itteloc Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Yup so my g/f of 8 months dumped me! The way it broke down was this. We weren't getting along saturday really. She had a nasty attitude, we were at a party for her family and weren't really getting along and people noticed it. That night on the ride home we caught a flat tire. Myself and her dad changed the tire. Problem was two of the lug nuts were bad so there was only 3 lug nuts out 5 on the tire to hold it in place. I suggested since there was kids in the van with us we should stop off at the next exit and get a couple of nuts from a garage to put on the tire. Her father who doesn't speak english insisted that we are fine to make the hour trip home. So I told her listen this wheel definitely can fly off we should really get off and she blew up on me and said are going to keep saying the wheel is going to fly off being so negative, I responded back nastily saying just drop me off on the highway I don't feel safe. She said basically I'm so done with you. So I said no problem your wish is granted. We're done. We made it home safe thank God. We get home and talk things over through the night and she appologized for the way she acted and said she loves me and didn't mean what she said. So she had work yesterday and everything seemed fine. She even text me saying she missed me. All of sudden out of nowhere she called me and said I've really been thinking about our fight and it was really bad in front of my whole family to fight like that. She said it's too soon in our relationship to be fighting that bad and she doesn't feel I'm the one for her although she still loves me. So what can I say? I just say Okay. Then it's like all day she still messaged me. Or was finding reasons to message me. It was really weird? Like to check up on me asking if I was home or not? She says she still wants to be friends with me and my family b/c she really likes us! The bad thing is I have a package that she ordered prior to our break up to my house to be delivered b/c she can't get deliveries at her house or work. She wants to meet up when it arrives so I can give it to her. I really want to avoid seeing her right now b/c to be honest part of me is still kind of shocked and it hasn't really sank in totally yet. I don't understand how someone can want to be with you one minute and then a hour later decide to break it off.
Titania22 Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 I'm sorry, that really sucks. I can't think of anything upbeat to say after reading that.
Author itteloc Posted May 2, 2011 Author Posted May 2, 2011 yeah thanks. I don't know what to say either right now.
Professor X Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Sorry man, I know how painful it is. I guess there isn't much you can do right now but to let it soak in, wait a few days and see what happens then.
iJester Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Next time she texts you, tell her not to contact you unless she wants to get back together.
Author itteloc Posted May 2, 2011 Author Posted May 2, 2011 What's weird is she has been on facebook posting stuff today but her profile still says in a relationship with me and she still has all of our pictures up on her page? Any reason why to this?
iJester Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Change your profile to single. I bet she will call you, immediately!
utterer of lies Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 What's weird is she has been on facebook posting stuff today but her profile still says in a relationship with me and she still has all of our pictures up on her page? Any reason why to this? Calm down and wait what will happen. It's not over yet, she's way too active for that. It's best if you just try to stay friendly and helpful but distant, and she if wants anything more, tell her to come see you in person.
sanskrit Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 NC. 30 days at least. During that time think long and hard about whether this kind of thing will happen every time you have a spat. Arguing like that in a tense situation happens, and it is lame of her to make it a "family" issue when it's not.
Author itteloc Posted May 3, 2011 Author Posted May 3, 2011 red alert over! she called me just now saying how she wants to be with me and loves me so much. she was just really mad that we fought like that in front of her family. thanks for all of your support!
Titania22 Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 red alert over! she called me just now saying how she wants to be with me and loves me so much. she was just really mad that we fought like that in front of her family. thanks for all of your support! I could pretty much see that coming. Good Luck!
sanskrit Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Go running right back and you will be repeating this scenario next month, maybe even next week.
FrostFire Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 (edited) Go running right back and you will be repeating this scenario next month, maybe even next week. Perhaps but he is "in love" right now and nothing we say or do can remove the blindfolds that he has on right now. So with that said... You have an emotional roller coaster on your hands buddy. Better read up on how you deal with this so as not to make the situation any worse. I think what you did was very brave and noble in showing the amount of concern you had for her entire family's safety. It's very likely there is some other issue that is bothering her and she needs to get it off her chest. Good luck buddy on this ride! You lost this battle and will continue losing every one if you allow her to control you like that. RRRRRRRRRRRREEEEEEEEDDDD FLAG!! Edited May 4, 2011 by FrostFire
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