jordkorn Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Just a general topic. Would you consider making out cheating? Would anyone take back an ex that cheated if they never say sorry or apologize to you? Then they just pretend it never happened.
hurley21 Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 I did and he only ended up cheating again. Its a power play almost. If they can get away with it once and still get to keep you, why not do it again? Nothing is learned. If someone cheats on someone then the person they cheated on isn't who they really want to be with. If you aren't satisfied, or still hung up on an ex or have 'undeniable' physical chemistry with someone else who you just can't resist- then leave the person you are with because they aren't the one for you. If they were, none of those temptations would prevail, you'd just want the person you're with.
Mike_d Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Would you consider making out cheating? he11 yes Would anyone take back an ex that cheated if they never say sorry or apologize to you? never take back a cheater period - words are words, cheating is an action
kbme311 Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 (edited) For me there are absolute dealbreakers in a relationship and one of them is cheating. My ex of three years cheated on me and begged me to take him back. He refused to move out and when I eventually got him out he moved close by to be near me. He waited for two years before seeing anyone else and when he did, he called me to check that there was still no chance between us. As far as I was concerned it was over from the moment he stepped outside the relationship. I was in shock and denial for a while and in no position to live by myself. I eventually saved up and got stronger and made him leave. During the time we were still living together he still showed exactly the same lack of respect towards me. It was only when I kicked him out and went nc with him that he realised what he'd done. (He wasn't in a relationship with someone else he had a series of one night stands.) He's now married and has a child and I think the experience was so bad that he wouldn't cheat again. So I don't necessarily think that 'once a cheat always a cheat' is true. In answer to your question: would I take back someone who cheated then pretended it hadn't happened and didn't apologise - absolutely not. The bottom line is - someone who cheats doesn't really love or care about you no matter what they say. They have no respect for themselves, you or the relationship. Staying with them is just delaying the inevitable. Get a life and move on:) Edited May 3, 2011 by kbme311
Kodo Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 I wish my ex had of cheated on me. Full blown hooked and shagged another guy while we were clearly together. Then I wouldn't be here grieving. I'd be pissed off and hurt but I'd accept it that little easier.
nana841121 Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 sounds like a self-evident question, doesn't it? From the perspective of neutral outsider, it is a stupid behavior to take cheating ex back. But people do stupid things all the time. once it's ourselves getting involved, it's hard to judge and always make the sensible choice. I have been thinking about the possibility of taking back my cheating ex. But in a second thought, no. i deserve better. Cliche is powerful.
DollyGirl12 Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 NOOOOO is my answer. Was actually in that situation last Sept. with my exbf. No apology, nothing. In fact he lied and lied through his teeth so there was not even the admittance of what he had done wrong. NO CHARACTER AT ALL!!!!!
geegirl Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 Making out is cheating. I would never take a cheating partner back. Whether he apologized or not. And if I did, one thing is definite and that is I would always be looking over my shoulder. Who wants to live and love that way.
PelicanPete Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 My ex cheated, although she called it "rape". I believed her and took her back because she was pretty upset about the whole thing, and I would've looked and felt like a jerk leaving her if she was just raped. Few years later she cheats and leaves me for another guy. We've been broken up for a few months now and a few days ago I was talking to one of our mutual friends about relationships and somehow rape got involved in the conversation and I mentioned my ex and her incident. He said he remembers talking to it about her but she never claimed it was rape, just that she shouldn't have cheated because she didn't want to lose me. She took full responsibility for it and didn't regret it. So moral of the story is never take back a cheater. They're selfish insecure people that don't deserve the privilege of a real committed relationship.
hellon Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 Once a cheater, always a cheater. Some people are just able to justify cheating to themselves, and so they do it over and over again. And yes, I would consider making out cheating.
EricaH329 Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 It'd be too easy for me to sit here and say No. I'd like to think i'd never take someone back that cheated on me, but i'm sure circumstances would play a huge part. What they mean to me, how long we've been together, the actual situation itself.
melenkurion Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 I did take one back, once. He'd had a few one night stands. Things seemed pretty good, and a couple of years later, we "married". A couple of years after that, he cheated with one of my friends and left me for that friend. I honestly wish I had never taken him back that first time. I will never do that again.
JustEmptyInside Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 I have to agree with the resounding NO!'s in the other posts. And i'll also agree that 99.98% of the time, once a cheater - always a cheater. I knew that my ex had cheated on a previous long term partner, but believed all her claims that it was such a huge mistake that she wish never happened. She had me convinced that she could never so that to me. Until she did that to me, and completely denied the whole thing. So yeah, I fell for it - even considered taking her back when she dumped me for him. Glad I stopped trying that. Cheating, especially on a long-term partner or spouse is just about the lowest, filthiest thing one person can do to another (in my mind at least). If they've done it once, that shows their true character, no excuses. Personally, I don't know how peoples at live with themselves. I know that if I make a commitment to someone, there's not damn thing in this world that would make me stray.
Flgirl44 Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 Looking back on it now my ex had cheated on all of his past gfs once the relationship was close to over. I wasn't any different for me. I loved him with all of my heart and I couldn't cope with it so there's no way I would accept it from anyone else.
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