lostmysoulmate Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 A few months ago I kissed another man when very drunk. I know that's no excuse. My boyfriend found out and was devastated. We stayed together and I later found out I was pregnant. My boyfriend believes things with the other man went further then I said but I did only kiss him. My boyf stayed by me while I become depressed and drinking a lot after having a termination and was incredibly supportive. But now months after the cheating he's ended the relationship saying that he doesn't feel the same way about me anymore. I saw him out at the weekend and he came over and said hi to me, he called me after to make sure I was getting a taxi home. I said no so he ran after me to make sure I got home ok. He ended up staying and it was really nice but in the morning when he left he told me he doesn't know what will happen in the future but for now its over because I cheated. I love him so much and I deeply regret what I did I just don't know how to get him back? I have been getting counselling to deal with my depression in a hope that if I change the way I am and the paranoid way I act hell want to give me another chance. I know that I will never cheat on him again and I am completely devoted to him, I just feel like I've lost myself. Please help
Author lostmysoulmate Posted May 2, 2011 Author Posted May 2, 2011 I know that what I did was selfish and I am so ashamed of myself. I've stopped drinking completely and I don't tallk to any other men that my ex doesn't know so I can try and start mending the trust. I have never felt like this about anyone and I have been hurt many times un the past I have issues with relationships and I'm desperatly working on them. Please give me advice xxx
Conscience Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Hi, when trust is no more it takes alot of work to rebuilt, you seem to have the right frame of mind to get there by removing other men from your life, the bottom line is that he needs to be reassured that this will not happen again be strong and positive at the end of the day no one is attracted to people that are depressed or desperate. Why did you make out with another man if you love your ex this much ? Is it really only because of the booz ?
Author lostmysoulmate Posted May 2, 2011 Author Posted May 2, 2011 I've always had low self esteem because of previous relationships and this other guy was nice to me. Its as simple as that. I feel so bad for making my ex feel the way I have in the past and I haven't appreciated him. I miss him so much and I love everything about him but obviously kissing someone else has caused arguments. Bad arguments.I could feel myself falling for my ex just before I cheated and I was terrified, I hate knowing I've hurt such an amazing person. I have a lot of issues mentally with paranoia and I'm very short tempered and since the termination I've completely lost control of everything in my life. He says he wants to get the love he had for me before back but he doesn't know if he can. I'm terrified I've lost him forever. When he was telling me he doesn't know if he can give me another chance he was holding my hand and when I cried he comforted me I'm just so confused xxx
Author lostmysoulmate Posted May 2, 2011 Author Posted May 2, 2011 I have cheated in relationships before and know that your thinking I'm just a cheat simple but I've never fought to make it right. Its a defense against getting hurt myself again I suppose but I know with my hand on my heart it will never ever happen again and this I have promised my ex. He is the most important person to me and I don't want to be the way I have previously. I will do anything I can for another chance and he knows that xxx
Conscience Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 IMO, you have to make him secure..... be apologetic about the hole thing show him that you feel really bad about what happened be available to him show him he cares.....
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