Illiandra Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 My friends and i went to a party this weekend. I met this guy who seemed interesting and we exchanged numbers. We have been talking everyday and he told me that he is fresh out of a relationship. Heres the kicker, he told me he still lives with his ex gf because he needs to find a place to move into. I appreciated him telling me this,,, but now im not so sure what to do. I dont wanna be the rebound girl let alone deal with a tough situation like this, guess i should be cautious? After he told me that he still lived with her he asked if i will stop talking to him and i said no unless there were reasons for me to stop talking to him i wouldnt, and he said he doesnt want me to stop talking to me and that he wants to get to know me and for us to hang out. Has anyone dealt with this before, because this is a first for me!
Rinnix Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Just out of a relationship, still living with gf, yet still trying to get women? That would be a huge red flag for me. He should be focusing on moving on and getting a new place. I would say hes on the rebound. I would run for the hills while you still can.
daphne Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 I agree. This is a high risk, potentially low reward proposition you're entering. A gf of mine just snooped through her bf's phone and found he was still talking to the ex about "us." They met when he was only about a month broken up. And crazy enough, she's willing to deal with teh competition until she finds out who he chooses. Do you want that for yourself? If you dont' like drama, I wouldn't sign up for that. Personally, if you really like him I'd suggest that you let him know that now might not be a good time but to call you when he's had more time to heal and is, more importantly, no longer living with her!
Author Illiandra Posted May 6, 2011 Author Posted May 6, 2011 haha thanks! yes his stuff is there, but he moved into his friends place now,,, i told him i didnt want anything to serious esp since he just got out of a relationship. he said he started looking for a place. his question to me was,,, whats the difference if he was single now for a few weeks vs being single a few months... i said he needs time to heal and get over her! ughhh all i know is if my ex was single 3 weeks and was doing this i would be so levid!
vsmini Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 NEVER NEVER NEVER get involved with someone who has recently broken up with a long-term gf/bf (recently is at least 1-2 months) and NEVER EVER get invovled with someone who lives with their current girlfriend or ex. He's got both things going for him. Don't even try it. toss that number away.
jerbear Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 Everyone moves at their own speed regarding rebounds. He might not even be ready 3 months from now or he is ready the day they broke up. Who knows. Having an ex within a close vicinity is asking for trouble. My suggestion, put him in the friend zone, go find someone else. Perhaps in the future you two might be ready.
Author Illiandra Posted May 6, 2011 Author Posted May 6, 2011 i told him i wouldnt pursue anything until he moves out, currently we just hang out, nothing serious. he doesnt have both things going if hes looking for a place and lives at a friends house. my concern is how fast he wants to move things, expresses interest in me or better yet i dont want to be someones distraction since the first few months of break ups are difficult. ive made it clear that i wont be the rebound chick since we talked abut it and he basically said he broke up with her and hes moving on since he knws that relationship wasnt going anywhere!
TheLoneSock Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 I dont wanna be the rebound girl let alone deal with a tough situation like this, guess i should be cautious? Umm, you will do both if you pursue this. Guaranteed.
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