Author Howdydoodie Posted May 4, 2011 Author Posted May 4, 2011 Right. TY to those that contributed (and those that quarrled ). The reason for my question is because I am only a few months out of a breakup and I dont want to jump into anything serious but I also don't want to have random sex with a stranger and thats it. Maybe I am just being indecisive . Its also hard to come right out and say that I dont want anything serious during the first meet because it sounds kinda awkward and it may make the other person feel awkward. I have no problem meeting people and I have friends who could set me up as well but I worry about that only because I dont want to burn any bridges. I figure if I at least show some initiative aside from just a casual meet up that it wouldnt look like I am just out to score and it would also show that I am respectful by calling and what not.
Red Arremer Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 Okay guys, let's not stoop to discussions about tossing each other's arounds. This is a family friendly board, I thought?
veggirl Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 erm. OP-- you can have a fling by actually following the advice of thebody. I am female and he is not off base and he is not sounding disrespectful, imo. If you don't already have female friends though, you will just have to meet new girls and tell them you don't want anything serious. They may not believe you...they may try to "change" you, but as long as you are up front then you've done your part.
welikeincrowds Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 A little off-topic, but having had flings, I guess they're just not for me. I either get way too emotionally invested than was appropriate, even if I'm aware, intuitively or otherwise, that there's an expiration date; or I'm so barely interested that there was almost no point in bothering. This topic interests me. What is a "successful fling" supposed to look like? I almost think you'd have to have a hard deadline in place, like "I'm leaving the country on ____", but frankly, I've ****ed up those, too.
mogul Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 This topic interests me. What is a "successful fling" supposed to look like? I almost think you'd have to have a hard deadline in place, like "I'm leaving the country on ____", but frankly, I've ****ed up those, too. People you are attracted to and have fun with, but don't see a relationship with. They either aren't relationship material, not your usual type, not someone you want to introduce to your friends/family etc. yet you have fun with them and want to jump their pants. At the end of it all, you can leave whenever emotion free.
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