Recap from the talk with the dept head

[NoMagicBullet]

Instead of making 50 threads maybe you should consider www.livejournal.com, just a thought

 

Truly excellent advice!

[one goal]

Im quite unhappy with her though. I wont say anything to her again on thur and probably tue too. Except maybe say goodbye on the last day of class.

[Cracker Jack]

*Posting in a tired topic for the lolz*

[collegeguy_24]

Im quite unhappy with her though. I wont say anything to her again on thur and probably tue too. Except maybe say goodbye on the last day of class.

 

Stop thinking about what your going or not going to say to her anymore. At this point, nothing is going to come of interacting with her, period.

 

Don't say goodbye, just get up, don't look at her, and walk out.

 

Its that simple.

[Professor X]

So, who likes cookies and milk?

And why.

 

GO!

[Lilmisus]

So, who likes cookies and milk?

And why.

 

GO!

 

"Mix your milk with my cocoa puff, milky, milky riiiiiiight."

 

Sorry..what it reminded me of

[one goal]

Stop thinking about what your going or not going to say to her anymore. At this point, nothing is going to come of interacting with her, period.

 

Don't say goodbye, just get up, don't look at her, and walk out.

 

Its that simple.

 

True. In class today I didn't even look at her when she handed one of my papers back. I was that upset and my chest was hurting. I wanted to not even be there, but i needed my points.

[oaks]

my chest was hurting.

 

If you're not exaggerating or just making this whole thing up then you need to get that checked out.

[collegeguy_24]

So, who likes cookies and milk?

And why.

 

GO!

 

I like cookies, especially peanut butter cookies with milk. Reminds me of good child hood times during christmas.

[Lorelei_Lane]

If you're not exaggerating or just making this whole thing up then you need to get that checked out.

 

If he was upset, it could have been a panic attack.

 

One goal, seriously hun, let it go. Just... leave it alone. Don't think about her, don't think about what you could say to her, just forget about her.

 

And seriously, you need to seek some counseling. You have some sort of obsessive personality and you latch on to things you THINK are there. You need help, to figure out what you're actually seeing and what you are imagining you're seeing.

[Eeyore79]

You may not enjoy attending class, but I expect your teacher likes it even less. Every class must be uncomfortable for her when she has to teach a student who has harassed her. She would have been well within her rights to insist that you were removed from her class because you make her uncomfortable, but instead she has chosen to behave professionally and allow you to remain in the class for the rest of the semester. Consider yourself lucky, keep your head down the the remaining classes, and for goodness sake please learn how to respect a woman's wishes when she says no.

[one goal]

If he was upset, it could have been a panic attack.

 

One goal, seriously hun, let it go. Just... leave it alone. Don't think about her, don't think about what you could say to her, just forget about her.

 

And seriously, you need to seek some counseling. You have some sort of obsessive personality and you latch on to things you THINK are there. You need help, to figure out what you're actually seeing and what you are imagining you're seeing.

 

I do have Xanax the Dr gave me once to use on occasion but its way expired.

 

All I wanted was a date with her because she was very cute, and has a great smile and she was single, and I don't have a gf, hence why I chose to ask her out.

 

Btw she's really like 13 years older than me. She's 40.

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Dude, you really need to get into therapy. If you're not a troll, and this is all real, you need to get checked out before you go postal.

[Dust]

Dude, you really need to get into therapy. If you're not a troll, and this is all real, you need to get checked out before you go postal.

 

I like that he tried.

 

I can also relate to having disagreements with professors.

 

Only mistakes he made in my book was doing it through email, and posting about it here so much.

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

I like that he tried.

 

I can also relate to having disagreements with professors.

 

Only mistakes he made in my book was doing it through email, and posting about it here so much.

 

I've commented about this before, but I'll do it again.

 

Once he learned that the professor was "unavailable", for ANY reason, he should have backed off. The first time she rejected him, he should have taken it smiling, and backed off and moved onto a different girl.

 

He's always posting about how mean girls are to him. I can relate, but somehow I can't, because if he acts this way with every single girl he comes across, that is why they're mean to him. Not because they dislike him for the way he looks, but for the way he acts.

 

He probably is a very good looking guy, who just acts like a creeper. The opposite of someone who is average looking, but is kind and gentle and is stomped on by women (the kind of guy that usually posts bitter stuff here.)

[one goal]

I've commented about this before, but I'll do it again.

 

Once he learned that the professor was "unavailable", for ANY reason, he should have backed off. The first time she rejected him, he should have taken it smiling, and backed off and moved onto a different girl.

 

He's always posting about how mean girls are to him. I can relate, but somehow I can't, because if he acts this way with every single girl he comes across, that is why they're mean to him. Not because they dislike him for the way he looks, but for the way he acts.

 

He probably is a very good looking guy, who just acts like a creeper. The opposite of someone who is average looking, but is kind and gentle and is stomped on by women (the kind of guy that usually posts bitter stuff here.)

 

When I first talked to her about going out she didn't say NO. It wasn't until a couple weeks later I sent her a facebook friend request because she has a lot of students on her friends list. When I asked her about it she said "I'm not going to do that." That was a hint to me she dislikes me and does not want anything to do with me. I backed off after that except for making one comment asking if she wanted to learn more about hockey. I didn't tell her she's hot, or if she wants to go out to dinner ect ect again.

