illbefine Posted April 9, 2004 Share Posted April 9, 2004 ok...never done anything like this before, and i'm sad that i am in a state where i feel like this kind of reaching out is necessary...i don't know why. two and a half years ago, i saw the man of my dreams...tall, gorgeous - everything i have ever imagined ever wanting in a man physically. then over the course of the next 6 months we kept running into each other, and eventually, 2 year ago, started dating. he took me back to his home state to meet his family and things seemed great. about 2 months into our relationship, he purchased a business in south america - a small resort. he said he'd be splitting time, and he wanted me to come too. of course, i have a job and am not able to go too often. he goes for 4-7 weeks every 2 months or so. its really hard, and i miss him so much, but we stay in touch vie email im and phone and i went down on three separate occassions to visit him. it was always great. but still - i missed him. and when he is home, he is always off doing fun things...playing with the boys, skiing, etc...always gone for long weekends, and i can't go because of my job. still, he says he loves and wishes i could go more often. anyway, he just got back from south america back in feb and was off and running again with buddies - but still making future weekend plans that included me...i expressed discontent with this, and he broke up...saying we are not meant ot be, that if i were truly the one for him, he would want to spend more time with me and would be a better bf. it literally broke my heart. THEN, through reliable sources, i found out that in the last year he has cheated on my with at least 3 girls...in south america...one of whom is a long time "lover" - a girl who lives there - who is nothing like me, and who he has apparently been having sexual encounters with for the last 6-8 years...blew me away!!! i KNOW i should be SOOO mad...but i'm really just sad...and hurt...what is it about me that made it ok for him to do this to me? why am i not the right girl for him? i was so tolerant and understanding...i'm so scared that he will straighten out for the next girl, and be all to her that i wanted him to be for me....my friends say its not possible...that he's not capable of being a good bf to anyone and that he is the type who will always cheat. i confronted him about the cheating (and had before because of suspicions) and he denies most of it...says he hooked up with one girl a year ago...and that he is sorry for that...anyway...i just hurt everyday and am terrified that i will never meet anyone who will make me feel the way he did when it was good. Link to post Share on other sites
brashgal Posted April 9, 2004 Share Posted April 9, 2004 I am sorry to hear this happened to you but please do not think it happened because you were not good enough, had enough free time, etc. He was just selfish and did not care about your feelings. You are right. You will be fine eventually. Take good care of yourself right now. You probably will be angry in time - you'll run through lots of emotions. Please do not blame yourself! Link to post Share on other sites
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