No_hope Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 I was together with my ex for 2 years, he broke up with me 6 weeks before our wedding, we have a 14 month old together, our break up was 4 months ago. When he broke up with me (over a text) he also broke up with our son, he never tries to come see him, every time I try getting them together he blows him off, well I found out a few months before the break up he got heavily into drugs, and about 2 months before the break up he was dating another woman. 2 months after the break up the other woman broke up with him, he went all depressed, and now he is dating someone else that lives a few hours away! so I keep thinking... girl number 1) cheated on him, put him down, told him he was a **** up etc. girl number 2) lives hours away and they can't hardly ever see each other. but I'm right here! I would never put him down, would never cheat on him, and I helped him through a drug problem already and I would be willing to do it again. Everyone in his family says he will regret it, but probably wont be for a year or two. anyways, I am all shooken up he is dating all these other girls, he is doing drugs, and he wont even see our son (he was a REALLY good dad before all this happened) I recently started dating an old friend, and he has been really supportive through all this, and he is really understand. Like when ever he makes future events and I say "yeah that will be fun if we are still together" and he is like "what makes you think we wont" and then I'll say "I don't know.." and then he goes "It's okay, I understand, you were let down too many times" I feel really guilty that I am still all jealous even though I am with a really great guy. So why is he dating girls like this? And why do I keep letting it get to me? not to mention the 2 girls are really.... slutty (and I'm not just saying that).
TaraMaiden Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 ........ So why is he dating girls like this? It doesn't matter what he's doing, because he's not with you any more. You're not with him any more. it's over, and what he does is his business, and his schyt to deal with. Whatever happens, he's the one who has to face - and live with - the consequences. And why do I keep letting it get to me? Because you were together a while, had a kid, and he's been a huge part of your life. But right now, you owe it to yourself and your son, to look to your future and your safety, your well-being and your serenity. Your son, in particular, needs love, a strong foot-hold and stability. He needs to grow, knowing he can rely on you to bring him up well, and even though his father has shown himself to be a complete jerk and a loser, you have a guy next to you who has taken you, "pack and baggage" as a whole deal. He's obviously dedicated to you, and so, i would think, your son. He seems to be a better father-figure and a wonderful influence, so concentrate on the treasure you have before you, and not the huge mess that thankfully, is behind you. And really - count your blessings that you're not posting this as a married woman - married to that idiot, and desperate and frantic to get out of a disastrous marriage. You're free to do as you wish. So do it, with a positive look forward, not a despairing look backwards. The only one holding up your happiness - is you. Quit self-sabotaging, and live again.
DollyGirl12 Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Unfortunately he's doing it because he wants to . As hard as it may be to accept, you have to live your life for you and your son. Should he come back I would be extremely leery of letting him do the back/forth thing, because that will be a very unhealthy thing for your son to experience. It sounds like he's got some growing up to do. And if he's doing drugs you also don't want that around your child. I have to agree with Tara, be very thankful that you did not marry him.
Fufu Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 You are you. He is He. Why do you want to obsess over his behavior and actions? Focus on yourself.
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