Owl Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 LOL!!! That's because this place is (theoretically created for OW/OM) is overrun by BSs who love to give "advice" under the guise of a "open forum" and "opinions". Who cares if Daisy wants to celebrate her love? Good for her to be so grounded in her convictions. Should she not end up with her man I'm sure she'll deal with it. In the meantime, I see no point in raining on her parade. LOL..."overrun by BS's"...I got this mental picture of a landscape covered in lemmings!!!! LS isn't "overrun" by anything...these are simply the posters who are here. The point is that this is the forum that it is...and there is support provided by posters from all sides of the triangle for those that want it. If the support provided by this forum doesn't meet someone's wants/needs...then they should seek out a forum that will meet their wants/needs, rather than come here and complain that this one isn't what they want it to be. Don't walk into Wal-mart and complain that you can't find the caviar...you'll look darned foolish to the rest of the customers and staff. If you don't to rain on Daisy's parade...feel free not to. Just don't be amazed when a lot of us who are here don't feel like she's going to accomplish much by insisting that everyone who is here should be part of the marching band.
Spark1111 Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Daisy, if you are happy, I am happy. I think real love inspires, uplifts, supports, is kind, considerate, respectful, does not boast or criticize or causes pain to others. Real love should not hurt another, IMHO.
Cabin Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Eek. I think I've read enough to reconsider coming back on this forum very much. This place IS overrun with BS who get their kicks passing judgement on others. Honest question: is there not a forum for the scorned wives? If not, could one be created? Seriously. Regardless of what's right, what's wrong, or what anyone thinks... this is a forum for OW/OM. It should be a place where people can be mature, positive, critical, and productive in their posts. Cabin
BB07 Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Cabin said........Eek. I think I've read enough to reconsider coming back on this forum very much. This place IS overrun with BS who get their kicks passing judgement on others. Honest question: is there not a forum for the scorned wives? If not, could one be created? Seriously. Regardless of what's right, what's wrong, or what anyone thinks... this is a forum for OW/OM. It should be a place where people can be mature, positive, critical, and productive in their posts. Cabin Eck.......one could also say that it should be a forum for mature non childish OW (of which the mentioned poster does not fit the criteria of) and the OP should be able to read all of it and discard what they don't need. Oh and there is NO place on LS where users are protected from others who fail to fit your criteria of approved posters. It kinda works like real life.
fascinated Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 This whole thing is terrifying. Part of me thinks pass the popcorn and the other part of me thinks hide the rabbits. Yikes. <SNORT!> I love this line! I admit I'm cynical, not sure I even believe in love anymore, but I find the company here to be fabulous!
pureinheart Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 But FO. Daisy is posting from the viewpoint that she thinks this forum is predominantly for OW/OM.... This priddy much covers it SG!
BB07 Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 <SNORT!> I love this line! I admit I'm cynical, not sure I even believe in love anymore, but I find the company here to be fabulous! Then you and I must have a similar sense of humor......cause I thought it was hilarious also. Twisted and a little sick but still hilarious. Get this..........I kinda like your comment also about the cynical and not sure about the love thing anymore and hey I think the company here is excellent myself.
fascinated Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 Then you and I must have a similar sense of humor......cause I thought it was hilarious also. Twisted and a little sick but still hilarious. Get this..........I kinda like your comment also about the cynical and not sure about the love thing anymore and hey I think the company here is excellent myself. If this was FB, I would LIKE your comment!
Author daisy love Posted May 4, 2011 Author Posted May 4, 2011 LOL..."overrun by BS's"...I got this mental picture of a landscape covered in lemmings!!!! LS isn't "overrun" by anything...these are simply the posters who are here. The point is that this is the forum that it is...and there is support provided by posters from all sides of the triangle for those that want it. If the support provided by this forum doesn't meet someone's wants/needs...then they should seek out a forum that will meet their wants/needs, rather than come here and complain that this one isn't what they want it to be. Don't walk into Wal-mart and complain that you can't find the caviar...you'll look darned foolish to the rest of the customers and staff. If you don't to rain on Daisy's parade...feel free not to. Just don't be amazed when a lot of us who are here don't feel like she's going to accomplish much by insisting that everyone who is here should be part of the marching band.\o/ *throws hands up* Well excuse me for starting a thread in the OW FORUM!! If NICE ppl knows somewhere else happy OW are ALLOWED to be happy, give me a shout. I don't need a marching band just some OW who understand.
