supdawg1985 Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 There's this girl I met a couple years ago, and we seemed to have a connection. Although we didn't get to know each other real well, I had a thing for her almost immediately, and I ended up asking her out. Apparently she was dating this guy for like 5 years though, so she respectfully declined. Well, ever since then (it's been about a year), we've still kept in touch via Facebook or whatever. If I didn't contact her for awhile, she would take the initiative to contact me, as if she didn't want me to forget about her. This went on for awhile but I stopped hearing from her since she became engaged to her boyfriend. It seemed pretty telling that she didn't feel comfortable contacting me at this point, like she didn't view me as merely a friend. I had been thinking about moving away after that, so I went on a trip to check out a new area. When I got back from my trip, she surprisingly had broke it off with her fiance. She contacted me very soon after (nothing real particular), and I figured that was a good sign. When I told her that I liked her, she said she was flattered but that she had a broken heart after breaking up with her fiance, and that she just wanted to make friends for now. I'm wondering if she is interested and needs time, or if she isn't interested after all. I hope I described the situation well enough...
Rinnix Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Right now shes focused on moving on. Id say that right now she isn't interested. However I would say that she enjoys the attention that you give her. Id say it's best to let this one go.
SxB Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 There's this girl I met a couple years ago, and we seemed to have a connection. Although we didn't get to know each other real well, I had a thing for her almost immediately, and I ended up asking her out. Apparently she was dating this guy for like 5 years though, so she respectfully declined. Well, ever since then (it's been about a year), we've still kept in touch via Facebook or whatever. If I didn't contact her for awhile, she would take the initiative to contact me, as if she didn't want me to forget about her. This went on for awhile but I stopped hearing from her since she became engaged to her boyfriend. It seemed pretty telling that she didn't feel comfortable contacting me at this point, like she didn't view me as merely a friend. I had been thinking about moving away after that, so I went on a trip to check out a new area. When I got back from my trip, she surprisingly had broke it off with her fiance. She contacted me very soon after (nothing real particular), and I figured that was a good sign. When I told her that I liked her, she said she was flattered but that she had a broken heart after breaking up with her fiance, and that she just wanted to make friends for now. I'm wondering if she is interested and needs time, or if she isn't interested after all. I hope I described the situation well enough... No, she's not interested in you, and don't do the whole friend zone thing. Move on to the next chick who wants to actually be with you.
Author supdawg1985 Posted May 2, 2011 Author Posted May 2, 2011 I'm just so sick of girls being so damn ambiguous all the time. She knows my intentions, so I wish she'd say one way or another, a clear answer. She knew I was interested when I asked her out, so why does she still want to keep in touch? Trust me, I can be alone a looong freaking time, I'm not desperate for anyone. And I'm not going to be just a friend to her, or smother her....if anything happens from here, she'll have to initiate, cause I'm through wasting time with that kind of crap.
Rinnix Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 She knew I was interested when I asked her out, so why does she still want to keep in touch?. She likes the attention. She likes knowing shes wanted by others. That or she really wanted friends. (Which is unlikely as she knew how you felt.) Best to go NC and just move on.
Author supdawg1985 Posted May 6, 2011 Author Posted May 6, 2011 I think you guys are right, I just have an intuition on this. Just another let down after so much patience. This isn't the right forum for me to vent probably, but as a Christian, I sure feel like I'm wasting my life waiting for God to provide me anything. Maybe I need to take a casual approach to dating from now on.
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