Mister_Lonely Posted May 2, 2011 Share Posted May 2, 2011 I can't stop texting my ex even when we ended 2 and half months ago. She cheated on me & is now with the guy she cheated on me with but everytime I get drunk I text her telling her I love her etc. I wake up & feel stupid, I deleted her number but know it off by heart. I am even alienating my friends by asking about her. It doesn't help when she says she wants to be friends & that she misses me. I should hate her but can't, I need to go NC but I always break it. How can I get over her, I am starting to look mental? Link to post Share on other sites
LoveHurts89 Posted May 2, 2011 Share Posted May 2, 2011 I'm exactly the same. It's driving me insane. Block her number. Or come on here and vent. Ask her to block your number. Link to post Share on other sites
jordkorn Posted May 2, 2011 Share Posted May 2, 2011 My ex cheated on me as well. I waited around for a month thinking she would apologize and come talk to me about it but she never did. If she can do that and not think twice about it then she could do it again down the road! One day I called her up and told her what I really felt about her to get it off of my chest! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mister_Lonely Posted May 2, 2011 Author Share Posted May 2, 2011 I think I will have to block it, her new bf has already warned me a number of times & it kills me when I find stuff out about her. I know she has developed a drug problem, they do it together & she took him to meet her parents for a weekend which I didn't need to know. I hate the thought of her with him, found out he got her name tattooed also which is pathetic. Can't stop thinking about her tho but she still lies when we spoke, I need to curb the contact. Link to post Share on other sites
Kilty Posted May 2, 2011 Share Posted May 2, 2011 1 -She is with someone else 2 - She cheated on you One of these on there own should be enough to make you want nothing more to do with her But both together ?? ................... You are still in denial The reality is you could never take her back but you dont realise that at the moment. The minute you got back together what do you think the first thing you would be thinking about before too long ? If you are thinking about them with each other now - just imagine what it would be like when you get the notion of having sex with her never mind your first jump when back together. And dont forget that if she cheated on you once it's going to happen again somewhere down the line. You could never trust her again - That is the reality but you cant see it just now. If you are desperate and cant get anyone else then by all means keep trying to get her back. We both know you are not. Also if you think making a fool of yourself trying to get an ex back when she is single is bad - then multiply that by 1000 when she is with someone else. She will talk - He will talk - and you will end up being the jealous ex boyfriend ! But leaving all that aside - she and him are junkies ??? WTF No Contact ever again, move on with your life and find someone nice when you are ready No pressure Link to post Share on other sites
missconfused83 Posted May 2, 2011 Share Posted May 2, 2011 im going through something very similar myself. i know my ex is with someone else (even though he wont admit it, just beats around the bush) and is the 1 who broke up with me but says he wants to be "friends" but when i drink i call and text him and hate myself in the morning when im sober... i told him today that i cant do the friends thing cuz its preventing me from fully moving on and he got upset with me (as he usually does when i try NC) and i feel really bad but i think it may be for the best if you try the same thing. any contact you have with her keeps you tied to those feelings subconsciously thats why when your drinking your subconscious takes over and you end up saying and doing things you regret the next day. i suggest you cut ALL ties to this woman before things get out of hand and you do something you can never take back! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mister_Lonely Posted May 3, 2011 Author Share Posted May 3, 2011 She continues to get in touch, late last night she rang to ask about a mutual friend. She didn't need to so why did she, today she texted saying she missed me & asking about my new job. Why is she doing this if she is with someone else, I am not being a back up guy & try NC but when I don't reply she gets angry & I have to reply. So annoying. Link to post Share on other sites
Kilty Posted May 3, 2011 Share Posted May 3, 2011 She gets angry ?? Is that more annoying than her cheating on you and being with somebody else ? If you keep replying and do not stick to NC regardless - you have only yourself to blame Link to post Share on other sites
poorguy Posted May 3, 2011 Share Posted May 3, 2011 She continues to get in touch, late last night she rang to ask about a mutual friend. She didn't need to so why did she, today she texted saying she missed me & asking about my new job. Why is she doing this if she is with someone else, I am not being a back up guy & try NC but when I don't reply she gets angry & I have to reply. So annoying. Dude loook, now is the time to take good care of yourself. NC requires discipline. So how do you feel when you break it?? Does'nt matter if she text or calls you or you text or call her, the end result always feels the same, which is terrible. Think about it for a minute, if you walked down the same street everday and the same dog bit you everyday, would'nt you avoid that street? Same thing here....BTW the guy really got a tatoo of her name or whatever on him lol...That's F-ing awsome!!!! He's a f-ing loser...Just go away and keep your mouth shut due. This relationship of her is going to crash down like the Navy Seals should do on Osoma!!! Oh wait they already did..same analogy though Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mister_Lonely Posted May 3, 2011 Author Share Posted May 3, 2011 I hope they do end badly but from what he said when I found out she cheated with him was that they were in love, I think she loves him for the coke. He must love her to get a tattoo but they haven't even been together that long. I don't want her back but don't want her to be with him as he is one of the reasons we split. Even after we split I lent her money which she won't pay back & continued to lie & hurt me. I'll try my hardest not to reply again, I know being friends won't work but can't imagine her never being in my life. Plenty more fish and all that though eh? I need to man up. Link to post Share on other sites
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