rocketboy9 Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 As I mentioned in some other threads I asked a woman out and she turned me down and wants to be friends. Okie-dokie, I am down with it. In the last week its gradually got much worse with her increasingly leaning on me emotionally. Wanting to know when she will see me, confiding how she is feeling and so forth. Fortunately she has not discussed other men with me. The other day she sent me an email telling me she couldnt sleep and how all kinds of thoughts and emotions are going through her brain. And for the finale she sent me pictures of her in fairly revealing clothing. Asking how does she look. Ok I am your friend but I dont understand this need she has to be this emotionally intimate with me. Casually friendly - good, whatever this is - bad. I tried talking to her about it and mentioned that its making me squirm. Her answer is why can I be open and honest with her. She than spouted forth that I promised her (which I did) I would never lie to her (which I never have) and tell her how I am feeling. This is all coupled with a desire to keep tabs on where I am and who I am with. She wanted to know what I was doing all weekend and with who. If we are casually friendly I dont understand why you care? Unfortunately for me I do like her on multiple levels which is a problem. As a friend I really do like her because we actually have a deep connection but on the other hand I am very strongly attracted to her and she knows it. I suspect I am going to have to fire her and cut her off because its making me crazy. I wish somebody would drop a brick on my head and put me out of my misery already.
sagetalk Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 This all sounds nice, but what are you going to do when she starts telling you about how she is getting nailed by "Bobby". Then later how "Bobby" is cheating on her and her feelings are hurt because Bobby is a jerk. "Bobby" lies to her, but she's in love with him. Date her or run for your life.
Author rocketboy9 Posted May 1, 2011 Author Posted May 1, 2011 You're not a toy. Don't let yourself be used as one. I am starting to think this is about her ego. Why do women do this?
Art_Critic Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 You're not a toy. Don't let yourself be used as one. Agreed.... She isn't exactly being your friend...
SmileFace Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 I am starting to think this is about her ego. Why do women do this? Because you allow it
Professor X Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Because you allow it Indeed. Choices are simple: Either you shift gear and exit the friendzone or you call her shenanigans off and leave. Think about you for once.
chuckles11 Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 So what exactly do you get out this friendship? Do you tell her about your problems as well?Do you hang out with her outside of work? She gets a male sounding board, but what do you get? What does your deep connection entail?
mortensorchid Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 This woman is not your friend. Friends (real ones at least) do not play ridiculous games like this woman is playing with you. She is looking for her ego to be stroked and likes teasing you. I'd just disappear.
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