Nathan Drake Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Id like to forward this by saying I appreciate any help I receive. Recently iv developed feelings for the girl that has sat behind me all semester, I never really noticed her until about 2 weeks ago when she said hey to me as I passed her in the hall, later that week, after class she came up to me and told me how well she thought my presentation in class went. I decided to strike up a convo with her the next time I saw her in class, things seemed to go well and we became facebook friends. About a week after our first convo she asked if I'd like to get together and study which I agreed. I felt our study session went great and I felt there was a connection. All the "symptoms" of a connection seemed to be there. Light touching, laughing etc. After our study session I invited her to drinks after exams ended to which she seemed to excitedly agree to. Here's where I begin to freak out... I sent her a message via Facebook asking if shed like to come hang out with me and some friends, which she said she couldn't because she had to study but that we should make plans to do something after exams ended, I agreed and her reply is what has thrown me into a complete tizzy. She replied saying that she 'hoped we'd run into each other on campus.' Now IMO, that is code for "don't call me, I'll call you". My friends say Im just being emo and over analyzing it but I feel that phrase was very deliberate. Any input?
Professor X Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 I think your friend is right and that you are over analyzing it. Just go with the flow with this one; See how it goes, let the days pass, chat with her as you always did, wait for after the exams, then grab her and go do something spontaneous if you haven't made any solid plans by then. That's what I did with one of my exes, don't think I could of done it any better.
Author Nathan Drake Posted May 1, 2011 Author Posted May 1, 2011 Yea thats what i plan to do. Ill give her a ring later this week after exams and see if she'd like to make plans for the weekend and go from there. If she turns me down then ill know that line was deliberate.
CambridgeGirl Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Hmmm, she excitedly agreed to see you. You then ask her to go hang out with your friends. maybe she wanted a date 1-2-1 style? I can totally see why she might back off if so. I may be wrong, just a thought. But if when you first asked her you said as a group and she was excited then Ok. If you inferred not as a group then maybe I am onto something. The door is still open though, wait a little bit, invite her out for something very casual with just you, and see what reaction you get... Reading women isn't easy hey
Author Nathan Drake Posted May 1, 2011 Author Posted May 1, 2011 Hmmm, she excitedly agreed to see you. You then ask her to go hang out with your friends. maybe she wanted a date 1-2-1 style? I can totally see why she might back off if so. I may be wrong, just a thought. But if when you first asked her you said as a group and she was excited then Ok. If you inferred not as a group then maybe I am onto something. The door is still open though, wait a little bit, invite her out for something very casual with just you, and see what reaction you get... Reading women isn't easy hey Well the very first time i asked her out was after we studied together for the first time, and i asked what her plans were for the summer, she replied that she was going on vacation but only for a week in june and that she'd be around, so i asked if she'd like to do something after exams to which she appeared to excitedly agree to. That was last tuesday i believe. I asked her late last night if she'd like to join me down town for drinks but she said she had to study(which i understand, i mean my sister was doing the same thing at the time). Right after she told me that she messaged me via facebook saying we should plan to do something after exams, i told her i was way ahead of her and then she dropped the line about hoping to bump into me on campus. That one line is what has me going nuts. I dont understand why she'd use that 'dont call me, ill call you' type line.
CambridgeGirl Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 You are seriously over thinking, she is being cool and breezy, try being the same! Her response is healthy, not a rejection. Take a deep breath, pause, realise you are looking for negatives and stop! just be lovely and cool and she will want to see you. You can't rush things before they even begin, stop tying yourself in knots. Patience...
Author Nathan Drake Posted May 1, 2011 Author Posted May 1, 2011 You are seriously over thinking, she is being cool and breezy, try being the same! Her response is healthy, not a rejection. Take a deep breath, pause, realise you are looking for negatives and stop! just be lovely and cool and she will want to see you. You can't rush things before they even begin, stop tying yourself in knots. Patience... Haha thanks, you sound like all of my friends. I think maybe this is a destructive tendency i have. Iv been close so many times in the past that i feel that nothing positive could ever happen so i some how self consciencely make sure nothing happens. I woke up this morning with all intents and purposes to not contact her after exams. I think ill do just the opposite sometime next week.
CambridgeGirl Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Daft. Not contacting her is ridiculous. behave yourself. Send her a friendly message next week asking her how things are going, thats all, just check in, be nice, nothing weird, and leave it at that. When she replies, keep cool and don't go all CSI over her response!
Author Nathan Drake Posted May 1, 2011 Author Posted May 1, 2011 Again, thanks for the help. I appreciate it.
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