 

The way the dept head explained it to me is that the teacher was trying to just ignore me.

 

So is it she probably should have been more direct instead of ignoring me and should have said NO?

 

The main reason why I saw the dept head today was because her general attitude towards me, and also other students. I think she was being mean to myself and others. Like today she kinda got into it with a girl.

 

Also I voiced my concerns to the dept head about my grades due to all this and my concern the teacher might be biased because of it. She was very defensive saying I'm accusing the teachers at my school of being unprofessional! I wasn't. i was stating a concern I had. THe dept head and her are friends though, so I shouldn't really expected a good outcome.

 

Overall I'm sooo glad I'm out of this school at the end of the year.

[whichwayisup]

You need to go back and re-read your other posts OG. You're forgetting about the emails, before facebook and before you asking her about hockey. You DID ask her out, she said no. you tried to get personal with her, asked her lots of personal questions..She got uncomfortable.. And so on.

 

Stop putting all this on her, and just completely let go. Other than posting stuff on her about her, do you log off and think of her and this situation constantly? When you go to bed? Wake up in the morning? It's like this is the ONLY thing in your life that's been going on for the past few months. Obsessing isn't good at all.

[one goal]

You need to go back and re-read your other posts OG. You're forgetting about the emails, before facebook and before you asking her about hockey. You DID ask her out, she said no. you tried to get personal with her, asked her lots of personal questions..She got uncomfortable.. And so on.

 

Stop putting all this on her, and just completely let go. Other than posting stuff on her about her, do you log off and think of her and this situation constantly? When you go to bed? Wake up in the morning? It's like this is the ONLY thing in your life that's been going on for the past few months. Obsessing isn't good at all.

 

I only asked her out twice!

[collegeguy_24]

I only asked her out twice!

 

When I first talked to her about going out she didn't say NO. It wasn't until a couple weeks later I sent her a facebook friend request because she has a lot of students on her friends list. When I asked her about it she said "I'm not going to do that." That was a hint to me she dislikes me and does not want anything to do with me. I backed off after that except for making one comment asking if she wanted to learn more about hockey. I didn't tell her she's hot, or if she wants to go out to dinner ect ect again.

 

Your statements contradict each other. You say you only asked her out once, then you say twice.

[one goal]

Your statements contradict each other. You say you only asked her out once, then you say twice.

 

Well going to a hockey game, i didn't consider that a date. Although It was kinda asking her out but I didn't mean it in the same context as going out to lunch.

[Lilmisus]

We need to stop telling One Goal where his story is failing and where he went wrong. He's looking for a pity party here and no one is supporting that. Now we're being mean to him...

 

You're right OG, you only asked her out twice, and she was being far too unfair and mean to you because it's not like you asked her out five times and sent her a hundred e-mails. It was only twice and around 20 some e-mails in a couple of months. They're overreacting over nothing.....

 

Let's just hope you don't end up getting a B+ due to her cruelty. Now THAT will be reason to go to the president of the university! Thank God you don't have to deal with these biased people anymore...thank God....

[collegeguy_24]

Well going to a hockey game, i didn't consider that a date. Although It was kinda asking her out but I didn't mean it in the same context as going out to lunch.

 

Perhaps she didn't see that way, she could have easily assumed you asked her out twice.

 

ANyways dude, this has gone on long enough. You need to stop thinking about her, and find someone else. Your going to a new collage, this is an opportunity to go out, meet new women, date them, sleep with them, be friends, study with them, etc.

 

The possibilities are endless, but your never going to enjoy that unless you let this one go.

[one goal]

Perhaps she didn't see that way, she could have easily assumed you asked her out twice.

 

ANyways dude, this has gone on long enough. You need to stop thinking about her, and find someone else. Your going to a new collage, this is an opportunity to go out, meet new women, date them, sleep with them, be friends, study with them, etc.

 

The possibilities are endless, but your never going to enjoy that unless you let this one go.

 

Maybe, but chances are slim. Everytime I ask a girl out I never get a date.

[patagonia]

I say you are 27...life goes on!!

 

For your own sake you gotta get going on this and not be so upset. People get rejected every single minute of every single day.

 

it doesn't matter how much you asked her out, how many times you didn't, what you said or didn't say, how you acted or plan on acting.

 

This is like reading posts from a young child. You are a grown man. You gotta pick up the pieces and move on...calmly!

 

good luck with it, you can do it.

 

seriously, move on. Leave the garbage in the trash can and close the lid.

[collegeguy_24]

Maybe, but chances are slim. Everytime I ask a girl out I never get a date.

 

It could just be the way you approch it.

 

How do you ask them out? Words can have an effect it just depends on the word.

 

So does body language. Here is a tip, never talk to a woman while your whole body is facing her. That is perceived as threatening. What you should do instead in have the side of the your body face them, like your walking together.

 

Always smile, be friendly. That is not perceived as threatening, and will give better success.

 

Also, when it comes to women, its a number game. You just need to keep at it and eventually someone will say yes.