arbrne_vet Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 So why is she still contacting me??? she shot me a text, and wanted to know if i wanted to talk to her. i replied yes. then she wants to know what I want to talk about. told her i wanted to hear what she had to say. She.... had been the one being distant. she.... is the one who stopped intimacy. she...... has not done one thing to make this work. yet, once again, before we even meet, she starts in on me again. i told her if this is the way she wants to be, then to leave me alone. she won't leave me alone. she took her ring off, she dumped me, yet she won't leave me alone. asks how many "whores" i have been in bed with. wants to know where i go, where i am at, who i am with, but still does not want to make this work. i need a womans point of view. what is she doing???
Fufu Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 She is using you and wasting your time. There's another term called, she is stringing you along. If a person truly wants to be with you will not resist being with you.
written in the stars Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 I'm not a woman but I can tell you that the whole "wanting to know what your up to" stuff is a huge red flag. Sounds like curiosity is getting the best of her and it sounds like she was a controlling person. Sorry to be blunt but, she is definitely someone I wouldn't want to deal with.
nana841121 Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 yes, she defamed the reputation of love. she treats you like a peanut which can be played when she is bored. Forgive my language, but she is a domineer person
Lorelei_Lane Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Steer clear of this woman. She is a user, big time. She likes to be in control and only her way is the right way. I suggest go complete no contact. If you need to block her phone number, do it. Don't talk to her anymore. Once you get away from her, you will be able to see how toxic she is.
homebrew Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 She is taking you for a fool! So don't respond... Unless you want to confirm to her what she thinks of you. I would rather prove to myself (and her as a bonus), that I am no fool and I value myself to much to entertain her.
WiselyNaive Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 from a female point of view i did it before...when i was younger...and i was trying to "teach him a lesson" it FAILED....but...my intentions were good...did u do anything to hurt her?...she could simply be attempting to teach u a lesson ....but still has to much feelings to compleetely let go which is necessary....i know if i didnt want sum1 i wouldnt care where they went what they did... i dont think she is stringing..she could possibly want u to fight for her
love is dangerous Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 she obviously still has feelings for you if she cares that much but tell her to leave you alone and its none of her business if she doesnt want to get back together. she could be one of those girls, i dont want you but dont want noone else to either
Author arbrne_vet Posted May 2, 2011 Author Posted May 2, 2011 i fought for her for the past six months. i realized the battle could not be won. she shut down from me. yes, she claims i hurt her. i don't know if she did want to get back at me or what. i proposed to her after she claims that i hurt her, and yes, i did change my ways. i was not horrible. normal relationship stuff. i started to see a part of her this past 6 months that opened my eyes. i could not believe how cold and cruel someone could be. she shut herself "off" from me. distance herself from me emotionally, and physically. our level of intimacy went way beyond physical. it was a true connection of us. i don't see how she could shut that completely out of our lives. she would not let me touch her, and never had time for me. was always tooooo busy. So, i gave up. tried to talk to her one more, one last time. it erupted into a fight, again. i tried to make peace with her so many times. she just can't seem to let any thing go. No, i did not cheat on her, but you'd think i did the way she has been. no, i was not abusive. i treated her like gold. did everything for her. so, i have enough, and now she won't leave me alone. yet, still claims i have been cruel to her, have treated her cruel. i am not the one who crawls into bed and turns my back on her, she did this to me. i just don't understand why she is doing this. i do tend to believe that she does not want me, but does not want anyone else to have me either. i don't know.
JasonRules Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 So why is she still contacting me??? she shot me a text, and wanted to know if i wanted to talk to her. i replied yes. then she wants to know what I want to talk about. told her i wanted to hear what she had to say. She.... had been the one being distant. she.... is the one who stopped intimacy. she...... has not done one thing to make this work. yet, once again, before we even meet, she starts in on me again. i told her if this is the way she wants to be, then to leave me alone. she won't leave me alone. she took her ring off, she dumped me, yet she won't leave me alone. asks how many "whores" i have been in bed with. wants to know where i go, where i am at, who i am with, but still does not want to make this work. i need a womans point of view. what is she doing??? She's castrating you of the last bit of manhood you have left
Author arbrne_vet Posted May 2, 2011 Author Posted May 2, 2011 you have all given me something to think about. i see the big pic now.
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