chubbycharmer Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 She rarely smiles and almost never laughs. Her words and actions are always of a pragmatic nature. The woman's demeanor and general posture is self-assured, verging on arrogance. Not to say they cannot be witty or charming. Usually they possess a high intelligence and quick mind. Also don't confuse this with a stuck up woman. More of a no nonsense kind of gal. What are your thoughts on this type of girl? I really love the personality in women, but it seems they are all too rare. The kind of heroine found in many modern movies and stories. Of recent films, I think Scarlett Johanssen's character in Iron Man 2 comes closest to what I'm talking about (in general behavior- stern, unflappable confidence, concise). I find many girls are too "bubbly" for my taste. They're like pinballs bouncing around always asking if I'm excited or having fun.
Rinnix Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 I see it as a mood killer. I like to smile and laugh, even if that makes me bubbly.
stepka Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 I know the type--they often seem to be married to men who are class clowns. We have one in our dance group and she's exactly as you describe and her husband is all over the place--flirting with all the women and just cutting up and having a good time. Are you like that?
misssmartypants Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 That kinda sounds like me, apart from looking like Scarlet Johansen. I tend to be pretty serious, to be honest, I always feel like it holds me back socially.
sanskrit Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 You have described my mother to a "t." Pros: Much more consistent in behavior than other more emotional women, this type is rarely a luxury addict or social climber, will run children and a home with an iron fist which is good parenting imo, not as likely to cheat, well thought of in the community. Cons: Judgmental to the point of ball-busting, prone to nag and complain, sometimes hard to have any fun with, can be very manipulative. I love my mother but avoid becoming involved with that type of woman personally as I simply can't tolerate a stern disposition that easily slides over into outright sourness from time to time. Life is to short to go around so serious all the time.
Disillusioned Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 She rarely smiles and almost never laughs. Her words and actions are always of a pragmatic nature. The woman's demeanor and general posture is self-assured, verging on arrogance. Not to say they cannot be witty or charming. Usually they possess a high intelligence and quick mind. Also don't confuse this with a stuck up woman. More of a no nonsense kind of gal. What are your thoughts on this type of girl? Send her to my house. Pronto.
Author chubbycharmer Posted May 3, 2011 Author Posted May 3, 2011 I know the type--they often seem to be married to men who are class clowns. We have one in our dance group and she's exactly as you describe and her husband is all over the place--flirting with all the women and just cutting up and having a good time. Are you like that? I see that view expressed from time to time. In person I rarely see the party animal/socialite/class clown paired with a saturday night book worm type. Though I'm sure it does happen. You have described my mother to a "t." Pros: Much more consistent in behavior than other more emotional women, this type is rarely a luxury addict or social climber, will run children and a home with an iron fist which is good parenting imo, not as likely to cheat, well thought of in the community. Cons: Judgmental to the point of ball-busting, prone to nag and complain, sometimes hard to have any fun with, can be very manipulative. I love my mother but avoid becoming involved with that type of woman personally as I simply can't tolerate a stern disposition that easily slides over into outright sourness from time to time. Life is to short to go around so serious all the time. Your past memories seem to be tarnishing the type There are different kinds of serious personalities. I'm thinking more of the confident, composed, and poised type rather than the domineering and overly assertive variety. If anyone has seen the disney movie Atlantis: The Lost Empire, there's a character in there that fits the bill: Helga Sinclair
stepka Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 I guess I'm confused too. The type I'm envisioning is not the bookworm type. The ones I'm thinking of are too busy for that and consider book reading to be a waste of time. I'm the bookworm type and doubt I fit your description though I come off rather serious at times but certainly nothing near arrogant. (I don't think) I was also imagining the scolding, nagging type--the ones with no sense of humor and though I know they attract men, I have a hard time imagining why but women are clueless as to why men are attracted to certain things for sure.
Knittress Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 I might respect this type of person, perhaps even like them quite a bit, but what really attracts me to a person of either gender is emotional warmth.
