makelemonade1974 Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 I'm a little over the online dating website thing. Blind dates are just not so much fun. I've always met boyfriends, etc. more organically - you run into each other in a coffee shop, meet at a party, etc. That way the physical attraction thing is taken care of right away - I'm not peering at pictures trying to figure out what they really look like. The thing is, my social life usually revolves around work and / or work events, and I don't want to date somebody I work with. Do ya'll have any suggestions as to where I might meet men - what sorts of activities / situations?
Fondue Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 I could distinctly remember that you (or I guess, someone with your avatar) were going to spend some hot romantic weekend with some dood (who also seemed to reject your "oral advances" at one point). What happened with that? As far as meeting guys, I think any local "club" of some sort will have men around your age. Volunteer places, too...
Darren Taylor Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Best bet is to look at your own interests. Your places of interests have to have some men, no?
Author makelemonade1974 Posted May 1, 2011 Author Posted May 1, 2011 Fondue - well, let's just say I decided that maybe I decided that I was dating him for the wrong reasons - because he was so nice and so different than my ex-boyfriend. He was a bit older than I usually go for, and I found out later that we weren't particularly sexually compatible. He has anxiety issues about sex, he lives far away, we're very different, etc. etc. it didn't work out.
nyc_guy2003 Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Depending on where you live, volunteer work can be a good social scene. Here in NYC there are a gazillion volunteer avenues to choose from and you can generally meet a lot of upstanding young people doing it. Something like Habitat for Humanity, New York Cares, Toastmasters, etc. gives you the chance to work alongside other (young, single, eligible) volunteers as opposed to just sending you out in the field by yourself.
EasyHeart Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Do ya'll have any suggestions as to where I might meet men - what sorts of activities / situations? The Top Ten Best Places to Meet Men 10. Coffee shops 9. Grocery stores 8. Political campaigns/events 7. Concerts in the park 6. Through friends 5. Civic or Charitable groups 4. The gym 3. Bookstores/Book readings 2. Any school function (those things are meat markets!!!) And the No. 1 Best Place to Meet Men . . . 1. In my living room! ywia
oaks Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Do ya'll have any suggestions as to where I might meet men Well, tomorrow I'll be at... but anyway, what sports or activity things do you like? Now that spring is here (if you're on the top bit of the planet) then it could be a good time to learn a new outdoor sport. Archery, rock climbing, hiking, cycling etc all seem to have plenty of men involved.
Urban Crusader Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 The local highschool ^^. Just avoid those police
Sunstar Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 On the bus, in trains...pretty much every public transit hub. If you don't make use of public transit then that's probably not such a very convenient idea though.
Jynxx Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 The Top Ten Best Places to Meet Men 10. Coffee shops 9. Grocery stores 8. Political campaigns/events 7. Concerts in the park 6. Through friends 5. Civic or Charitable groups 4. The gym 3. Bookstores/Book readings 2. Any school function (those things are meat markets!!!) And the No. 1 Best Place to Meet Men . . . 1. In my living room! ywia What about a random bar in the weekends?
Cee Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Met my guy at a weekly meetup group called Drinking Liberally. Google it, they have chapters all over. We still go to the meetup as a couple. I hate to think who would get custody of the group if we broke up. [shudder]
TouchedByViolet Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 #1 - Rock climbing gym Or any Co-Ed sports team. You will stay physically fit, feel better with the endorphins firing, and meet a lot of new people.
CambridgeGirl Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 its impossible to meet people organically in many places now. In gyms its uncool to chat to strangers, nobody does it at any I see in London, or on trains, or shops, or grocery stores. How us Brits ever make babies beats me. If you don't meet them at uni or work early on, options get lower. Then you get the web which is full of people obsessed with the fact they are single but who mainly are looking for the impossible and don't even know who they are themselves. I guess sports clubs or evening classes are one way, or get a part time job in a bar!
Confusedalways Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 I feel so fortunate that I was able to meet my boyfriend 'randomly' because outside of college, I feel like it's so difficult to find eligible guys. I'd say your very best bet would be meeting a guy through friends, or definitely a co ed sport. Other than that, I know when I was a single I had a super hard time seeing or meeting guys at your every day places, like grocery stores and banks, where a lot of women seem to find a lot of luck. Then again, you look very pretty, so who knows! I don't see what's wrong with leaving online dating as another option too, though
thebody Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 I really like chatting it up in the gym... If I have a bar with 270lbs on it, maybe that particular time would be reserved, but... I like talking between sets. Us BB'ers like to be looked at too. Makes us think we're doing something right. Honestly I wish more people would chat in the gym occasionally... If I'm on the treadmill or something... I'll walk for a while so I can breathe enough to chat.
Noor Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 (edited) Are you looking for a short term relationship or serious relationship ? if you want serious relationship, i would say that, seek for a true love and it is not depend on the physical attraction. it is depend on the soul attraction. even if it was a far distance between you and him. you need time to feel love and to be loved, then you may get a good relationship. if that what you want, you may seek for a man, even online who can talk, chat and write even a post letter without being Obsessed with having sex at once. Edited May 2, 2011 by Noor
zengirl Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 It's funny---the most recent guy I messaged on OKC, I've actually seen out and about several times. This happens a lot with me, where a lot of the people I'd date online in this particular city are folks I'd see out and about (but not necessarily get to know well) anyway. I saw him recently at a rather large meetup for the local art scene (it's a meetup group, but over 100 people attended, so it's not like you meet them all). Lately I've met men: in a writers' club, at a local pub/bar for trivia (that's actually quite a good one if you're willing to chat with strangers and combine teams), outside of a theatre before a local play, and I'm sure you can meet loads of fellows at athletic things, but I get my exercise via yoga or running on the treadmill in my house usually, so not my cuppa. I did meet a man at disc golf once, and I take my roommate's pups to the dog park sometimes. Lots of cute guys there! The biggest problem in public is not knowing if someone is single. So, it's good if it's a weekly event or something where you'll see them regularly.
lovingADove Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Take dance lessons ... (Salsa, east coast, west coast, ...). Go on dancing congresses or dancing cruises ... plenty and plenty of ways ... but, the competition in those places is really tough ...
thehead Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 #1 - Rock climbing gym Or any Co-Ed sports team. You will stay physically fit, feel better with the endorphins firing, and meet a lot of new people. Ive met so many women this way (coed soccer). Some Ive dated others are just friends through whom Imet yet more women to date. Theres a big social aspect to this kind of play. The game is almost a formality to going out afterward.
rocketboy9 Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Frankly I dont have an answer for you because I am the other side looking to meet women! I have been told not to talk to them at the gym as they are plugged into their iPod, not at supermarkets, bookstores, etc... Frankly I have no idea where you are supposed to go to meet women organically as someone mentioned. Also realize its up to the woman to give the guy the green light that its ok to chat you up. Most women I encounter have what I call the 10000 yard stare on, they look right through you like you dont exist. Most are hard looking and playing with their phone. No guy in their right mind is going to approach you when you have the attitude going on.
Limin Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 (edited) Do you like pets? Buy a dog. Walk around the city eg pub places, harbor, any popular places. You get the idea! Edited May 2, 2011 by Limin
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