be friends. I didn't buy the cigs I just offered to buy them. So what happened was he told everyone and in my group of friends that is a big no no. If I was dating my ex and did that she would for sure dump me. That's just not her scene. So now she has the smoking thing against me. She hasn't tried to talk to me since last tuesday when she texted me telling me she misses me. I don't think I'll see a text like that for a very long time. Next thing that happened which I know I'm an idiot for doing, I added my ex's date on fb. We just chat and I explained myself and why i blocked him and he completely understood up until i got a little too comfortable and said "well you bailing on her was karma" (he bailed on her by telling her that he didnt like her at all but wanted to go to prom as friends. and what i have heard from friends that is 100% true). So now a majority of the friends that my ex and I had shared have taken my ex's side because I'm an idiot. I don't know what to do. For some reason I keep missing my ex more and more. I'm talking to this really awesome girl who is like me in every way but it's just not the same. My ex has something that I want so badly. any help?
PelicanPete Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Josh good to hear from you Sorry to hear about what happened lately. You're still a bit shaky from the breakup which causes little slips here and there. Don't dwell on them, it's normal and you'll be fine. If your friends are judging you and taking sides let them, they probably people you wouldn't want to be surrounding yourself with anyway. Try your best to stay around your real friends. As for the girl, it's probably going to be hard to get back into dating right away. I would advise against flirting or stringing her along because you still aren't completely over your ex, and that wouldn't be fair to her. That doesn't mean you still can't be friends though. Break ups take a hit to your confidence, which is causing you to act and feel this way. Don't worry, you just have to give it time. Using another person will only mask the problem and will probably hurt them in the process, so just give yourself time to try to identify what exactly you still want from your ex, and then we can start working out ways to satisfy it.
Author joshextreme Posted May 3, 2011 Author Posted May 3, 2011 Josh good to hear from you Sorry to hear about what happened lately. You're still a bit shaky from the breakup which causes little slips here and there. Don't dwell on them, it's normal and you'll be fine. If your friends are judging you and taking sides let them, they probably people you wouldn't want to be surrounding yourself with anyway. Try your best to stay around your real friends. As for the girl, it's probably going to be hard to get back into dating right away. I would advise against flirting or stringing her along because you still aren't completely over your ex, and that wouldn't be fair to her. That doesn't mean you still can't be friends though. Break ups take a hit to your confidence, which is causing you to act and feel this way. Don't worry, you just have to give it time. Using another person will only mask the problem and will probably hurt them in the process, so just give yourself time to try to identify what exactly you still want from your ex, and then we can start working out ways to satisfy it. The break up was 4 months ago and it's been so rocky. Once prom passes though I know moving on will be A LOT easier. I won't have a reason to associate myself with her or anyone haha
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