abbeylouwho Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 I talked to this guy from a dating site for about a month on and off and then he asked me out. We went to dinner and a bar and really hit it off. We had plenty to talk about, were laughing all night, and all that stuff. We were the last ones to leave the bar and he walked me all the way to my bus which was far from his. When the bus came we just kind of left, it was a bit awkward. But he sent me a text a bit later saying goodnight and making sure i got home alright. I didn't hear from him, although I knew he had plans the rest of the weekend. So I sent him a text later in the week asking how his plans went. He said they went well and he was afraid he wouldn't hear from me again. I guess the whole awkward ending to the night was just weird haha. But then he asked if I wanted to go out again sometime and I said yes. Then, I didn't hear from him for another week. So I sent him a text asking if he had any plans for the next weekend. He said he was going away for the weekend but really wants to see me again but things have just been hectic. I haven't heard from him since. So... was the whole things have been hectic thing just his way of putting me down gently? But why would he bother asking me out again if he didn't want to go out with me again? Should I text him or will that be too much? Do I just need to let it go? I just really think we clicked and had a lot of fun that night. I mean, in all honesty, I think we at least hit it off enough for a second date. But, I really liked him and it seemed he liked me too. In the past, I've not always been so obvious with my whole liking a guy clues. I try to work on it but it's kind of hard for me. So that explains the whole him not thinking he'd here from me again. But, I did tell him I wanted to go out again so isn't that hint enough that I like him? Please, I need advice! haha It's driving me crazy! Thanks!
Professor X Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. Assume he isn't interested in you and move on, but in case he will contact you in the future and show some more seriousness in him, don't be fast to judge. At any rate, 1 date shouldn't be enough to make you go crazy, you need to relax a bit =) It's not the end of the world!
Author abbeylouwho Posted May 2, 2011 Author Posted May 2, 2011 What if he still thinks I'm not interested? I should just wait it out?
Professor X Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 What if he still thinks I'm not interested? I should just wait it out? Well, ask yourself: If he's not interested in you, what can you really do?
Author abbeylouwho Posted May 8, 2011 Author Posted May 8, 2011 What I'm saying is why would he ask me to go out again if he wasn't interested?
alexlakeman Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 You've talked 2x or texted after the first date; ball's in his court.. I am in the same boat, or similar.. than his... I started talking to someone on line 2 weeks ago, it was hectic for me, so we didn't go out that week, last week I was traveling; just go back today.. and this coming week? I am BROKE b/c of my travel, lol.. so I am going to have to delay going out until next weekend, which I HATE going on a first date / meeting on a Fri or Sat..could be a wasted night and "higher expectations" might be made, so I might even bump to the week after... Will she think the same as you, "is he interested?"? Who knows.. but i've been in communication, she's asnwered the calls, texts, so she isn't blowing me off, etc... Like I said "ball's in his court" at this point...He might really be busy or "broke" as I am in my delay to first date, lol.. good luck
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