ReallyNice Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 I've always had a crush on this really hot guy i work with. We've hung out a couple times with friends but haven't really spoken before. A few days ago i decided to work up my courage and tell him that i think he's really cute. The rest of the night he flirted with me and we even made out (sober). He then tells me that he's always thought i was cute too, he's just never thought about me in that way before because he didn't think i would like him. He asked for my number and walks me home and says he'll call me. What should i think about this? I really like this guy....
Author ReallyNice Posted May 3, 2011 Author Posted May 3, 2011 this all happened this passed saturday. I talked to him yesterday at work and things aren't awkward. So it's really only been less than a day since i've heard from him and i haven't heard from him today at all. I'm not freaking out about him not call me today, but i would like to know how long is too long before i should call him? Or maybe he's just waiting to see me at work?
AstroZombie138 Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 It seems too early to tell. It's possible he's using you because you opened up and told him you were attracted to him. (not trying to rain on your parade, but guys do that all the time)
LadyWriter Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 He said he would call you, so let him. At this point, only time will tell. If he's interested, he'll get in touch with you. Just don't make the mistake of getting attached too quickly and then having it backfire on you. Trust me on that! If it's meant to happen it will. Just be your yourself, be firendly, don't make too much of a point to seek him out....just let it happen.
Author ReallyNice Posted May 3, 2011 Author Posted May 3, 2011 Thanks for the advice. We have alot of mutual friends and from everyone who knows him, they all say he's a good guy. So i really hope he isn't using me. but i'll keep my eyes open!
Author ReallyNice Posted May 3, 2011 Author Posted May 3, 2011 I got a message today from him asking if i wanted to take his shift at work because he's sick. I don't know why but i feel really weird about this. Is it still early to tell? Am i still being potentially used?
WillSingForFood Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 I got a message today from him asking if i wanted to take his shift at work because he's sick. I don't know why but i feel really weird about this. Is it still early to tell? Am i still being potentially used? I don't think so, but just be cautious. If he pulls this move more than once, then yes, you are being used. If he never calls to ask you out on a date, and doesn't try to pursue you in anyway, then I think he can be labeled a 'loser' that you don't want anything to do with. But it's too early to tell.
Author ReallyNice Posted May 3, 2011 Author Posted May 3, 2011 Thank you for the advice! I've been thinking about it all day. I'm a little embarrassed that i'm thinking too much about all of this when things only "started" 3 days ago. I'm really afraid of being hurt.
snug.bunny Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 Why so wound up after three days? Take a cold shower And...how is he using you....You didn't make sexy time, did you? Word of caution on the fly, he's a co-worker --- he may have reservations about that, perhaps maybe of which he didn't consider until after you kissied.
Author ReallyNice Posted May 4, 2011 Author Posted May 4, 2011 haha no we didn't have sex. It's just that I've had a crush on him for as long as i've worked at my job which is about a year and a half. I guess what i'm thinking about if he just used me for a make out session..... but i really don't think so because the next day he told me that he thinks i'm really cute and asked for my number and walked me home and hugged me. And about 10 mins after i walked into my apt he sent me a funny joking text message (which was nice). I just figured that if he was using me he would have told me i was cute and got my number before making out with me instead of the next day. maybe? and the day after i saw him at work he stared at me a lot and it seemed like he went out of his way to talk to me and stumbled a little over his words. haha like he was nervous. either way it was really cute. i guess i'm just jumping at the chance to maybe have something with him. :/
LadyWriter Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 i guess i'm just jumping at the chance to maybe have something with him. :/ I think that's it. Your so excited at the possibility of you + him that your analyzing every detail, daydreaming different scenarios about you two being together and it's making you a little (for lack of a better word) crazy. Not straight jacket kind of crazy, but the kind that distracts and constantly makes you wonder "whht if?" I've been there, I know. Sounds like he might have some genuine interest, so just take it easy for now.
Author ReallyNice Posted May 13, 2011 Author Posted May 13, 2011 ok so things have been great my crush has met my best friend and pretty much went out of his way to talk to him. When i asked him what he and my best friend talked about he said they talked about me. He still likes me!!! That night i spent the night with him and that was really great. (Nothing happened) However..... now i feel really weird. This all happened this passed Saturday/Sunday i've seen him at work....and yeah he talks to me... i get the vibe like nothing ever happened between us. And i don't even hear from him outside of work (no texts no nothing) but it's only been 1 day since i've seen him (at work) but i dunno. I today i texted him and told him that we should hang out and that i really wanted to talk to him about something. all he replied was "Ok" so i said back "Just let me know a time that's good for you" and i haven't heard anything back. I REALLY like this guy. Should i worry about this?
Dust Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 ok so things have been great my crush has met my best friend and pretty much went out of his way to talk to him. When i asked him what he and my best friend talked about he said they talked about me. He still likes me!!! That night i spent the night with him and that was really great. (Nothing happened) However..... now i feel really weird. This all happened this passed Saturday/Sunday i've seen him at work....and yeah he talks to me... i get the vibe like nothing ever happened between us. And i don't even hear from him outside of work (no texts no nothing) but it's only been 1 day since i've seen him (at work) but i dunno. I today i texted him and told him that we should hang out and that i really wanted to talk to him about something. all he replied was "Ok" so i said back "Just let me know a time that's good for you" and i haven't heard anything back. I REALLY like this guy. Should i worry about this? You should be pretty cautious considering he hasn’t done much chasing back. Hold back from sex until things change.
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