Author daisy love Posted May 2, 2011 Author Posted May 2, 2011 Oh Daisy........you come off yourself as UNBELIEVABLY immature and yes naive and very childish when you stomp your feet in a tantrum. I've said it before.........and I'll say it again, your complete and total lack of acknowledging that you might not be in the position of power here that you think you are will cause you to have a long way to fall if things don't pan out as you think they will. Your posts indicate to us that you don't value what you are on the inside and that you think your looks and sex appeal are things of substance and how good you are in the sack are what truly matters in life. You need to grow up hon and look at the reality of the situation you are in. I KNOW the reality of the situation I am in. We live in different cities and neither of us are ready to move right now. BUT, he has been making more time for me than ever. I feel him growing closer and closer to me each time we meet. The wifes tagging along was just a bump in the road and we endured it fine. MORE than fine. Good things come to those who wait and for now, I am happy to wait for the man I love.
Rose1977 Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 GEEZE!!!!! If I didn't come back to update, it would be because some of you are so UNBELIEVEABLY cruel!! If you MUST know.........Wife went to visit friends in Jersey. He stayed with ME!!! I can promise you I am not being UNBELIEVABLY cruel but rather BELIEVABLY sad that any woman would celebrate being someone's second choice. You are sooooo important to him that he could only see you if the wife went to visit friends. Otherwise, he was going to screw you over and not see you this weekend. It's not cruel Daisy, it's your reality.
Author daisy love Posted May 2, 2011 Author Posted May 2, 2011 I can promise you I am not being UNBELIEVABLY cruel but rather BELIEVABLY sad that any woman would celebrate being someone's second choice. You are sooooo important to him that he could only see you if the wife went to visit friends. Otherwise, he was going to screw you over and not see you this weekend. It's not cruel Daisy, it's your reality. I know that I am not his second choice. He shows me in his actions and words that I am his first love and only love. If he was like other married men, he could have not told me he was coming to the City at all. He could have made excuses why he couldn't see me. He could have said anything!! BUT he told me the truth!! He told me it was too sudden for him to get out of it. AND he promised me that he would do what he could to see me, and guess what??? He DID! I won't post details for all of you to bash and pick apart. I know now that doing so would be very dangerous for me to do. It's such a shame since this is the forum for Other Women.
26pointblue Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 I know that I am not his second choice. He shows me in his actions and words that I am his first love and only love. If he was like other married men, he could have not told me he was coming to the City at all. He could have made excuses why he couldn't see me. He could have said anything!! BUT he told me the truth!! He told me it was too sudden for him to get out of it. AND he promised me that he would do what he could to see me, and guess what??? He DID! I won't post details for all of you to bash and pick apart. I know now that doing so would be very dangerous for me to do. It's such a shame since this is the forum for Other Women. But he would have been with his wife over you had she really tagged along. So you WERE his second choice. I WAS an Other Woman & am still very much tied up in that & I just don't understand your thinking about this at all. I think you don't want to admit you're his second choice. Which is fine but that's what everyone is trying to get you to see -- some in a mean way, which is uncalled for, & others just out of concern.
Rose1977 Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 I know that I am not his second choice. He shows me in his actions and words that I am his first love and only love. If he was like other married men, he could have not told me he was coming to the City at all. He could have made excuses why he couldn't see me. He could have said anything!! BUT he told me the truth!! He told me it was too sudden for him to get out of it. AND he promised me that he would do what he could to see me, and guess what??? He DID! I won't post details for all of you to bash and pick apart. I know now that doing so would be very dangerous for me to do. It's such a shame since this is the forum for Other Women. He told you he could not see you this weekend b/c his wife was with him!!!! Only after she took off to Jersey did he agree to see you. That makes you second choice any way you look at it. Re: The second bolded, are you serious? You ask for "protection" on internet forums, you talk about things being "dangerous". I have never met a rational adult that talks like this. Re: The third bolded Not ONE OW here has told you anything different than anyone else. They have all told you you are being played. You probably don't even realize half of them that answer you are OW because you believe everyone who does not agree with you hates you for being in love with a married man. Your words not mine.
Author daisy love Posted May 2, 2011 Author Posted May 2, 2011 He told you he could not see you this weekend b/c his wife was with him!!!! Only after she took off to Jersey did he agree to see you. That makes you second choice any way you look at it. Re: The second bolded, are you serious? You ask for "protection" on internet forums, you talk about things being "dangerous". I have never met a rational adult that talks like this. Re: The third bolded Not ONE OW here has told you anything different than anyone else. They have all told you you are being played. You probably don't even realize half of them that answer you are OW because you believe everyone who does not agree with you hates you for being in love with a married man. Your words not mine. Thank you for making my point.
