tb24 Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 I met this wonderful girl on OkCupid last sunday. Since then we've chatted on MSN every night. I met her on friday. Because it was online, I met her and some of her friends at a pub she invited me to. Apparently her friends liked me, she told me after . They left us alone for most of the evening, after deciding I wasn't a stalker or murderer I guess. During the night we kissed a couple of times and I spent most of the evening with my arm around her. She invited me out again on saturday to a club. We stayed out until 7am, kissed and cuddled quite a bit. And said about doing something next weekend, and I'm sure we'll talk on MSN/the phone between now and then. From some of the stuff she's said, I get the impression she's been hurt before and very wary of guys just being after sex so I'm happy to take that slow, but in past relationships I've made it official after having sex a few times. I really like her, we get on well and I can tell she really likes me. Is it too soon for me to ask her to be my girlfriend when I see her next week, after knowing her a total of 2 weeks? She's actually said to me that the reason she's on a dating site is for a boyfriend and not just casual dating. She's also said she's not seeing anyone else... and neither am I. Is it too soon? Should I wait? I know I want her to be my girlfriend but don't want to scare her away by coming on too strong.
Nathan Drake Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 I dont think there is any hard and fast rule before proposing that. It's all situational. I would say after 4 or so dates that that would be your next step but who knows, maybe thats just my thought process. I will say that 2 weeks isnt a long time to get to know someone tho, but again, my opinion.
Author tb24 Posted May 1, 2011 Author Posted May 1, 2011 Well you say that, but we've spoken online for many many hours. Probably about 4 hours+ a day (and pretty much the entire day monday) for the last week. So I feel like I know her quite well.
Nathan Drake Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Well you say that, but we've spoken online for many many hours. Probably about 4 hours+ a day (and pretty much the entire day monday) for the last week. So I feel like I know her quite well. Oh, well then maybe you do, i dont know your interaction level. Like i said man, its all situational, if you feel you are comfortable with each other then yea man, dating is the next logical step. Some couples get there much fast than others, you may be in that former category.
Professor X Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 I never believed in putting everything in drawers. As far as real life goes, titles mean exactly NaDa. However, I can understand why you want this, you want some reassurance, some false sense of security, why do I say false? because lets face it, even if she will calls you her BF, that won't guarantee you that she will be loyal to you. Well, I think you should trust your instincts, you've said she is looking for something more serious, she isn't playing around - this alone should be more than enough for you, especially since you know her for merely 2 weeks. I suggest you do stuff to show her that you want only her, i.e. close your dating profile, show a lot of interest in her life, etc, etc. Actions, my friends, speak louder than words.
Nathan Drake Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 I never believed in putting everything in drawers. As far as real life goes, titles mean exactly NaDa. However, I can understand why you want this, you want some reassurance, some false sense of security, why do I say false? because lets face it, even if she will calls you her BF, that won't guarantee you that she will be loyal to you. Well, I think you should trust your instincts, you've said she is looking for something more serious, she isn't playing around - this alone should be more than enough for you, especially since you know her for merely 2 weeks. I suggest you do stuff to show her that you want only her, i.e. close your dating profile, show a lot of interest in her life, etc, etc. Actions, my friends, speak louder than words. Spoken like the true Charles Xavier. Listen to this guy ^^^^
CambridgeGirl Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Pass the handbrake... Few more weeks maybe? Get to know each other first would be my advice, you have time to be relaxed about it. Sounds very promising, exciting times, she has been hurt so will appreciate you being attentive without pressure after a few dates
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