Howdydoodie Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Howdy LS! What is a Fling? I WANT TO HAVE ONE. I guess my question is how do you go about explaining this to someone you just met and want to have one with. How do you act, what do you do that sort of thing.. Im kind of new to this whole thing so teehee!! ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
ASG Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 You just tell them you're not looking for anything serious at the moment, just some casual dating. And then take it from there.
Author Howdydoodie Posted May 2, 2011 Author Posted May 2, 2011 ASG - thx for your reply. So you suggest I say that versus not saying anything at all? Isn't the whole premise of flings/casual two people just hang out and not discuss "relationshipy" stuff?
thebody Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 ASG - thx for your reply. So you suggest I say that versus not saying anything at all? Isn't the whole premise of flings/casual two people just hang out and not discuss "relationshipy" stuff? This is eaasssyy. Go hang out with a recently broken up with girl/guy, or divorcee. They're not mentally stable enough for a relationship, and your exit strategy is "I don't want to be your rebound girl/guy". Another method is the friends, or acquaintances route. Ask a friend or acquaintance over and get drunk. Something usually happens. With friends you may burn a bridge but... just general acquaintances, who cares? Take it from me... I'm the king of the fling. <--- see what i did thar?
Knittress Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 ASG - thx for your reply. So you suggest I say that versus not saying anything at all? Isn't the whole premise of flings/casual two people just hang out and not discuss "relationshipy" stuff? Don't not say anything, that's a dick move. I'm not saying have long-winded 'what do I mean to you' discussions, but if you're not a user and are looking for something mutual best be upfront.
Graviton Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 This is eaasssyy. Go hang out with a recently broken up with girl/guy, or divorcee. They're not mentally stable enough for a relationship, and your exit strategy is "I don't want to be your rebound girl/guy". Another method is the friends, or acquaintances route. Ask a friend or acquaintance over and get drunk. Something usually happens. With friends you may burn a bridge but... just general acquaintances, who cares? Take it from me... I'm the king of the fling. <--- see what i did thar? I sure did. You showed your true colors. The colors of an unethical human being.
ASG Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 I sure did. You showed your true colors. The colors of an unethical human being. Why is it unethical to have flings? Anyway, OP, say it, don't say it... Just don't lead them on. If you think they're after something more, just cut it off.
mogul Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 keep it light. No long phone calls at night. No relationship talk. Go out and enjoy each other's company, go for drinks, and let it happen. Keep contact to a minimum, short calls and text. It ultimately ends up being someone you hang out with but mainly just sex. You can just end up saying you're busy to end it. No harm, no foul.
Professor X Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 This is eaasssyy. Go hang out with a recently broken up with girl/guy, or divorcee. They're not mentally stable enough for a relationship, and your exit strategy is "I don't want to be your rebound girl/guy". Another method is the friends, or acquaintances route. Ask a friend or acquaintance over and get drunk. Something usually happens. With friends you may burn a bridge but... just general acquaintances, who cares? Take it from me... I'm the king of the fling. <--- see what i did thar? In other words, the only way you're getting laid is when the chick is either drunk or unstable? Way to go Casanova, LOL :lmao::lmao::lmao:
Graviton Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Why is it unethical to have flings? It's not unethical to have flings, except the way he does it is.
thebody Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 (edited) In other words, the only way you're getting laid is when the chick is either drunk or unstable? Way to go Casanova, LOL :lmao::lmao::lmao: You're reading into it and putting words in my mouth and you know it. Don't be a douche. It's not unethical to have flings, except the way he does it is. Entirely your opinion sir. They harbor no resentment toward me, nor I to them. The mutual sexual engagements I have aren't unethical. If I have a friend that's sad and down about their breakup, and I provide a listening ear only to have sex with them later... that's unethical? BAH. Nothing changes afterwards... still friends, just had sex a couple times. I see no harm in this AT ALL. A friend or acquaintance makes for an easy and comfortable setting when needing some sexual release. You already know eachother... Where's the ethics council on this one Graviton? Your holy crusade on being sexually aloof means nothing to me. Feel free to demonize my methods if you like, sir... I know they work. I have burned very little bridges in the process and remain in contact with mostly all my previous encounters. edit: and WHAT'S with people acting like alcohol is like some sort of date rape drug?? If you're chilling with a friend and get tipsy off a few, it only lubricates the environment to lower the inhibitions. Sets the mood. There's some seriously judgmental a-holes on this board. Edited May 2, 2011 by thebody
Graviton Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 (edited) Entirely your opinion sir. They harbor no resentment toward me, nor I to them. The mutual sexual engagements I have aren't unethical. You gave the impression that you exploited their weaknesses in order to have sex with them and that they weren't entirely in the know about your motives. A friend or acquaintance makes for an easy and comfortable setting when needing some sexual release. You already know eachother... Where's the ethics council on this one Graviton? I see what you did there, very subtle, but it doesn't work with me. The fact that you had sex with friends was not my point and you know it. My point was that you exploited weaknesses, didn't inform them beforehand of your true motives and used alcohol to get what you want. At least, that's how you made it sound. Your holy crusade on being sexually aloof means nothing to me. I am on no such crusade. If people want to have FWB's, be FB's, have NSA sex, then by all means f#ck each other's brains out. Feel free to demonize my methods if you like, sir... I know they work. I'm fairly sure they work, but that was not my point. Edited May 2, 2011 by Graviton
thebody Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 You gave the impression that you exploited their weaknesses in order to have sex with them and that they weren't entirely in the know about your motives. I see what you did there, very subtle, but it doesn't work with me. The fact that you had sex with friends was not my point and you know it. My point was that you exploited weaknesses, didn't inform them beforehand of your true motives and used alcohol to get what you want. At least, that's how you made it sound. I am on no such crusade. If people want to have FWB's, be FB's, have NSA sex, then by all means f#ck each other's brains out. I'm fairly sure they work, but that was not my point. I made NO such impression. The idea was yours. You implied that I was taking advantage, though I assure you... I was not. Being a listening ear for somebody and having relations with them makes for a very easy and no frills fling. They're happier because they're one step closer to forgetting about some a-hole that treated them like dirt. So.. alcohol is a date rape drug, right holy crusader? So two friends having drinks and having sex is BAD, right? I'm pretty sure a girl or guy has a pretty fair idea of what to expect in a private situation with the opposite sex. Drinks are a mutual decision, and honestly not necessary. Alcohol, like I said, SETS THE MOOD. Have none of us had a one nighter with a person at the bar?? That's date rape to the holy avengers here. You act like I walk up and inject them with alcohol and wait for them to pass out. what's WRONG with you???
