nyckidd Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Ok this is the last thread that I will be making in a while. I kept seeing posts on my exs facebook about her being happy etc. (She dumped me by the way last week.) I kept getting hurt every time I looked at something new on her wall. I finally switched my status to single, and she then did the same. BUT i also added this girl that my ex hates because my ex know that this girl is really attracted to me and even told my ex before that she would **** me if my ex wasnt with me. I did this because I knew it would upset my ex, but I felt justified because I was so hurt in seeing how happy she was without me. Well to say the least, this caused a bit of a reaction. She posted on her wall 'people are so funny...Im not suprised by anything anymore, and defreinded me shortly after. My ex has told me twice that she just cant be with me right now and that I need to understand etc etc. So with that in mind I thought it would be ok for me to do this. Now that I see she is upset, and know she is (my ex is the jealous type), its bothering me and I feel like calling her and telling her that I wasno\t trying to upset her. Is this a bad idea? Di I ruine any chance of reconciliation?
Kilty Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 I believe you were given some great advice on another thread you started regarding this ..... but you have chosen to ignore it then ask for more advice ?
Author nyckidd Posted May 1, 2011 Author Posted May 1, 2011 well before she didnt actually defrined me. I just know shes upset and I feel like I should contact her if there will ever be any chance for reconcilliation...
Kilty Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Firstly she has dumped you You should have deleted her from FB immediately after this, but particularly more so after trying to get her back which failed. As has been pointed out, stalking her FB page is only going to rip your soul out eventually. Trying to "reason" with her in an attempt to get her back will push her further away as will deliberately playing games with FB status updates & adding people/girls she doesnt like in an attempt to get her jealous. Ask yourself a question - Do you think she is that daft she wont see right through it ? If you think that then you are still in serious denial - and asking for the same advice repeatedly reaffirms this. You should have heeded the warnings in your first thread regarding the implications of any more contact with this girl. So for the last time - she broke up with you - not the other way around. If you do not abide with complete NC you will push her a million miles away and make ANY chance of reconciliation (however slim) impossible. Women's intuition is far superior to ours and most of them can spot someone playing a game in an attempt to keep in contact straight away so you will only fail miserably. Get her deleted/blocked now. If she is going to come back to you its her that has to make contact with you. You will only make a fool of yourself and open the door for more pain if you keep contacting her I speak from experience
Author nyckidd Posted May 1, 2011 Author Posted May 1, 2011 thank you alot. This is very true, and im glad you put it this way. Im done, she is blocked, i cannot keep stalking a facebook page. Ive never even used the dam thing in the past. Complete NC starting now. Thnaks again
Kilty Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 As long as you dont beat yourself up about it. Most of the advice on here comes from people that have done exactly the same as you. I'm just glad my ex didnt have a FB page !
TheLoneSock Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Ok this is the last thread that I will be making in a while. I kept seeing posts on my exs facebook about her being happy etc. (She dumped me by the way last week.) I kept getting hurt every time I looked at something new on her wall. I finally switched my status to single, and she then did the same. BUT i also added this girl that my ex hates because my ex know that this girl is really attracted to me and even told my ex before that she would **** me if my ex wasnt with me. I did this because I knew it would upset my ex, but I felt justified because I was so hurt in seeing how happy she was without me. Well to say the least, this caused a bit of a reaction. She posted on her wall 'people are so funny...Im not suprised by anything anymore, and defreinded me shortly after. My ex has told me twice that she just cant be with me right now and that I need to understand etc etc. So with that in mind I thought it would be ok for me to do this. Now that I see she is upset, and know she is (my ex is the jealous type), its bothering me and I feel like calling her and telling her that I wasno\t trying to upset her. Is this a bad idea? Di I ruine any chance of reconciliation? A) There should be no thoughts of reconciliation in your brain right now at all. B) She is just upset that you aren't floundering over her. Just because she split with you doesn't mean it isn't possible to hurt her. She probably was hurt by it, but that's not your problem. She hurt you, is that her problem? No. When people don't get their way they act out, even if it's just with stupid little ploys through social media. C) F*ck the girl that wants you. I mean literally invite her over and have sex with her. You have no reason not to, enjoy some of the fruits of being single. And that's all there is to your story right now. It's as easy as A, B and C.
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