tiredlove Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Ive been dating a man for 1 month, seen him 5 times, slept together twice. I think we get on well and Im starting to really like him which im worried is distorting my veiw, the only thing is he doesnt text me alot in general- those chatty texts where you share jokes and pass comments etc- we dont have alot of those although this has mildy increased. Initially I was texting him like that (in chat) but stopped as i wasnt getting much of a response and now I try and match his texting frequency which means that I have to delete his number to stop myself texting him. He hasnt actually let me down, he always texts when he says he will to arrange dates etc and he always makes plans during the present date to see me again the next week. Its just that when I connect with someone there are usually more texts from him and I know he is interested. I know this may not seem like a problem but heres the thing, in Dec my 5 year relationship ended after me catching my ex in bed with someone else. I didnt think this would affect me the way it has but Im starting to get worried that the current mans lack of texts are a sign he is with someone else or is dating other people. Part of me thinks this is just silly and that I should just try and relax but then the part of me that trusted my ex thinks dont let your guard down and keep him at arms length. Also, I told my current man that I only wanted to a once a week thing and he hasnt really tried to change that. I dont want to self sabbatage this but I dont want to make a fool of myself by attaching myself to someone who isnt really that into me. I dont want to talk to him about my fears as I dont want to come across as being clingy. What do you think? Im concerned my oast experience is clouding my view???
Professor X Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Geez, relax and fast woman! My SO and I don't text each other at all. She hates it, her nails make it a pain in the ass to do so. So you know what? He might have a damn good reason to not wanting to text and it doesn't involve cheating. Maybe he just hates the idea of it and rather talk to you in person or via the phone than just text, who knows. So I suggest you take a deep breath and slow down, or you risk blowing this whole RS up before it even started. Congrats though, you just made up an originial reason to be paranoid
NicoleM Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Sweetie relax!! I should be the one to talk:lmao: I am in a similar situation. I have been seeing this guy for a month now and when we are together he clearly likes me and he just isn't much into texting as he used to be which is understandable he has aloooooot going on with his own personal situations and his work troubles so I understand totally. I was a little annoyed at first because I though woah he must not like me anymore since he doesn't text as much but then when we finally had a heart to heart I realized he has his own stuff to deal with. I would be very,very happy! 5 dates is a good number and he clearly likes you if you have been seeing each other for a month.
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