someone234 Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 My boyfriend has a child and his child is his first priority. That's okay with me and I don't really have a problem with that. However, he expects me to put his first. For example, If i cancel a date, I'm not making the relationship a priority and I'm a bad girlfriend. However, if he does that I should be cool with that, and I am. Another example, last thanksgiving, his daughter spent the holiday with her mother leaving him alone. I had plans to visit my family without him (only time my whole family gets together, I wasn't going to miss it). He was angry that I wouldn't skip it and he didn't want to pay for the plan costs. However, when his daughter spent christmas with him, I was suppose to just disappear. Don't get me wrong, I'm cool with it and didn't say anything about it, but it's just a double standard.
zengirl Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Him being angry you saw your family at Thanksgiving is pretty crappy. I do think that the reason dates are cancelled matter (i.e. "I'm washing my hair" (downright lame) is not the same as "I'm going out with my friends" (understandable if it's a reasonable portion of the time for not making plans but never a reason to cancel plans) is not the same as "I've got my daughter tonight (unexpectedly)" (a reasonable reason to cancel plans, but still frustrating). But he just sounds like he doesn't care about any of the other priorities in your life. Your family is a reasonable priority.
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