Gizmondas Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Its been about a month since my girlfriend and i broke up, and it just doesnt seem to get any easier. We've been seeing each other a couple days a week since the break up, and every time we see each we act as we are together, and she says things like "she misses me" "she does think we can work" and "lets just take things slowly and see how we go" But every time she leave's and i talk to her on FB, she says she doesnt know why she said those things and she doesnt know if she wants to take things slowly or not. There is another guy who tell's her he is in love with her, and she told him the same thing whilst doing that stuff with me AND telling me she still loves me, but she told me she only thought she loved him. I cant help but feel like im being lead on and dragged through this whole mess, i feel i deserve alot better then this. I gave her all the support she needed, all the love and caring i could give, i really just gave her everything i could and i feel she's just dragging me along now. every time she says something a few hours later she will change her mind, and the cycle starts all over again. I do love her, and every time i try and go NC i cant get past the first day, it is really hard for me to let go of her and dont know if i can do it. Sorry if its all a little confusing, im not in a great state of mind at the moment, and would appreciate any advice you guys could give me in this situation.
Jdw_Icequeen Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Break ups are never easy but what you have here is a classic case of sitting on the back burner. She hasn't let you go because she wants to see where things go with this other guy so you can be her backup plan if and when things don't work out. If you want to continue to be her backup plan stay in the picture,but you won't be doing yourself any favors. I realize you love her and miss her but if you truly had time to process this like you said you have because you were thinking about breaking up anyway. Then why can't you leave her alone? This girl is playing games with you. She is keeping you in this vicous cycle and your going to continue to run on her mind game hampster wheel until you decide to get out. NC isn't easy but its what you have to do to heal yourself. Let her go hun... Its really what needs to be done. She sounds very immature so let her go and grow up. You never know what might happen in the future but you really need to be worried about yourself and your future.
Author Gizmondas Posted May 2, 2011 Author Posted May 2, 2011 Thank you for the advice, i know its best if i let her go, i knew she was playing me i just needed an outside source to confirm it. The problem with no contact is i really dont have alot to do during the day, i only work Tuesdays and Wednesdays, the rest of the week i spend at home with nothing to do, i would usually enjoy playing my video games and listening to music but i cant take this off my mind, i dont really have any friends and she was the only person i could talk to, i do feel extremly lonely and helpless, i have anxiety issues which do interfer with me going out in public without her. I don't know, but from now, i will be doing my best to go NC and see where it goes.
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