Graviton Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 I made NO such impression. The idea was yours. You implied that I was taking advantage, though I assure you... I was not. Being a listening ear for somebody and having relations with them makes for a very easy and no frills fling. They're happier because they're one step closer to forgetting about some a-hole that treated them like dirt. So.. alcohol is a date rape drug, right holy crusader? So two friends having drinks and having sex is BAD, right? I'm pretty sure a girl or guy has a pretty fair idea of what to expect in a private situation with the opposite sex. Drinks are a mutual decision, and honestly not necessary. Alcohol, like I said, SETS THE MOOD. Have none of us had a one nighter with a person at the bar?? That's date rape to the holy avengers here. You act like I walk up and inject them with alcohol and wait for them to pass out. what's WRONG with you??? I'm just saying your post gave that impression. I might be wrong here, I might be right, but either way I don't buy your "what's wrong with you people, why are you picking on me?" attitude here. You know fully well what you can expect when you post something like that on a forum.
thebody Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 I'm just saying your post gave that impression. I might be wrong here, I might be right, but either way I don't buy your "what's wrong with you people, why are you picking on me?" attitude here. You know fully well what you can expect when you post something like that on a forum. No... what's wrong with YOU. YOU. Not you people. My post gave YOU that impression. Your idea of what's right and wrong is askew. Your judgement is clouded by some sort of right wing theology I just can't quite grasp. Perhaps you would do better if you were to explain to me HOW exactly getting tipsy with a friend and having sex is unethical. By adding to what I said and producing words that I did not place here you created something demonic and evil.
Graviton Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 (edited) No... what's wrong with YOU. YOU. Not you people. My post gave YOU that impression. Your idea of what's right and wrong is askew. Your judgement is clouded by some sort of right wing theology I just can't quite grasp. Perhaps you would do better if you were to explain to me HOW exactly getting tipsy with a friend and having sex is unethical. By adding to what I said and producing words that I did not place here you created something demonic and evil. How the f#ck am I supposed to know what's wrong with me according to you? Either I was wrong and that made you think I'm f#cked in the head, or I was right and thereby inadvertently stepped on your shriveled little d#ck. Your idea of what's right and wrong is askew. Your judgement is clouded by some sort of right wing theology I just can't quite grasp. Sure mate. HOW exactly getting tipsy with a friend and having sex is unethical. By adding to what I said and producing words that I did not place here you created something demonic and evil. Like I said, I might be wrong about the way you go about it in real life. And like I said before, in your post you gave the impression that you exploited weaknesses in women to get sex. I just called you on it, that's it. Edited May 2, 2011 by Graviton
thebody Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 So now we're turning to sub-sophomoric iterations about my penis. You've stooped to a new level I just won't go down to. Good job on that though, and good talk.
Graviton Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 So now we're turning to sub-sophomoric iterations about my penis. You've stooped to a new level I just won't go down to. Good job on that though, and good talk. I must admit that I felt like tossing your around a bit after our little discourse. You've stooped to a new level I just won't go down to. Right, you would punch a random guy on the internet in the face based on "his tone", but you won't lower yourself "to this level".
thebody Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 I must admit that I felt like tossing your around a bit after our little discourse. Right, you would punch a random guy on the internet in the face based on "his tone", but you won't lower yourself "to this level". I would really love to see you toss a 220lb bodybuilder around. Have at it broski. I'll be here waiting for you.. bwahaha
Graviton Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 I would really love to see you toss a 220lb bodybuilder around. Have at it broski. I'll be here waiting for you.. bwahaha The fact that you took that literally is amusing.
thebody Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Right, you would punch a random guy on the internet in the face based on "his tone", but you won't lower yourself "to this level". Man you are TROLLIN. If you actually look at the definition, you would see that's what you're doing. Please stop now. Is this thread salvageable or is it just pretty much toast at this point?
Professor X Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 I would really love to see you toss a 220lb bodybuilder around. Have at it broski. I'll be here waiting for you.. bwahaha I just want everyone to pay attention! We got a keyboard gangster here; Be warned. Quite the funny outcome =)
thebody Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 I just want everyone to pay attention! We got a keyboard gangster here; Be warned. Quite the funny outcome =) what? he said he wanted to throw me around. man you effing people are outrageous.
Graviton Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Man you are TROLLIN. If you actually look at the definition, you would see that's what you're doing. Please stop now. Is this thread salvageable or is it just pretty much toast at this point? I can assure you that I'm not trolling. We either had a misunderstanding here or I was right and hit a soft spot. But if you want to stop, I'll stop.
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