Author daisy love Posted May 2, 2011 Author Posted May 2, 2011 But he would have been with his wife over you had she really tagged along. So you WERE his second choice. I WAS an Other Woman & am still very much tied up in that & I just don't understand your thinking about this at all. I think you don't want to admit you're his second choice. Which is fine but that's what everyone is trying to get you to see -- some in a mean way, which is uncalled for, & others just out of concern. Not OVER me, no. It was not his choice for her to join him, obviously!! Had she tagged along, he would have found a way to see me. If he couldn't find a way to see me, he would have made it up to me another time.
Rose1977 Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Thank you for making my point. Um, I haven't the first clue what you are talking about, but glad I could help.
26pointblue Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Not OVER me, no. It was not his choice for her to join him, obviously!! Had she tagged along, he would have found a way to see me. If he couldn't find a way to see me, he would have made it up to me another time. That still means that what his wife wants is his first choice that he will honor over what you want & what he says he wants. You're trying to argue that the earth is flat and you just can't win an argument like that. If you're trying to convince yourself, fine, but there's nothing about your argument that could convince anyone that you are his first choice. Because it's just not true & I hate to see you deluding yourself like this - at least accept the reality of your situation as it is. Or if you want to live in denial fine but don't expect anyone else to not point out that your argument is illogical.
whichwayisup Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 I know that I am not his second choice. He shows me in his actions and words that I am his first love and only love. If he was like other married men, he could have not told me he was coming to the City at all. He could have made excuses why he couldn't see me. He could have said anything!! BUT he told me the truth!! He told me it was too sudden for him to get out of it. AND he promised me that he would do what he could to see me, and guess what??? He DID! I won't post details for all of you to bash and pick apart. I know now that doing so would be very dangerous for me to do. It's such a shame since this is the forum for Other Women. Bolded part...if you were his only love, he'd be divorced and with you now. Aww Daisy, you follow your heart, you're inlove.. But because you two live in different places, it makes it harder. So you have faith and full trust in him, good for you, but you have no idea how many OW have been in your position and SO SURE their MM is about to leave..And they don't. He is giving you bits and pieces of him and you're eating it up. He isn't looking to leave his marriage, he's totally happy having you as the OW and on the side..Just an affair. Sure he may love you..Alot! But, not enough to change his whole life and be with you. But, if you're happy that's good. Enjoy this ride for however long it lasts. Good luck.. PS Just so you know, I don't kick people when they're down. If things don't work out, you'd be very surprised how many people would support you and help you through the saddness of losing him.
bentnotbroken Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Yea I guess if you are just a fk buddy it doesn't matter how trashy you look. If you're not trying to win his heart. I know I won my man by not being out there by being a lady and having couth. I already know I'm better than the wife but that's not my call nor does it matter. SHe may behave and have couth. Good to know that I guess. How you know that is well....
26pointblue Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Are you even for Real? Grow Up! Amen. After having the interesting opportunity to read many of Daisy's posts I'm beginning to think she's either a troll here to stir things up ['lover man?' seriously?] or she is all of 16 years old ['Be happy for me because I'm clearly his first choice- okaaaaay...']. I feel bad for her, thinking about chasing her xMM while he"s in 'the City' with his wife. I sure have done & thought about doing some stupid things & I really tried my best to understand where she's coming from but it"s starting to sound like a soap opera in its last season. Time to change the channel! If this is fake, I don't want to waste my energy in caring anymore & if it's real, I don't want to watch the trainwreck . . . I am already in my own trainwreck! PS to Frozensprouts- thank you for the compliment.:-)
Leelou Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 If he was like other married men, he could have not told me he was coming to the City at all. He could have made excuses why he couldn't see me. He could have said anything!! BUT he told me the truth!! No, not correct. MM lie to their wives and tell the truth to their AP. That's the norm, unless of course, he is seeing yet another OW and has to lie to her to cover his cheating tracks. It's really nothing special that he tells you the truth about his wife coming with him on his trip. That's what the MM do, they tell the OW everything so she can be more 'understanding' of 'his situation' -- it works in his favor.
Rose1977 Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Regarding the original post here... How did he NOT KNOW his wife was coming with him? Daisy, it wasn't last minute. He lives on the West Coast, you live in NY. She didn't just hop in a car and catch a last minute cross country flight with him. Have you TRIED to book a flight recently, much less last minute? My apologies for doubting YOUR MAN'S story. I guess if they flew in on his private jet, your story is very believable.
herenow Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 Regarding the original post here... How did he NOT KNOW his wife was coming with him? Daisy, it wasn't last minute. He lives on the West Coast, you live in NY. She didn't just hop in a car and catch a last minute cross country flight with him. Have you TRIED to book a flight recently, much less last minute? My apologies for doubting YOUR MAN'S story. I guess if they flew in on his private jet, your story is very believable. No private jet. Just a bicycle built for two. Daisy, Daisy give me your answer do. I'm half crazy all for the love of you. It won't be a stylish marriage, I can't afford a carriage. But you'll look sweet, Upon the seat, Of a bicycle made for two.