Author daisy love Posted May 4, 2011 Author Posted May 4, 2011 Daisy, if you are happy, I am happy. I think real love inspires, uplifts, supports, is kind, considerate, respectful, does not boast or criticize or causes pain to others. Real love should not hurt another, IMHO. Thank you for your kind words.
fascinated Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 I'll second that -- if you're happy, I am happy for you! We should all be so lucky!
fooled once Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 But FO. Daisy is posting from the viewpoint that she thinks this forum is predominantly for OW/OM.... what's your point silly? That I can't say I love my Husband? I am not understanding what point you are trying to make. With all due respect, why should she? This is a forum for OW/OM. Perhaps if many of you dont care for the nature of her posts or OW/OM who want to discuss the good things about their relationship, refrain from posting yourself or go to the infidelity/marriage forum. This is beginning to be a common occurance here and although I might not completely agree with what Daisy sometimes says, I for one am pleased that she is posting about her experiences of being an AP and if that means celebrating love, so be it; thats what this forum is for. Love isnt just something shared within a marriage. Indeed, it often isnt shared at all and thats the harsh reality. Seriously it is tiresome and frustrating to see OW post and their threads become inundated by BS who project their own hurt and experinces onto them. Yes now and again there are some helpful posts, but often thats not the case. So why should she or any OW/OM leave? If you want to look at who has more of a right to be in the OW/OM forum, perhaps the clue is in the thread title. Daisy, I hope you stay for that reason alone. I know I will be. Actually, once again, this is a support AND DISCUSSION forum for anyone. This forum isn't dedicated to only one 'group' of people. Can you please point out who all the "BS's" are that you are talking about? Until Daisy started her tirade of post after post after post of who this forum isn't to her liking, things have been fine. Not one person has projected anything; unless you know something I don't. Who are these people who are projecting their own hurt and experiences? I posted that love is for everyone; not just one set of people. And yet, with that came a remark that I frankly don't understand. Where are all the people who want to give her applause for having an affair? Why aren't they posting to her threads? Can people not offer THEIR experience and hopefully share with Daisy how THEIR situations ended? If people only want one set of people to respond to their post, maybe they should state that to begin with So says another ROW (Remorseful Other Woman)! Can you elaborate why you felt the need to label another member? I do not recall you posting anything else on this thread; so instead of labeling/name calling, why not stick to the original post? LOL!!! That's because this place is (theoretically created for OW/OM) is overrun by BSs who love to give "advice" under the guise of a "open forum" and "opinions". Who cares if Daisy wants to celebrate her love? Good for her to be so grounded in her convictions. Should she not end up with her man I'm sure she'll deal with it. In the meantime, I see no point in raining on her parade. Again, who are the BS's who have overun this place? And since you have decided and judged their posts, why even read them? Just stick to the original topic and ignore the rest. ** As I stated above, LOVE is for everyone; not just one group of people. To find that love is a wonderful feeling. It is best when it is reciprocated and shared openly and honestly, at least in MY experience
Holding-On Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 Cabin said........ Oh and there is NO place on LS where users are protected from others who fail to fit your criteria of approved posters. It kinda works like real life. Basically yeah. Look, I came here looking for someone to tell me a magic recipe where I could convince BS that opening up her marriage would be a great thing for all involved. So I think I got ya beat on the wishful thinking angle. If you want a cheering squad of yes men you are not going to find it here. If you want some real life and diverse opinons - including, shockingly, BSes - then welcome. I have observed that is the experience of the BS around here too (as I'm sure they will be very happy to tell you). Otherwise they would all be over at SI.
thissecretgirl Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 (edited) Actually, once again, this is a support AND DISCUSSION forum for anyone. This forum isn't dedicated to only one 'group' of people. Can you please point out who all the "BS's" are that you are talking about? Actually its a forum called The OW/OM and the tag line reads 'for those who find themselves involved with a committed partner'. And no, I dont need to justify my point by naming all the BS. Much of the threads content in this forum speaks for itsself, I dont need to name anyone. I find its the usual suspects and I think its a huge pity. Until Daisy started her tirade of post after post after post of who this forum isn't to her liking, things have been fine. I dont agree actually and I am sure there are others who feel the same way. It has been like this many times, not just when Daisy has been posting. Its by no means a new occurance. Where are all the people who want to give her applause for having an affair? Why aren't they posting to her threads? ng else on this thread; so instead of labeling/name calling, why not stick to the original post? Thats what I think is a pity. I would imagine many wont post if they think all they are going to receive is a barrage of negative or sarcastic comments. I've seen in happen in many threads here, they literally become inundated by comments from BS. Its a shame when this forum is meant to be a place for OW/OM to come and to feel comfortable enough to discuss their situations and feelings. As for the OP stating that they only want responses from OW/OM we have already seen that that is something that cant be respected in this forum unfortunately. To find that love is a wonderful feeling. It is best when it is reciprocated and shared openly and honestly, at least in MY experience I agree. Love is often reciprocated in an affair but unfortunately I doubt open and honestly in both the marriage or the affair, when a married partner is involved with someone else. Edited May 4, 2011 by thissecretgirl
thissecretgirl Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 LOL!!! That's because this place is (theoretically created for OW/OM) is overrun by BSs who love to give "advice" under the guise of a "open forum" and "opinions". Who cares if Daisy wants to celebrate her love? Good for her to be so grounded in her convictions. Should she not end up with her man I'm sure she'll deal with it. In the meantime, I see no point in raining on her parade. I completely agree Lily on all points.
Silly_Girl Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 what's your point silly? That I can't say I love my Husband? I am not understanding what point you are trying to make. Well, there's a marriage board... I don't know whether OW post there about their love for their MM, I don't tend to venture there. Actually, once again, this is a support AND DISCUSSION forum for anyone. This forum isn't dedicated to only one 'group' of people. Well yes. If you read it, it IS dedicated to a subset. Can you please point out who all the "BS's" are that you are talking about? For a newbie, or someone with simple expectations, it's possible a lot of posters who aren't BS's appear to be posting from that stereotypical viewpoint.
