Ginger Beer Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Would you consider a girl telling you that other men fancy her to be normal behaviour? For example; ''I like the bouncers at such and such nightclub, one of them fancies me''. Normal, or strange?
Rinnix Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 It's a common thing. To me it's just not classy, it's stating that she has other options. If someone I had interest in told me how others wanted him, well they can have him!
Author Ginger Beer Posted May 3, 2011 Author Posted May 3, 2011 Yeah, I don't like it. She knows I get jealous too. Is it worth saying anything about it?
Rinnix Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 The point is generally to make you jealous, which is why it's far from classy. A girl like that wouldn't be worth taking on a date in my eyes. You can address the issue with her though.
AstroZombie138 Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Yeah, I don't like it. She knows I get jealous too. Is it worth saying anything about it? So is this girl your girlfriend or someone you're dating? Sounds kind of insecure on her part.
Author Ginger Beer Posted May 3, 2011 Author Posted May 3, 2011 Sort of in the middle of girlfriend and dating (hard to explain). Why would she want to make me jealous though? I did think maybe she is a bit insecure, I don't get why you'd tell your love interest that other people fancy you. I wouldn't do it because I wouldn't want to hurt her.
AstroZombie138 Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 I don't get why you'd tell your love interest that other people fancy you. Possible that she doesn't feel desired or enough affection from you? And Rinnix--I think I've developed a slight crush on you, what with all your smilies and cheery advice. (Plus I still think you got hosed in that one thread when people were questioning your self-assessment of above average)
Rinnix Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Possible that she doesn't feel desired or enough affection from you? And Rinnix--I think I've developed a slight crush on you, what with all your smilies and cheery advice. (Plus I still think you got hosed in that one thread when people were questioning your self-assessment of above average) Agreed where it was mentioned that she may be insecure and wanting more attention from you. Id suggest talking to her and telling her how you feel. If she's understanding she may see where she went wrong with it. Astro - You sure give some great advice too! Im flattered you think so , but everyone sees beauty differently, sometimes I just don't fit peoples types. No problemo
AstroZombie138 Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 ^Well, thank you, Rinnix. I met a girl a week and a half ago at a bar and we will be meeting up on our 3rd date Wednesday. Anyway, my own neuroses brought me to this site as I haven't dated anyone in a while (other than a few drunken hook-ups). With regards to beauty, I realize that people see things differently. However, I think those people were just saying those things because they may have perceived you as being arrogant/conceited and were just trying to "put you in your place". I'm pretty sure if I showed your picture (don't worry, I won't!) to 10 random guys none of them would rate you average or below. (Sorry I hijacked your thread, Ginger. Wanted to send that to Rinnix in a private message but didn't see an option for that)
Author Ginger Beer Posted May 3, 2011 Author Posted May 3, 2011 No problem mate, I don't mind sharing this thread.
Rinnix Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 I believe you have to unlock messaging, I recenly got it myself after numerous posts. When I look back at the thread I do wish I worded it differently, I didn't intend on coming off that way (I could see why people would think so.), and If I could edit it I would focus a lot more on character to. Alas, lesson learned Hope that 3rd date goes well @Ginger Beer Do let us know how it turns out if you have a talk with her.
Enchanted Girl Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 The way its worded sounds like what everyone is saying . . . that she's just trying to make you jealous, BUT . . . . I wouldn't say every time this is done, its out of jealousy. I tell my boyfriend whenever a guy asks me out because if I hide it and he finds out on his own, I'm scared he'll think I was leading the guy on or am cheating on him with the guy. So I usually say,"This guy asked me out, but its okay, I don't like him for so and so reasons and I told him no. I just think its better for me to be honest and not hide things from you so I am sharing this with you."
Rinnix Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 The way its worded sounds like what everyone is saying . . . that she's just trying to make you jealous, BUT . . . . I wouldn't say every time this is done, its out of jealousy. I tell my boyfriend whenever a guy asks me out because if I hide it and he finds out on his own, I'm scared he'll think I was leading the guy on or am cheating on him with the guy. So I usually say,"This guy asked me out, but its okay, I don't like him for so and so reasons and I told him no. I just think its better for me to be honest and not hide things from you so I am sharing this with you." I also agree with this. I'll do the same with my boyfriend. But seeing as they just started dating and she's already pointing out that other's fancy her, I see it as more of a way to bring on some competition.
AstroZombie138 Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 I'll do the same with my boyfriend. But seeing as they just started dating and she's already pointing out that other's fancy her, I see it as more of a way to bring on some competition. Are you going to tell him that some random online zombie revealed he has a crush on you?
Rinnix Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Are you going to tell him that some random online zombie revealed he has a crush on you? I don't know, should he feel threatened? !
Star Gazer Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 I think that's normal behavior for someone who's in their teens and maybe early-early 20's... other than that, not normal.
AstroZombie138 Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 I don't know, should he feel threatened? ! Nah--as long as she shoots me in my brain...twice! That, and I might have issues traveling in Canada...
Rinnix Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Nah--as long as she shoots me in my brain...twice! That, and I might have issues traveling in Canada... It's a shame, Canada is the best place to be.
AstroZombie138 Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 ^I actually had plans to visit your city this summer but I had to bail. I would have been on a chartered bus with around 100 people so I might have been able to get around my "travelling in Canada" restriction.
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