Author chubbycharmer Posted May 3, 2011 Author Posted May 3, 2011 I guess I'm confused too. The type I'm envisioning is not the bookworm type. The ones I'm thinking of are too busy for that and consider book reading to be a waste of time. I'm the bookworm type and doubt I fit your description though I come off rather serious at times but certainly nothing near arrogant. (I don't think) I was also imagining the scolding, nagging type--the ones with no sense of humor and though I know they attract men, I have a hard time imagining why but women are clueless as to why men are attracted to certain things for sure. Sorry about the term. Studious may have been more accurate. The kind interested in self-improvement. It's hard to describe accurately in a few sentences, which is I why I keep tossing out characters in film for reference. If you haven't seen any of the ones I've mentioned, a few more similar to what I'm talking about are Eva Green's (Vesper) character in Casino Royale and Lisbeth Salander from The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo. Although she is a bit more brooding than the others. Aloof personalities which give them an air of arrogance.
Nexus One Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 (edited) I had a coworker like that and surprisingly I found her compatible, I'm not saying I was into her and didn't have a crush on her, but she continuously surprised me with her common sense, realistic view and how we agreed on pretty much everything. She'd also every now and then bend over her desk with her knee on the chair, which brought out all her curves in all their splendid glory. But she had a boyfriend, so I never considered her as girlfriend material. Usually I fall for the happy, positive and optimistic girls, but she often surprised me by the things she said, because I would go like: "Hey that's what I would have said." Anyway, I brought something to work which she wanted to borrow, I gave it to her and she started blushing and smiling, which surprised me, since she had a boyfriend. Another female coworker of mine has been doing the same lately every time I come to her desk to discuss something, she too has a boyfriend. I should probably be flattered, but to be honest it makes me worry a bit about women-kind. You'd think women would pick boyfriends which make them feel like they wouldn't be interested in anyone else. But maybe I'm projecting my own patterns onto women, because I generally tend to fall for girls that end all other girls. (for me anyways) Edited May 3, 2011 by Nexus One
Woggle Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 There is a woman on my block who is like that and my wife and I were afraid to introduce ourselves when they first moved here because she never smiles but she is actually pretty nice once you get to know her. She is married and they seem to have a great relationship. She isn't my type but I can certainly think of worse people to date.
Andy_K Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Rarely smiles and never laughs? All I can say is she better be packing the body of a goddess and the skills to match or I can't imagine why I'd want to spend any time with her
Disillusioned Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 What, she's not allowed to have a demure personality? Man, you people are almost as picky as I am!
irc333 Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Right, they talk like a Vulcan and give no warm fuzzies like most feminine women do. Kind of a turn off for me. She rarely smiles and almost never laughs. Her words and actions are always of a pragmatic nature. The woman's demeanor and general posture is self-assured, verging on arrogance. Not to say they cannot be witty or charming. Usually they possess a high intelligence and quick mind. Also don't confuse this with a stuck up woman. More of a no nonsense kind of gal. What are your thoughts on this type of girl? I really love the personality in women, but it seems they are all too rare. The kind of heroine found in many modern movies and stories. Of recent films, I think Scarlett Johanssen's character in Iron Man 2 comes closest to what I'm talking about (in general behavior- stern, unflappable confidence, concise). I find many girls are too "bubbly" for my taste. They're like pinballs bouncing around always asking if I'm excited or having fun.
Woggle Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Rarely smiles and never laughs? All I can say is she better be packing the body of a goddess and the skills to match or I can't imagine why I'd want to spend any time with her They aren't my type but my neighbor is actually a likable person once you get to know her.
Professor X Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 @OP, have you ever been with one? Cause I can tell they are not easy to be emotionally involved with. As a friend sure, but more than that... Hard, very hard.
Author chubbycharmer Posted May 3, 2011 Author Posted May 3, 2011 Right, they talk like a Vulcan and give no warm fuzzies like most feminine women do. Kind of a turn off for me. Well, I wouldn't be so quick to equate a serious personality with an emotionless one. They can go hand in hand. @OP, have you ever been with one? Cause I can tell they are not easy to be emotionally involved with. As a friend sure, but more than that... Hard, very hard. Yes. I prefer that type over the lovey-dovey kind. I only put up the thread to see how others viewed them. They're certainly a rarity, and perhaps for good reason, because it seems not very many people like the type For instance, you're sitting in a group and someone tells a funny joke. Everyone starts laughing. As you look around the table you spot this girl, not laughing, not even smirking. Instead she simply says "Amusing." Love at first sight
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