Author daisy love Posted May 3, 2011 Author Posted May 3, 2011 It's relatively simple to spot when someone posts things that are intentionally controversial and designed to "pick a fight"...and don't post any true "support" or "advice". When someone drops a barbed comment on a forum that they know will be and inciting heated responses from others...and then jumps in and throws gas on the fire with their follow up rejoinders...and pretty much does nothing else...it becomes obvious after a while what their intent is. I have given advice to others. You might not have agreed with my advice, but that doesn't mean I haven't given it.
Author daisy love Posted May 3, 2011 Author Posted May 3, 2011 Part I bolded. For sure. Daisy should watch Dr Phil today. Yes, I agree. She seems to be looking for some sort of validation or acceptance from strangers on an internet forum. People who she doesn't know.. Makes me wonder, other than her "BFF" (which to me, is a young teen term, I don't know of any adult calling their closest friend, a BFF. BF, yes, but not BFF) she doesn't have many friends in her life that are supportive of her having an affair with a MM so maybe that's why she's here to gain that validation from people on here. OMIGOSH! Who has time to sit around watching Dr. Phil?
herenow Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 OMIGOSH! Who has time to sit around watching Dr. Phil? If you have time to sit around posting on LS, you have time to watch Dr. Phil. The only reason I am here today is because I have the time. However, seems like my time is being wasted on your "entertaining" threads. So, time to go do something constructive. Herenow out. Oh, and I'm so happy you are happy and I believe that some affairs work out.
whichwayisup Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 OMIGOSH! Who has time to sit around watching Dr. Phil? Well, you have time to post on here, so what's an hour of your busy day to relax and watch TV? Okay, let me ask you a question. What would you do if MM broke up with you and told you he changed his mind, he doesn't want an affair anymore. Would you accept that? Respect his decision? Or would you do everything possible to try to keep him for yourself?
Author daisy love Posted May 3, 2011 Author Posted May 3, 2011 Well, you have time to post on here, so what's an hour of your busy day to relax and watch TV? Okay, let me ask you a question. What would you do if MM broke up with you and told you he changed his mind, he doesn't want an affair anymore. Would you accept that? Respect his decision? Or would you do everything possible to try to keep him for yourself? I don't have time like most to spend all day on here!! I really don't think he would ever say that because he loves me. If he did, I would be very upset. I would be sad for him too if he decided to stay with something he isn't happy with.
Irishlove Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 I call my BFF (my best friend) and I'm almost forty. lol But I'm a dork. I'm also going to watch Dr.Phil if I can get my children to watch a movie. I would have to disagree with calling the OP a troll just because she's looking for support. I think what she was going to do was childish. If the young ones come here than us older ones can share our experiences and hopefully they will learn. KWIM?
OWoman Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 867-5309 yeah, okay! Please explain? Is this your phone no?
vsmini Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 I don't have time like most to spend all day on here!! I really don't think he would ever say that because he loves me. If he did, I would be very upset. I would be sad for him too if he decided to stay with something he isn't happy with. You say the two of you aren't ready to move yet. If this was true, all consuming, can't live with out each other love then why hasn't he left his wife yet? Don't tell me "it's complicated" it never is complicated. A man will clear his life and schedule for a woman he is truly in love with and not let anything stand in the way. That wife would have been history by now if what you say is really true. And please don't tell me that his having kids complicates things as well....because then you're seeing a man that's cheating on his wife with kids and that is also despicable and no self-respecting woman would be fooling around with family. Hell no.
Lucky_One Posted May 7, 2011 Posted May 7, 2011 You say the two of you aren't ready to move yet. If this was true, all consuming, can't live with out each other love then why hasn't he left his wife yet? Don't tell me "it's complicated" it never is complicated. A man will clear his life and schedule for a woman he is truly in love with and not let anything stand in the way. That wife would have been history by now if what you say is really true. And please don't tell me that his having kids complicates things as well....because then you're seeing a man that's cheating on his wife with kids and that is also despicable and no self-respecting woman would be fooling around with family. Hell no. No. He hasn't left for the last year because it has taken him a year to move and hide marital assets from his wife, because Daisy says the wife isn't able to handle money well. This way, the MM can hide all the money and then be able to provide Daisy with the lifestyle that she deserves. He's supposed to be leaving any time now, though.
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