Hopeless Girl Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 I mean have any of you guys been NC for so long that you think its over for good, there's no way thats spark is gonna come back, it feels different but when u meet up with the person again or you go out again with this person all the feelings for them come back. Im losing hope and it feels weird. It's like I want to be with him. Im scared that my feelings will go away
ChaseYng2005 Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 I have that fear too. But I know that when those feelings do go away, life is so much better. It's like a lead cloud is off your head.
smudge21 Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Right there with you on this one. I so don't want these feelings to go as I believe it'll be like giving up and accepting that it's all over. Which it is in many ways, but to totally 100% accept that and be moved on from her scares me so much. The thought of her being nothing to me other than a memory. That's probably why I have in the past looked for info on her and even now think about her a lot even though it only brings me pain. It's like by having that pain, it means I still have feelings, which in turn means she's not yet nothing to me. I can feel her becoming less and less to me and I know soon she will be gone for good.
turokturok5 Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 feeling that right now...i know its pretty much over because she hasn't tried talking to me at all and lately i frankly havent given 2 ****s about that. saw her for the first time in a month the other day and i was able to be around her and not feel uneasy/upset/awkard so i know im a lot better than i was before. exept i still kind of hope that she'll come around...i've pinned that on the fact that im a bit lonely at the moment though, since i think if she did come back to me i would say no, i've figured if someone has put you through that much pain it's not worth accepting a second chance and risking it again, but like you guys say, it's the though that we have nothing to do with eachother and that she'll be happy with another guy that is still a bit upsetting
Fufu Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Me It's over for good and I don't see myself being with him anymore. I used to hold on the hope I want to be with him, I believe in second chance with him, I want reconciliation with him. However all these are just going to hinder my recovery, especially my own life. He's not even feeling this way, why should I put myself down and keep my future on hold for someone who gives up on me so easily.
Author Hopeless Girl Posted May 3, 2011 Author Posted May 3, 2011 he stills talks to my sister.. i dont mean in chat or anything but he comments on her status and sends her stuff and they only met twice. Never had a conversation in person nor hung out. It doesnt bother me but why?
coltsfan1 Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 true feelings never go away they just change. I miss my ex everyday but we aren't heading in the same direction. If or when she speaks to me since I will never approach her i am almost positive I will have to fight the urge to see where it would go, especially if I am still single. But you have to stop thinking about it and try to just do things for you. I know it seems easy for me to say but trust me in time things will get better, it took 9 solid months and me cutting some people out to get me here. Piece of advice, listen to the other gals on here. Pene, grace, Fufu and a few others will give you very good guidance. They know, trust me.
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