dragonfly22 Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 (edited) My ex-fiance was a very loving and attentive man. He always made me feel like the queen of the world. He is a brilliant person and I learnt a lot from him in our 5 years together. He was always very honest with me and he never mistreated me in any way so I was just sure that he was the man for me. Then 2 weeks ago out of the blue he calls me, tells me he doesn't love me anymore, treats me in the worst way possible (I had NEVER seen him treat anyone that way before) and that was it. He made me feel like he hated me and I was just a waste of his time. I immediately asked him if there was someone else. He said NO throughout the breakup conversations. Everytime we talked he said he only wanted to be single again and date around. I eventually found out there was someone else and asked him. He didn't deny it but didn't accept it either. He has not given me any answers to my questions, has not been honest with me through the breakup and has cut all forms of communication. He even deleted his Facebook profile (no, he didn't block me, he deleted the entire thing). As I never received any answers from him I went through our chat log (we used to chat during the day as we were at work) and everything seemed perfect until late March when I could see some small hints of things not being right (like not saying I love you as often). Well yesterday I remembered I get his phone bills on my e-mail and guess what? I went though them and realized until February he used to send around 300-450 text messages a month, mostly to me. Well March he sent 1000 and April (I also got this one) 1600. So I was right, it all started in March and it took him about a month to decide to throw away 5 years for some new girl. I'm just so devastated. I can't understand how someone thinks their partner is so disposable after 5 years together!! And more than that I'm TERRIFIED that it will happen again! I can honestly say there were no signs about something like this happening through our relationship. Everyone around me is in shock too. I invested 5 years on a relationship with a man who showed me a side of him I had never seen before. It's like he is another person. Now he is just happy he got rid of me (in the worst way) and he has his new girlfriend while I'm here feeling awful and worrying that this will happen again. I just think I won't be able to fully trust again. I did trust him COMPLETELY. He seemed like an amazing man...everyone said I was so lucky to be with him. He proposed in January and 2 months later he meets someone else and leaves??? I know I'll eventually get over him but I just don't know how I will deal with the trust issues in the future. Edited May 1, 2011 by dragonfly22
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