OWoman Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 You are FAR from the naive, happy thing that daisy love is. I don't think it's very respectful to refer to other members as "things".
OWoman Posted May 5, 2011 Posted May 5, 2011 LOL!!! That's because this place is (theoretically created for OW/OM) is overrun by BSs who love to give "advice" under the guise of a "open forum" and "opinions". Who cares if Daisy wants to celebrate her love? Good for her to be so grounded in her convictions. Should she not end up with her man I'm sure she'll deal with it. In the meantime, I see no point in raining on her parade. agree. Eek. I think I've read enough to reconsider coming back on this forum very much. This place IS overrun with BS who get their kicks passing judgement on others. Honest question: is there not a forum for the scorned wives? If not, could one be created? Seriously. Regardless of what's right, what's wrong, or what anyone thinks... this is a forum for OW/OM. It should be a place where people can be mature, positive, critical, and productive in their posts. Cabin agree. Actually its a forum called The OW/OM and the tag line reads 'for those who find themselves involved with a committed partner'. And no, I dont need to justify my point by naming all the BS. Much of the threads content in this forum speaks for itsself, I dont need to name anyone. I find its the usual suspects and I think its a huge pity. I dont agree actually and I am sure there are others who feel the same way. It has been like this many times, not just when Daisy has been posting. Its by no means a new occurance. Thats what I think is a pity. I would imagine many wont post if they think all they are going to receive is a barrage of negative or sarcastic comments. I've seen in happen in many threads here, they literally become inundated by comments from BS. Its a shame when this forum is meant to be a place for OW/OM to come and to feel comfortable enough to discuss their situations and feelings. As for the OP stating that they only want responses from OW/OM we have already seen that that is something that cant be respected in this forum unfortunately. I agree. Love is often reciprocated in an affair but unfortunately I doubt open and honestly in both the marriage or the affair, when a married partner is involved with someone else. agree. Well, there's a marriage board... I don't know whether OW post there about their love for their MM, I don't tend to venture there. Well yes. If you read it, it IS dedicated to a subset. For a newbie, or someone with simple expectations, it's possible a lot of posters who aren't BS's appear to be posting from that stereotypical viewpoint. agree. It's pretty sad that a member can't join and post anything positive about her A without some members immediately accusing her of being a troll or a sock of a banned former member. Yet noobs who join and post sad stories are always taken at face value. Amazing how prejudice works in that way - those whose As didn't work out assume that none do, and so choose to believe only the sad tales of woe, and can't comprehend anyone being happy, or their story working out well. Sad...
Owl Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 I think I was the first person to suggest that DL is/was a troll. My thoughts on the subject haven't changed since then. I came to that conclusion after reading her posts and threads. If you feel that it's "sad" on how things are handled on this forum...then your only real recourse is to do something about it via the tools provided by the administration. That's what the "alert us" button is for. I'm a little confused by your post though...you comment that it's sad that someone can't post without being accused of being a troll or sock puppet of a banned member...then go on to complain that "noobs" are taken at face value. It seems to me that new posters are taken at face value...until they demonstrate behaviors that cause other posters to suspect their stories or their actions. I don't get it...if everyone is out looking to call someone a sock puppet or troll...then a new poster would never be taken at face value. Can't have that both ways...LOL!
Author daisy love Posted May 6, 2011 Author Posted May 6, 2011 I am not a troll or sock puppet (whatever that is!) or someone else but me. I am not welcome here, ok. Big hugs to everyone who has been nice to me and tried to help me find a place better. ((HUGS))
thomasb Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 (edited) Waaa, everyone doesn't entirely agree with every word I utter so I'm taking my toys and going home! Immature and childish. JMHO. Edited May 6, 2011 by thomasb And, I ADORE my wife!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Mimolicious Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 What everybody says here doesn't bother me. I know our relationship, and I am secure in it. I am bothered, however, by everybody that can't accept that I could be right about my own relationship. So what's the problem? Keyword: COULD It's your "R". So wth does it matter what anyone has to say? The one that has to believe it is you. You seem like you are pretty in sync with it. Best of wishes.
Author daisy love Posted May 6, 2011 Author Posted May 6, 2011 Waaa, everyone doesn't entirely agree with every word I utter so I'm taking my toys and going home! Immature and childish. JMHO. Why do you have to be so mean? I got some news today and I need some insight, but I'll be damned if I am going to post it here now. Sorry if I offended you ok. You don't have to kick a person when they are down.
Author daisy love Posted May 6, 2011 Author Posted May 6, 2011 So what's the problem? Keyword: COULD It's your "R". So wth does it matter what anyone has to say? The one that has to believe it is you. You seem like you are pretty in sync with it. Best of wishes. yea I guess you are right. I just thought I could share with other OW. I expected too much. Thanks.
bentnotbroken Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 yea I guess you are right. I just thought I could share with other OW. I expected too much. Thanks. Clearly by being with somebody who can't walk out the front door.
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