mo mo Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 The solutions to the majority of these relationship issues are simple. There are multiple threads on here that detail situations that can be easily solved by people looking in from the outside. The people who are actually in those situations have feelings invested and try their best to rationalize why they are in those situations and/or why they continue to pursue the person in question. The answers I have been giving recently are very blunt and straightforward, and people won't listen to me right away. They'll try to explain the situation a little more so I can "get a better perspective on it". The funny thing is, I'm not the one that needs to be convinced of anything because I have no stock in those situations. If anything, my opinion should trusted over the person who is asking for the advice because I do not have emotions clouding my judgment. The bottom line is that if someone is pursuing someone, and he or she feels insecure or uncomfortable about something, the other person would be trying his or her best to make that person feel better if there is genuine interest. If the other person is interested in the pursuer but is emotionally unavailable for whatever reason, nothing anyone can do will change that.
jane100 Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 What I have noticed is that usually other people's problems are pretty clear to see, and so too their solution. I daresay, however, that if I had the same problem, I would be in total confusion and distress and be unable to make any clear decision .
Author mo mo Posted May 1, 2011 Author Posted May 1, 2011 What I have noticed is that usually other people's problems are pretty clear to see, and so too their solution. I daresay, however, that if I had the same problem, I would be in total confusion and distress and be unable to make any clear decision . Yea.. I'm not criticizing anyone for not listening right away, I know that feelings aren't easy to get rid of and all that. I have been in situations recently that were easy to make decisions about but I hung on anyway. I'm just saying that If we really want to give advice, then we shouldn't really show much sympathy for the details people give in the descriptions of their situations. If we really want to seek advice, then we need to stop trying to make excuses for our actions/thoughts and really listen to others.
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