savasana Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Long story short: we broke up, I implemented NC, he started calling/texting/e-mailing like crazy. I ignored all of it. He shows up at my house on Easter crying, not wanting to get back together, but saying he missed me, asking me if I was dating anyone, wanted to go to lunch. Like an idiot I went. We had a good time, he tried to hook up with me I said no but ended up hooking up with him the next day. Then I broke down begging him to try to work it out, he said ok and then didn't call me for five days. Shows up places I'm at, texted me the day before yesterday saying hi and that he saw me running. I didn't respond. He hasn't texted since then. I know he is talking to several other girls at the moment. He saw me with a male friend of mine and gave my male friend a nasty look. Is he confused? Just trying to be the controlling ex? When I broke down and begged him did it make him feel comfortable that I want him back and that's why he hasn't called like he was before? Will he start going crazy trying to contact me again?
smudge21 Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Sounds like you bruised his ego going NC and he didn't know how to handle it. Sadly you backed down (we all do it, don't beat yourself up, just move on) and now he's thinking he's got you where he wants you. Go NC again and this time just totally ignore him. If he persists, remind him of what happened the last time you broke NC and met him, and how he ignored you again. NC is tough, I know that for sure, but stick with it.
JasonRules Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Sounds go me like he was just horny and none of his female "friends" were available so he went back to you and sounds like you gave him exactly what he wanted. After he got what he wanted he didn't care for you anymore (you stated he didn't contact you for 5 days). Your ex sounds like a tool.
homebrew Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 My analysis is that if he wants to call you, he can. If he wants to sleep with you he can. If he wants to say "okay, now no more contact", he can. If he wants to change his mind and talk to you anyway, he can. Empowering for him. Bad for you.
Fufu Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 smudge21, JasonRules and homebrew say it all it's all up to you now.
nana841121 Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 The combination of commitment-free and hot sex sounds enticing to shallow people
Author savasana Posted May 4, 2011 Author Posted May 4, 2011 Ya....he always shows up where I am.. and a few days ago he saw me running and then texted me "I saw you running, and I waved".. then last night he instant messaged me at 2 am "good luck on your finals" jerk. jerk. asking my friends about me as well... when he tries to come back I either a) hope I'm over him and tell him to get lost OR b) hope I'm over him enough to turn him into a booty call (this would be nice, but I doubt I could ever put my feelings aside in regards to the way he has treated me) hate him.
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