DayAfterDay Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 My ex left me a little over a year ago after being together for three years. We were very friendly in the beginning of the break up and 3 months into the break up it seems that she had a feeling of doubt and came back for a minute, and then she realized she wanted to be friends and "see what happens". After 8 months of off again on again friendship (mostly over the phone/text, I never actually saw her) I finally realized that I wasn't moving on and that she was just hurting me by being my friend and I went no contact and she told me that she still loves me and has a "strong feeling" that we'll be okay being in each other's lives one day, that I'm very dear to her, but she does not have romantic feelings for me anymore. 6 months after going NC I found out she has a boyfriend. This crushed me. I've cried almost every night since I've found out, but this was probably what I needed to TRUELY HONESTLY move on....but I still feel like maybe later down the road in life we can get back together, mostly because our relationship was so wonderful, and she loved me so much at one time...although I know that isn't very possible at all and I can see that she's changing...but I can't seem to COMPLETELY let it go. Any helpful hints?
Author DayAfterDay Posted May 1, 2011 Author Posted May 1, 2011 Whoops. Messed up the title. It's supposed to say "Any helpful advice on accepting that my ex will NOT come back".
Fufu Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 It comes from your mind. I have fully accepted my ex-bf will not be coming back for me. Even though I have no information about my ex-bf, I have accepted my ex-bf has a new girlfriend already and that makes me actually feel more relieved. Because, I will never want to be a third party or to put my love and effort in someone who can change partner like as if they are changing clothes. Remember, your relationship WAS wonderful and not your relationship is wonderful. If she's the one who ended the relationship, she should be the one to realize that break up is not the only path to choose. No matter what, when a relationship truly ended, always move on. You do not want to live in a limbo stage for years, decades and all your life.
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