primer Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 When I hear a man say he is self-employed, it means he does not go to work if he stayed up partying all night or if the fish are biting or if it is nice outside. It means he does not have health insurance or a retirement plan. Chances are it means he could not pass the drug test at any of the factories around here. He would not understand me having to be at work from 8 AM to 5 PM every day. At least, that is the truth where I am from.
SxB Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 (edited) I was just wondering, now why all of a sudden people are getting suspicious of those who are "self-employed"? It seems they think that's just as bad as being unemployed, or it's some "cover" to make it look like they're making money? I would say being self-employed is just as good as being EMPLOYED, it's a VERY common thing in this ecomony. And apparently, prospective dates think that if you don't take some kind of commute to work and report to a boss, that you might as well be unemployed. Why is this? There are ALOT of 1099 workers out there, and it's becoming more and more common, but hey, SELF-employed happen to have an income by the way. For the type of Woman you're talking about- the only time they will not like you being selfemployed is if you are FINANCIALLY UNSUCCESSFUL and make beans, but can you imagine if you're driving up in a brand new fully loaded BMW M5, have a pad more on the luxurious side of the table, live in a good area, can afford luxuries, ecetera. Do you think they will give a sh*it and would complain if you are financially successful? Hell no, it just depends on how much Money you make. Edited May 4, 2011 by SxB
jerbear Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 I don't think this is a thread about business, this thread is in the Romantic -> Dating section. I agree with the other posters about self-employment and business context, but in the online dating world; self-employment usually means they are unemployed. Getting other contextual information, you'll see the poster's meaning of self-employed.
Author irc333 Posted May 4, 2011 Author Posted May 4, 2011 There's this one woman in my area...apparently a "big time" real estate agent. She posts pics of herself in an elf costume doing the toys for tots thing, and also bikini wanna-be model pictures of her in a bikini and other poses. And various of her and her friends at high scale nightclubs, etc. She's really stuck on herself. Probably has over 1,000 on her FB friends list. Makes off like she's into charity work. She looks like more of an attention seeker, than a real estate agent trying to sell homes. lol The only kind of "self employed" people I'd find at all negative would be like "Self employed musician/comedian (that no one has ever heard of and that really doesn't pay the bills)" or "Self employed Mary Kay/Natura/Some Pyramid Scheme" salesperson, but that's because one of those is not really a career but rather a hobby and one of those is something I disagree with and find distasteful. Generally speaking, I rarely get along with real estate agents, it seems, but that could just be coincidence. All the real estate agents I meet are always trying to network way too hard, and I find active networking tedious (did even when I was in advertising and it was supposedly my job, but I did more passive networking by just getting to know people sincerely). I've got friends who are self-employed graphic designers, programmers, consultants, contractors, shop owners, etc. Assuming a business is legitimate, I cannot imagine one taking umbrage with such a thing. I've found that I prefer people who are self-employed on a smaller scale rather than those who want to build empires of their own making (but that's just because empire-building is a trait I don't care for, and it kills the whole freedom of being self-employed in order to get more power; I'm pretty anti power-consolidating), but that's not to say I don't like any business owners who have wider success.
Disillusioned Posted May 6, 2011 Posted May 6, 2011 Then there are the guys who either quit or get fired, they go out and start their own successful business, then they occasionally drop in to their old workplace just to taunt everyone there because they know the boss can't do a thing to them. We had one like that... he was a drunko who got canned for missing too many days (brown-bottle flu), so he went into something he knew very well. He opened his own business supplying bars and even refurbishing old bars... he ended up buying a brand new Mercedes and saving for his retirement. He still drives by once or twice a year to rub it in. Now me, I'd do something a little more mischievous like take one of the company's business reply mail envelopes with me when I quit... then a year later, make a bunch of photocopies of it and paste them to little boxes full of sand and rocks and send them to my old workplace, and the company foots the bill for the postage! BTW I still do this to Great Expectorations, those crooks.
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