lostmysoulmate Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 About 6 months ago I kissed another man and stayed at his house after a very drunk night out. My boyf was always working and I felt like he never had time for me so I used to go out and get drunk. I made a massive mistake and since have cut out alcohol and being around men that aren't long term friends. My boyf and I have stayed in a relationship but he has recently split up with me saying he can't forget it and he doesn't love me like he did. He said he wants to get those feelings back for me but unless he can its over. Is there anything I can do to get him back? I love him so much and I know I made a massive mistake xxx
Pianiste Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 All you can do is have patience. It's a tough blow when you hear the woman you love kissed a different man. You should be very happy he was willing to try and make it work and see if those feelings could return. Give him a month or two rest and then if you are still feeling the same for him try and slowly see whether contact could be revived.
Flgirl44 Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Ya you went drunk over to some guys house and just kissed him is really hard to believe. If you want your bf back, give him space and hope that he misses the good about you enough to put up with the bad.
Professor X Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 No-one cares if you were drunk nor why you were drunk. That been said, there's nothing you can do but to wait, it's his decision to make now. P.S. he will never forget that you cheated on him.
jnj express Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Stop using the word mistake---you knew what you were doing---you knew it was wrong to kiss/go home with the guy---you knew you were in a relationship, you knew what you were doing was wrong If you can't handle alcohol---then cut out the drinking What you did was partly spur of the moment, and partly planned, and you certainly did not put a stop to what you knew was wrong----YOU DID NOT MAKE A MISTAKE---you did exactly what YOU wanted to do!!!!!! If you can't handle your BF's working then you have a major problem---cuz guess what everything he/you get in this world, that allows your/his life to function at a decent level---comes from money---and unless you inherit, or steal it---YOU GOTTA WORK FOR IT Stop with all your excuses---you cheated, you wanted to cheat, and you did cheat
Author lostmysoulmate Posted May 3, 2011 Author Posted May 3, 2011 I hear what your saying, I can't handle my alcohol I know. That's why I have completely cut all alcohol out. I don't want to be that person, I want to make my ex happy and I know that he won't ever completely forget what I did but I am willing to do whatever I can to get his trust back. I know its important to work, I work myself I'm talking about times when were planned to do something yet I don't see him until 1 in the morning coz he's been working. I don't care about money, I care about being with the person I love and I , wrongly, thought he just didn't want to spend time with me xx
OldOnTheInside Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Nope, nothing you can do but be patient. It is his choice not yours. I know that many people consider cheating during the dating phase to be unforgivable. Why spend the rest of your life with a potential cheater? If you are lucky your bf will be an exception. I would suggest that you learn from this mistake and prepare to move on.
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